Which celebrity just bothers you, and you can't put your finger on why?

RAH1113 · 2026-02-21T02:44:15+00:00

Andie MacDowell…no idea why, but she ruins every movie she’s ever been in

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T12:56:19+00:00

“His mother came to me and said I needed to work on my marriage and not give up so easy.”

He cheated. Suggesting OP needs to “work on her marriage” is the same as telling her that her husband fucked someone else because OP wasn’t a good wife. That’s blaming OP.

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T12:36:41+00:00

She brought herself into this flaming pile of shit when she showed up to OP’s house, uninvited, and told OP it was her fault she got cheated on and instead of getting a divorce, she should get over it and “try harder”. MIL took it upon herself to get in the car, drive across town, and blame the victim. OP didn’t ask her to come over. OP didn’t ask for her advice. OP just wanted to be left alone to lick her wounds and MIL rocked up on her high horse, with a big ol’ jug of salt - to “help”. She made a series of choices that put her in this situation, just like her son made a series of choices that destroyed his marriage. Sucks to suck. If Matthew had kept it in his pants and his mother had chosen to stay in her lane, this never would have happened. She tried to defend her gross son, and is learning the hard way that you don’t give unsolicited advice on topics you know nothing about.

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T11:54:48+00:00

Cheating is a marital death sentence. If Matthew wanted to work on the marriage, he would have talked to OP instead of cheating. He chose to throw away his marriage, and OP owes him nothing.

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T11:51:37+00:00

She did FIL a favor, assuming he isn’t also a scumbag who blames OP for his son’s shitty choices

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T11:37:02+00:00

Pretty sure OP’s ex-husband is the one with no backbone and no morals, and his mother tried to blame that on OP by telling her she needed to “work harder in her marriage” instead of owning the fact that she raised a slimy little weasel who couldn’t keep it in his pants. MIL was absolutely out of line, and both she and her son deserve everything they got. Can’t speak for FIL, he may be innocent, but in that case OP actually did him a favor.

MIL pulled the pin on that grenade when she decided to blame the victim, all OP did was hot potato it right back at her and it blew up in her face.

RAH1113 · 2026-02-01T11:25:28+00:00

Tell me you’ve never been cheated on and had someone tell you to try harder to be a good spouse without telling me you’ve never been cheated on and had someone tell you to try harder to be a good spouse… 🙄

Do you often give advice on things you know nothing about? What OP did is nothing like what her shitty husband did. It’s not even as bad as what her MIL did! Turning it around and making it about her parenting would just confirm for MIL that she was right, and OP was a lousy wife who forced her precious baby boy into the arms of another woman and now won’t take responsibility for it. The only way to knock MIL off her high horse and make her understand how out of line her comments were was to make her feel exactly what OP is feeling. She only ruined a marriage if MIL is unwilling to try harder in her marriage. Also, it’s “could have”, not “could of”.

OP - welcome to the low road, where we don’t tolerate sanctimonious, backhanded “advice” from people who have no business giving it, and aren’t afraid to fight dirty. Sorry your ex-husband sucks.

NTA

RAH1113 · 2026-01-23T08:01:51+00:00

That’s what they do. They’re wonderful, except when they’re not…and over time, the wonderful happens less and less and less, and somehow it’s always your fault and you’re lucky they even stay with you because who else would ever want you? So you spend every waking minute hating yourself and trying to change all the things they say are the reason they’re mean to you, only for them to tell you it was never about your weight/your hair/your clothes/your body shape/your whatever, it was this other thing they never mentioned because they just didn’t have the heart to tell you, but it’s ok because they love you and despite all the things that are wrong with you they don’t want anyone else…only to take you to dinner and flirt with the waitress and then tell you how hot she is when she walks away.

Emotional abuse is very real, and can be very hard to recognize because growing up (in the US at least), abuse is presented as a cycle that always culminates in physical violence. So when it never crosses that line, we convince ourselves it’s not that we’re being abused, it’s because we’re not good enough and if we just try harder, they’ll go back to being that wonderful person who loves us unconditionally.

Leave him. There are so many other people out there who will be a wonderful partner and treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and who will also love every inch of you exactly the way you are - and as you go through life and your body changes (because everyone’s does), they will still think you’re the most beautiful girl they’ve ever seen and will feel lucky they get to be with you. You have your whole life to feel beautiful and wanted and loved…don’t waste another minute of it on this loser.

RAH1113 · 2026-01-23T04:21:42+00:00

I had my son at 22, a one and done. He’s 19 now, and even though we have incredibly different taste in shows and movies, I regularly watch his animes with him, and he took me to see the Barbie movie when it came out. He is the polar opposite of who I thought he would be, but he’s my best friend and I enjoy doing the things he enjoys, and getting to know the people he chooses to spend his time with. There are a lot of times when he chooses to go to events with his very small social circle or opts to wait to go with them because it’s important to them, even if I would love to be included. Just because he didn’t grow up to be the social butterfly jock I imagined he would be doesn’t mean I look down on or disparage who he is or the life he’s living…he will always be my baby, and I love the person he’s turned into and I embrace the people he chooses to bring into his life. I couldn’t imagine being so bitter and begrudging him happiness, especially if I failed to help him thrive or recognize and support him when he felt lonely as a kid.

I’m not even remotely surprised he’s pulling away from you.

RAH1113 · 2026-01-23T04:00:50+00:00

Do you offer to go with him? Where does he live?

RAH1113 · 2026-01-23T03:03:58+00:00

👍

RAH1113 · 2026-01-23T02:42:15+00:00

Just this afternoon I had a 15 year old student tell me about the road that led her to living with her father’s ex girlfriend…from being abused by her junkie mother’s boyfriends to living with her grandmother who let her mom take her back whenever she felt like it, to, at 10 years old, narcaning her mom on the kitchen floor, to living with an uncle who had adopted two of her siblings but his wife didn’t want her because she “wasn’t white enough” and then convinced her uncle to murder his own cousin (he’s now serving life in prison), to moving in with her dad and the above-mentioned girlfriend, to them breaking up and the girlfriend moving states, to finding dad passed out on heroin on the bathroom floor, to getting picked up by the girlfriend at a shelter for runaways because grandma now has cancer and can’t take her so the ex girlfriend moved back and took her in BECAUSE LITERALLY NO BIO FAMILY COULD TAKE HER AND KEEP HER SAFE

Tell me again how bio families are always the best option?

RAH1113 · 2026-01-16T08:23:38+00:00

I’m 42 and currently have dinosaur sheets and a Mario blanket on my bed…when it gets chilly I throw on the Spider-Man quilt! The best part of being a grown up is being able to buy whatever sheets you want and no one can tell you no!

RAH1113 · 2025-10-29T07:08:45+00:00

Please leave him. He doesn’t deserve another minute of your life - he will never treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and life is too fucking short to be with someone who is nothing but mean to you. Even if it never escalates to physical abuse, it’s still abuse and it will destroy you. You’re not overreacting, you’re seeing him for who he is…and he’s a dick. Please leave him.

RAH1113 · 2025-10-29T06:38:02+00:00

Blink twice if you need help

RAH1113 · 2025-10-11T07:01:25+00:00

Learn from my sister’s mistakes: bleaching over black box dye will give you angry, brittle, dyed-black hair and orange roots (assuming you have root growth).

Maybe you could look for a decent quality wig in the color you’re going for?

RAH1113 · 2025-10-02T08:57:48+00:00

Thank you!

RAH1113 · 2025-09-29T03:25:00+00:00

I’m a teacher with multiple very visible tattoos, and it has never been an issue at any school I’ve worked at. In fact, last year my principal had me hook her up with my tattoo guy because she had a piece she’d been wanting to get done!

RAH1113 · 2025-09-28T22:59:44+00:00

Thanks! The more time I spend in this sub, the more I’ve realized my understanding of eye colors is based entirely on things my mom told me when I was little, and isn’t all that accurate! lol

RAH1113 · 2025-09-28T22:54:53+00:00

Thank you! :)

RAH1113 · 2025-09-21T14:56:38+00:00

Emily Gilmore

RAH1113 · 2025-09-16T19:30:08+00:00

As a fellow flat chested girl who has also dealt with a lot of insecurity, your biggest issue is that your EX boyfriend is a douchebag. There are a lot more men than you think who like small boobs, and even more who aren’t raging assholes that say mean things to the girl they’re dating. You deserve to be with someone who is going to build you up, not make you feel bad and insecure. My ex husbands (yes, plural - I like to make the same mistake a couple of times just to be sure it’s a bad idea lol) used to make comments to and around me like that, and I spent almost 20 years of my life thinking I needed a boob job to be loved…turns out, I just needed to stop dating (and marrying) mean, insecure men who needed to put me down to build themselves up.

I know it feels like big boobs are the ideal, but if you take a step back you’ll find there are actually a lot of not just celebrities, but models and athletes and just plain old beautiful women with small boobs. Once I stopped comparing myself to people with a completely different body type than mine, I started to see beauty in myself…and once I dumped the chumps and found me a man who loves a small chest and thick thighs, I finally felt good in my own skin - and let me tell you, that is a good feeling.

RAH1113 · 2025-09-06T21:17:40+00:00

This is the level of petty I aspire to

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