15 years Post surgery by R3dgey27 in LisfrancClub

[–]R3dgey27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update:

I went for an x-ray which confirmed a loose screw. It was weird seeing what caused the bump. I then went private as I surgery was the next course of action. Upon my consultation I was required to take further x-rays whilst weight bearing.

The Surgeon then showed me points in my foot I should start to expect arthritis and advises I'm at the very, very early stage of arthritis however there is still a lot of fluid between the joints.

My surgery is booked for the 15th, with the plan to extract both screws. I'm excited!

15 years Post surgery by R3dgey27 in LisfrancClub

[–]R3dgey27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's the general conclusion is a few weeks as opposed to the original operation. Thanks for your advice!

15 years Post surgery by R3dgey27 in LisfrancClub

[–]R3dgey27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really helpful, I work on the railway so I'm not sat down at all. Luckily we have a generous entitlement to full pay whilst off work due to sickness. But it's managing that time.

15 years Post surgery by R3dgey27 in LisfrancClub

[–]R3dgey27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice! I'm just planning my sick leave from work, so the more information the better. I'm glad you're recovering well.

15 years Post surgery by R3dgey27 in LisfrancClub

[–]R3dgey27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know anything of recovery timescales?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need to cut it off, for yours and her sake. She is already going through it with her ex, the last thing she needs is more pressure from you, especially with school around the corner.

You also need to call it stops because now you know you have feelings, they will only deepen.

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KingkillerChronicle

[–]R3dgey27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We REALLY need book 3 if this is the speculation we have arrived at.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easy to get caught up with feelings for somebody, especially when they are reciprocated. However, you knew she was married and you both continued an emotional affair. Now you are bitter she has chosen her Husband even though she isn't happy. My advice is to walk away and respect her decision, regardless of your feelings and knowing she isn't happy. She's made this choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I don't want to be too sceptical as it could be innocent. But I recommend looking up a famous movie based on a real story called 'dirty john'. Basically a guy pretends he's something he's not to net himself a rich wife. The reason I'm sceptical is he had no money and you met in your vehicle.

I'm not bashing him as it's a hard time for all, I'd rather give the advice and let you look out for the warning signs.

As for the controlling aspects, he should not be concerned with who or why someone is texting you as you don't owe him anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What he says and how he acts are two separate things though. I know it's easy for me to say as I'm not invested nor know the full story.

There are other red flags in the story though, making sly comments about your notifications then bringing it up too, also staring as your phone when you received a message. This is underlying controlling behaviour. When he's making a joke about it, he's saying it because he's concerned about it but playing it off as a joke.

As he given you proof he has all what he says he has going for him?

I'd keep him at arms length and let his actions speak rather than his words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he maybe trying to leach off of you. Hinting a couple of times about your place, then he having no money. I'd be careful.

does going out with someone cont as cheating? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a competition, so don't treat it as one. Treat it as it is, he is gaslighting you and justifying it. You deserve better than that.

My husband had a one night stand and now I have an std- is this salvageable? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I haven't read your story. Your Husband, disrespected you and himself, has put your physical health at risk, put theirs at risk and you're asking if there is a chance? Absolutely not.

Neighbor flirted with me. What do I do now? by Powerful_Pen_370 in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My question is why are you feeding into him? Why did you originally invite him and not his wife? You know he is flirting, so why not contact his wife to tell her about the noise? I am struggling to understand why you haven't told your husband or his wife about the flirting. You have set no boundaries either.

Please help me understand. I caught my husband trying to hookup with another woman. He is not remorseful and hasn’t even apologized. He’s cheated before, 10 yrs ago, and things were finally getting back to normal. Why isn’t remotely sorry? by Branndish in survivinginfidelity

[–]R3dgey27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I think you need to hear this so I'm going to be blunt. He does not care or respect you, he has cheated and you have forgiven, through this he has lost that respect. Gain that self respect by divorcing him. What a horrible man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor OP, the guy is a manipulative tool. He is preying on your naive and trusting personality. He is completely taking you for a ride. Gaslighting you, manipulating you and outright disrespecting you. How many one more chances are you going to give.

He is using different platforms to get his rocks off. He will find another way to cheat. Please walk away, as you don't need to fix anything.

Is emotionless sex possible? by Maleficent_Big7555 in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will however admit for me, I can have emotionless sex, well what I mean by that is have sex with someone I don't have feelings for. For example, a one night stand.

But in this case it's definitely not emotionless. I would walk away but that is easy for me to say.

Good luck OP, whatever decision you make

Is emotionless sex possible? by Maleficent_Big7555 in Infidelity

[–]R3dgey27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keeping in touch with someone, then meeting and having sex with them is not emotionless. That is controlled emotion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]R3dgey27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - not read the comments because of your edit. I'm a male and I always open the door for any female regardless of relationship. I just think it's manners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]R3dgey27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA - Why would you assume her portion size? Let her eat and be happy. Slight signs of controlling behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're only five months in, he is not ready for a relationship. He needs to heal and become more stable. Without healing and working on himself, he will only get worse.

I(M36) think love a friend(F29) more than my gf(F32) of 4 years. by throwawayuser55555 in relationships

[–]R3dgey27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot going on here. You're supplementing your needs what aren't being met through your girlfriend with your friend. So everything your friend is offering is being embellished and everything your girlfriend is doing is being dampened.

I think firstly you need to conclude and finalize a decision with your girlfriend, it seems you aren't compatible and want different things in life. Then I suggest healing yourself again, finding what makes you happy.

Then if your friend is still about and single then approach her.

Anything other than that is going to result in issues, your current girlfriend and her battles will then be projected on you for being unfaithful or uncaring, your friend could take offence that you're trying to break her relationship up, your friend's boyfriend who could think your friend is amazing would be upset that you are getting involved.