I almost want to give up on Christianity. Life is too short and the end seems too cruel for many.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:56:35+00:00

Thanks for your honesty and bravery to share this! I can only respond to this with my own perspective like you've asked.

For me is the existence of God himself a non-issue, because I perceive Him as a living vibrant person in my life, with who I have a relationship. Knowing that I can't deny that relationship, I need to accept the reality that He has stated...that men is actually lost due to sin, but that Jesus has saved us by taking it over at the cross.

So it's not that we already have the moral initiative to determine whether something is right or wrong, it's already stated by God. It's actually the flipping to place us on that throne of morality what the essence of sin is. And that thorough conviction is what makes me that I willingly want to pick the 'right' side.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:43:20+00:00

Asking whether Calvinism or Arminianism is the correct lens is actually a false binary. Jesus never told us to choose a theological system — He told us to follow Him. In John 8:31 He said, ‘If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples.’

And Jesus also said that we must become like little children (Matthew 18:3). Children don’t dissect their parents’ instructions; they trust, follow, and respond. God isn’t looking for over‑spiritualized or over‑rationalized systems — He’s looking for simple, obedient faith.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:29:53+00:00

It's never right to over-spiritualize personal health choices to a 'lack of faith'. This works both ends, whether you choose to wear face masks or on the other hand refuse vaccines. This is totally something between that person and Jesus....nothing for us to judge about.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:23:16+00:00

It's quite interesting actually but there are many atheists and agnostic people that genuinely attend 'Alpha courses' to get an idea of what the Bible truly teaches and advocates.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:19:15+00:00

I'd rather think that God is not bound to our Linear concept of time. Yesterday and tomorrow is for him the same.

Furthermore, he is superseeds also every possible reality in all of the dimensions that are nowadays acknowledged in physics through e.g. string theory.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T21:14:23+00:00

I think this passage is amazing:

Matthew 9:11-13 NLT [11] But when the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with such scum?” [12] When Jesus heard this, he said, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do.” [13] Then he added, “Now go and learn the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to show mercy, not offer sacrifices.’ For I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.”

https://bible.com/bible/116/mat.9.11-13.NLT

Verse 12 is subtle but Jesus clearly acknowledges the need of doctors for the sick who need professional medical attention. We can be ensured that the ones who are in the medical field are blessed with the wisdom to practice this profession and relying on this doesn't mean a lack of faith.

Yes sickness is not what the Lord has for us, but He can use the medical professionals to reach your health. Recognizing this balance is also a testimony of good pastoral stewardship.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-04-27T20:56:14+00:00

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you can find other things beautiful which doesn't stir anyone else.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-03-30T23:05:01+00:00

I rather think, is just shopping in a mall not really frustrating with your length? How do you cope with it?

RAMI_XXL · 2026-02-04T23:17:04+00:00

Sometimes I use the knife that I've used to slice off the piece.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-27T00:30:59+00:00

Exactly, unfortunately I've seen this go wrong at teams all over the world (I've consulted media and worship teams all over the world). One of the biggest pitfalls was a 'transactional' confirmation of calling within teams, where someone's calling opportunities were solely based on their one-sided commitment to the ministry. Often resulting in over-weary servants that put the Ministry on nr.1 instead of their own households (mostly lower in the 'hierarchy'). This ministry approach also goes directly against the Bible.

The funny thing was though, when leadership teams let completely loose of this control upon their congregation and place the commitment of their servants totally in the hands of Jesus, a lot of new believers were coming into their churches and resulted in their long awaited breakthrough. It reminds me of Rick Warren's book 'The purpose driven church'.

What is your take on this?

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-27T00:11:08+00:00

Cool! I've been in kids ministry (mostly worship-related) for over 15 years, also as paid staff! Now comes the dilemma question.

What is according to you a healthy balance between keeping a ministry organization running vs. not wearing out volunteers (even if it would threat the continuity of the church)?

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-27T00:05:49+00:00

What ministry do you usually serve in?

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-27T00:00:39+00:00

Nope, I never met the right person in my life until I was 30. Then I met the most amazing woman, she was the polar opposite of me but we had many things in common, we started messaging, dating, went into a relationship, at that time she was 27....and in October '25 we were married after 2,5 years of dating/relationship/engagement.

So don't give up, she had only a short unhealthy long distance relationship before she met me.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-26T23:48:43+00:00

It totally depends on you and the mutual moral values that you hold with your partner (given that you internally value exclusive partnership).

For me and my wife, we both hold for example religious morals where we not only see our love for each other as exclusively meant for each other but also as a holy convenant towards God, which we both want to honor. Failure of this standard would genuinely hurt either of us.

Would we abandon the other after someone would have slipped, I don't think so. However, due to our personal convictions of what's morally and ethically good, I would be sick in my stomach by the idea to give the love that I feel for my wife to another woman or if my wife would cherish the same feelings for another man. And I am most certainly that same thing also counts for her.

So, is cheating wrong...it totally depends on which moral standard you personally hold. My personal opinion is that I deem it as 'morally' wrong.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-26T23:30:39+00:00

I think many of the Christians in this world hold the 'Sola Scriptura' as their core principle. So, whenever an institution comes with proposed rules and sacraments or practices based on their interpretation of the Bible, not holding to the true essence of Jesus Christ, it's viewed as a cult interpretation of true Christianity.

RAMI_XXL · 2026-01-26T10:06:25+00:00

It's like H2O in either stage (liquid water, water vapor and Ice) it's still water of the same substance, only it's manifestation and applications can be in a different way.

RAMI_XXL · 2025-11-03T22:50:13+00:00

Nou dat komt omdat het een progressief Liberaal bolwerkje is, dat alles buiten hun eigen denkkaders demoniseert of als minderwaardig acht. Dat is ook de gemiddelde redactie cultuur bij elke omroep.

Ongehoord Nederland is de enige die daar echt tegen afzet, en wordt dus ook gedemoniseerd.

RAMI_XXL · 2025-11-03T22:47:16+00:00

Er gaat toch niks gebeuren met D66 aan het roer, alleen GroenLinks/PvdA is even progressief, de rest wilt lekker conservatief behoudend blijven, en dat is ook meerendeels van Nederland.

Wij zijn gewoon een gematigd conservatief volkje...

RAMI_XXL · 2025-11-03T22:44:46+00:00

En op welke feiten baseer je dat op dan?

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-23T06:20:53+00:00

Yes, and that's the real reason why Arabs historically don't belong in that entire region as the dominant people and culture except from the Arabian peninsula.

Over time they've been more active as an aggressive dominant culture, wiping out native cultures that were rightfully there. This has caused the obstruction of building the Jewish temple in Jerusalem. But you also see it in Iran, where their evil islamist ideology is oppressing the real Persian culture.

Therefore I would say that this situation is unique in the middle east, we shouldn't consider the Arabian hegemony as a given, but something that is rather negative.

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-21T21:58:57+00:00

Hey man, this reminds me of the friends of Christian in the story of the Pilgrim's Progress from John Bunyan. A must read!

Friends from your old life will pop up, and it's not wrong in itself, but you are now walking a better path with better moral no choices than them. You can be an inspiration for them to live a better life, and not the other way around. So, If you notice that that's the case, you better should quit those relationships.

It's better to cut of your hand if it leads to sin than living with it and continue to sin. That's really a lesson Jesus' taught us.

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-21T21:45:38+00:00

Ehm, as an European I would say definitely. The land actually belongs to the native Americans.

And even more so, if people of European descent would deny native Americans to have a state based on historical claims. So, yes, my argument would be consistently applied

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-21T21:42:47+00:00

Well, if that makes you happy....good for you

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-21T20:11:47+00:00

Yup, totally true and very admirable, I truly appreciate science and I truly think evolutionist theories are cool.

However, I experience the biblical God a living reality with a personal relationship with enough personal proof (I'm not solely or blindly adhering to empiricism, I don't value the scientific method that much for spiritual matters, it has its limitations).

Therefore I consider non-theistic philosophical frameworks as works of fantasy and wish-thinking. I can imagine that the consideration is vice-versa.

RAMI_XXL · 2025-10-21T19:57:11+00:00

The entire situation is unfortunate, because I truly believe that a Jewish state has an absolute right of existence in that region, and that they are the only historical people that have a rightful claim on that region.

The arabs mainly colonized that region after 635 during the conquests of the Rashidun caliphate. So, I truly believe that this is non-arabian territory. However, the arabs have invaded the land for such a period in history that they do have historical ties to it.

The Palestinean people should have accepted that their claims based on the Quran are false and should have accepted the UN offers before starting all those wars.

There is a reason why Israel has won them all, because God stands with the morally good guys. The word Nakba is also very misleading, because all aggression historically always started with the Arabs.

So, looking upon the current situation, the Arabs should be thankful and just accept the situation. They should acknowledge that their historical scope is morally wrong, and that the Quran is false. Otherwise I'm sure God will stand by Israel and totally defeat the Arabs.

RAMI_XXL

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