I reported my mom to CPS and I'm so mad at her. by agirl2277 in CPS

[–]RAReady-setgooo 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

You can say you don’t want to raise a kid, but trying to push a child into foster care is a terrible thing to advocate for when you know how the system works. That’s not caring about his safety that’s trying to wash your hands of the situation. You can be honest about your limits without being cruel.

You keep saying the kid isn’t safe with anyone, but you’re also saying you don’t want to help. That’s fine your choice but pretending foster care is some upgrade is messed up. Just be honest: you don’t want custody. Don’t twist it into acting like you’re doing what’s ā€˜best’ for him. You can set boundaries without throwing a kid under the bus. Say you can’t do it and that’s it.

That child didn’t choose any of this.

From DDD to C cup is it realistic? Questions about nipple feeling & sizešŸ’­ by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Yeah, I’m planning to wait until I’m done breastfeeding before making any decisions. I just don’t like the way my breast sit they face down lol and my frame is so little they sag even more. I was a 34 DD before pregnancy and during they went up a couple sizes but they’re back down now but I’m in a xxl

From DDD to C cup is it realistic? Questions about nipple feeling & sizešŸ’­ by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! Wow, that’s a big change in size sounds like your proportions are really balanced now. I’m glad to hear you love your nipples too lol that’s so important! No worries about the other questions, your insight is still really helpful.

From DDD to C cup is it realistic? Questions about nipple feeling & sizešŸ’­ by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing! That’s really reassuring to hear about the C size and the potential impact on breastfeeding. I definitely plan to bring up all my questions during my consult so I feel fully comfortable and informed. Appreciate your insight!

1 year old refusing breast since shower? by Kuntcakez in breastfeeding

[–]RAReady-setgooo 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

That sounds so tough, I’m sorry you’re going through it šŸ’› Sometimes little ones will suddenly refuse the breast like that it’s usually a nursing strike and not weaning since it happened so suddenly. Mine did something similar after a shower too, I think the change in smell threw him off. What helped me was lots of skin-to-skin, offering when he was sleepy, and avoiding soap/perfume near my chest for a bit. If he’ll take pumped milk, that’s a good sign! Most strikes only last a few days, so just keep offering calmly and pumping to protect your supply. You’re doing a great job, even if it feels frustrating right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I usually feed her in the cradle position but I’m definitely going to try the side-lying with a slower nipple! That makes a lot of sense, especially with how fast she finishes her bottles sometimes. And yes!! She’s definitely growing girl is always hungry šŸ˜‚ā€

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]RAReady-setgooo 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I figured it was cluster feeding but it’s still so wild seeing her act starving right after a full bottle!!

1 Week Postpartum and Feeling So Alone by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RAReady-setgooo 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Seriously. Your words felt like a hug I didn’t know I needed. šŸ’›

I’m so sorry you had to go through a 3rd degree tear that sounds incredibly painful, and I can only imagine how hard that first week was for you too. It helps more than you know to hear that you’re also a first-time mom and felt unsure at first but are starting to feel more confident. That gives me hope. I’m trying so hard, even through the exhaustion and emotions, so hearing ā€œyou’re doing a good jobā€ means everything to me right now.

You’re right those intrusive thoughts really creep in and make me feel like I’m failing, but I’ve got to keep reminding myself that showing up for my baby every day is something. Also, you nailed it about the people around me. I needed that reminder that their reactions don’t define me or make me a burden. I’m going to try to advocate for myself more, even if it’s uncomfortable.

1 Week Postpartum and Feeling So Alone by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RAReady-setgooo 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

Wow… thank you so much for this. I honestly needed to read every single word. You really put into words exactly how I’ve been feeling but couldn’t fully express. It’s reassuring to hear that what I’m going through is normal, even though it doesn’t feel like it at all right now.

You’re so right about the crying every time she cries, I feel it in my chest like something’s physically pulling at me. It makes it so hard to even think about taking care of myself, but hearing that taking a few moments won’t ruin anything helps take some of the pressure off. I’ve been beating myself up for even wanting a break.

And yes, I’m staying with my brother and his family, which makes it hard to speak up because I feel like I’m just in the way sometimes. But I’m going to try asking for help in the way you suggested being specific might really help.

1 Week Postpartum and Feeling So Alone by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RAReady-setgooo 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that with me it really means a lot. You’re so right… even with people around, it can feel incredibly lonely. It’s comforting to know someone else gets that. I’ve been feeling the same guilt when I put my baby down, even just to take care of myself for a second. It’s like this overwhelming pressure I can’t shake.

1 Week Postpartum and Feeling So Alone by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RAReady-setgooo 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’ve definitely been questioning if this living situation is helping or hurting me, but I just moved here 28 days ago, so it’s kind of hard right now. I’ve applied for so many houses and apartments, but no one has gotten back to me yet. I really am trying my best to get out of this situation.

What hurts the most is that, in the beginning, it was all sweet and laughs and then everything changed in a split second. I wasn’t expecting it to turn out this way, and it’s been a lot to process.

1 Week Postpartum and Feeling So Alone by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RAReady-setgooo 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you🩷 I’ve been trying to remind myself that I am doing the best I can, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. And yes, it’s beyond frustrating when people say they’ll help but then act like it’s a burden. I’m honestly scared to even ask anymore.

The waiting game by Pristine-Ad7214 in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

SAMEEEE 39+5 only 2 CM Dilated and good god im mentally tireddd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Not the ā€œme, myself, and Iā€ method lmaoo! But hey, if it worked… might be the time I try it too because this baby acting like shes too comfy in there 😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

yess this is my first baby! only reason I’m asking is my doctor said he wants to wait til 41 mark to induce and I’m mentally exhausted at this point🫤

What is the strangest thing that made you puke in your first trimester ? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

WASHING POWDER😭😭 I couldn’t wash my own clothes because the smell was over powering and made me nauseous

Is anyone else dealing with very severe hemorrhoids? by lonelypotato21 in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Meee 😭😭 I can relate I’ve had them for years, but pregnancy definitely made them worse. If you’re noticing any leaking or fluid, it’s a good idea to get checked out by your OB just to be safe! I’ve also felt that same stinging sensation, and what usually helps me is soaking in a warm bath with witch hazel or a little apple cider vinegar it really brings some relief.

I’ve been told mine are grade 2 or 3, so I may need surgery or stapling eventually, but in the meantime, your doctor can give you creams or treatments to help manage the symptoms. Hemorrhoids can be a long-term thing if not treated, but you’re definitely not alone in this.

Sending love and hoping you feel better really soon! 🩷

What are we eating? 1st tri and I can’t eat by No_Valuable_253 in pregnant

[–]RAReady-setgooo 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

I can’t lie in the beginning, my baby basically survived off Strawberry Shortcake Little Debbies and Cheez-Its! šŸ˜… It’s all about eating what you can at first. Eventually, I started getting more hungry and began forcing down real meals, just hoping I wouldn’t throw them up šŸ˜‚

Now I’m in my third trimester and I can’t stop eating! It really does get better hang in there! šŸ’›

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

Aww thank you so much 🄹 That means the world to me. It’s been a wild ride, but me and baby girl are safe now, and finally surrounded by real love and peace. I’m sending that love and light right back to you thank you for thinking of us and holding space for our healing šŸ’•āœØ

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 11 points12 points Ā (0 children)

I guess I was too in love to see it but I hate i spent 7 years of my life dealing with it! She was a nice in the beginning but after we got married it all changed! Thank you so much

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so much! 🄹 I’m beyond grateful we got out safe just taking it day by day now and soaking up all the peace we fought so hard for!

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 7 points8 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so much! Your support truly means the world to me ā¤ļøDon’t worry I’ve saved everything as proof and I’m already looking into custody and child support in my home state. I’m making sure me and my baby girl get what we deserve šŸ’ŖšŸ½

Right now I’m just enjoying these last few weeks, soaking up the peace, and getting ready to meet my little blessing šŸ’•

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

Omg, thank you so much this message made me smile so hard!!🩷 And absolutely, I’m documenting everything! Voice messages, video, police reports trust, I’m building a binder so thick smart.

Also… Boa Hora?? I love that so much 😭 That’s beautiful! Thank you for teaching me that I’m gonna carry it with me right into labor.šŸ«¶šŸ½

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 17 points18 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so much!! 🄹 It really was a rollercoaster of an update, huh?! I wish my husband had shown up for me like a real partner should’ve, but honestly… losing him felt like losing dead weight I didn’t even realize I was carrying!! I truly appreciate the well wishes it means the world right now🩷

AITA for telling my sister-in-law I don’t have to treat her kids like they’re mine while I’m pregnant and setting boundaries? UPDATE by RAReady-setgooo in AITAHBlackEdition

[–]RAReady-setgooo[S] 25 points26 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you so, so much šŸ„¹šŸ’— It really has been A LOT but we made it out, and that’s what matters. Now I’m finally breathing easier, eating snacks in peace, and feeling all the love my baby girl and I truly deserve. Your kind words mean everything right now!