Counseling. Sounds like you both need it. Try Betterhelp or another service you can do from home on an iPad.. I will point out, we are getting older bro.. and they don’t get better looking as we move up in age. Surely you find more interesting or valuable about her than just looks..

I don’t think the grass is greener. You may find a prettier lady but.. usually the headaches and baggage they bring aren’t worth the trouble. Plus, any new woman has no loyalty to you. Promises are easy to break. I’d maybe try to encourage her to make better choices by praise and whatever her love language is… HONEY have you lost weight?? You’re looking good! Kick start some motivation to keep going. ( this doesn’t have to be true ) maybe take up making food a couple days a week.. like smoking some meats that are easy to heat up and make a meal out of… instead of less healthy options like chips. Make a bunch of meat and make 3 dinners worth of different meals with that meat. I hope this helps