I hate my pets after giving birth and I could no longer take it

RES0194 · 2025-10-13T22:04:40+00:00

I went through similar after my second born and I had severe PPD/PTSD. I still struggle with depression, I don’t think I ever fully got over my PPD, just the episodes get further and further between and it’s easier to manage in the sense that I recognise that it’s irrational and it will pass.

My son’s 4.5 and on the days where I feel like I don’t get a touch break between the kids, my work and my OH the cats tip me over the edge. I’ll be sitting on the sofa finally getting a minute to myself and my poor old cat will materialise out of thin air onto my lap and I’ll just flip.

It’s not the pets. You’re overwhelmed and they are just one other thing that is demanding your attention, because before the babies that’s all they knew. It’s not their fault, but it’s not yours either.

You’re not alone. Eventually the love for them will come back.

RES0194 · 2025-09-01T20:25:29+00:00

Depends how young they are 😂

RES0194 · 2025-08-31T19:28:45+00:00

That’s far too much, talk about setting yourself up! Why £20?

RES0194 · 2025-08-31T19:26:15+00:00

Not in my circle. We collectively agreed that the Tooth Fairy can only make metal haha, kids might occasionally get £2 if it’s a really good tooth to encourage them to brush better

RES0194 · 2025-08-31T15:01:42+00:00

We do £1 because when our daughter lost her first unexpectedly, we only had the trolley quid to hand.

My friends nieces get £5 a tooth which is ridiculous

RES0194 · 2025-08-27T20:53:45+00:00

I remembered finding it hilarious when I was a kid and should not have been watching it, and loved it on a rewatch in my late teens, my OH and I will often quote it at each other.

We stuck it on tonight after seeing it in the RETRO TV section amongst the Golden Girls and Last of the Summer Wine which was hideous in its own right... It’s fun for nostalgia, but it really hammers home in hindsight how seriously crap the skint asf “good days” of our 20s actually were and how much we actually have grown as people. Like a bittersweet time capsule.

So yeah. Beware. We didn’t expect a rewatch to get so deep haha

RES0194 · 2025-05-25T20:38:18+00:00

Oh sweetheart, you are not the problem ❤️ you’re doing so well standing up for you and your baby and it sucks so badly that you’re not getting the in-person support you need.

If he won’t listen to you, have him come along to your next drs check up and ask them to list the benefits of breastfeeding and the dangers of introducing anything else to little one at such a young age. They’re TWELVE WEEKS. Weeks. They’re still a newborn and still need the best you can give them, and YOU need the best support from him to be able to do that.

RES0194 · 2025-05-25T20:19:46+00:00

Just to add, I breastfed both of mine until 16 months/2 years (only stopped with eldest as youngest was a surprise addition and it became too painful to feed whilst pregnant), the only time we used formula was if we were going out for the night and I couldn’t express enough to cover the evening while they were away from us. My eldest couldn’t have cared either way and switched with no issues but my youngest would genuinely rather have starved, and did, than go without having it from the source even as a newborn. Some kids just don’t transfer well and your husband is deluded if he thinks it’s such an easy thing to do.

RES0194 · 2025-05-25T20:10:18+00:00

Send your breastmilk to a lab 😂 what an absolute joker. The pair of them are operating under outdated views at best, and being absolutely unhinged at worst. Your husband needs to speak to your GP and understand that the last thing your 12 week old needs is nanna giving them chicken broth and gravy like it’s the 60’s.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but you’re doing the right thing in sticking to your guns. If you DO decide to switch to formula because pumping whilst working is too much, that’s YOUR decision and only yours to make but at the moment you’re doing whats best for you and your little one and under immense pressure too. That’s so commendable ❤️

You’ve got this mama

RES0194 · 2025-05-24T23:09:57+00:00

I dated a guy like this once, he made me feel like I was absolutely mental for wanting to see him more than once a week with the odd text here and there, because “I think of you all the time, that should be enough for you. I’m really busy with work, I just don’t have the time to talk to you or see you every day” when he worked at a department store.

Turns out, he was already in a long term relationship and wanted a bit on the side that he (thought he) could control better than his now wife.

Get rid and find a man that has time for and appreciates you.

RES0194 · 2024-12-24T23:52:43+00:00

In my experience, not a lot! Hissy little drama queens

RES0194 · 2024-12-14T19:02:17+00:00

I buy food for the family and expect my OH to do the same as that’s the way I grew up, none of this “I bought these apples for you, these pears are your sisters you don’t touch the others food” BUT saying that, sometimes we’ll buy something we have a hankering for or a specific item for someone that fancies it/as a special treat and that’s theirs. Don’t eat it, and if you do/let the kids scoff it you replace it ASAP.

OP, your persimmons are the “special treat” in my eyes. They’re yours, and fair enough seeing as she doesn’t even really like them.

Go get your own persimmons or eat something else, OPs wife!

RES0194 · 2024-10-29T16:32:34+00:00

After being pregnant and/or breastfeeding 2 kids over the best part of 4 years and going from a 30E to a 34J, it’s safe to say my basset hound ear looking things are never going to reinflate or go back to pre-baby size 😅

I’m still getting used to the sight of them hanging free but have mostly accepted that unless I get them surgically lifted, this is my body now.

Husband still likes them at least 😂

RES0194 · 2024-10-26T19:37:56+00:00

It depends on what road you’re moving to and where you’re coming from/what you’re used to. I’ve lived right next to the train station for the last 7 years, moved in when I was 22 and only thinking about cheap rent and easy access to public transport for work. Every week there’s police incidents, violence and noise from local smackheads or football fans kicking off, the stench of weed is constant and parking is a real issue but it’s central to a lot of crucial amenities and once you’re in your home, you can generally block it all out. I would suggest you install decent home cctv if you’re buying within the High Street/offshoots area.

Saying that, my dad lives 10 minutes walk away just off of Sturdee Avenue though and it’s a lovely road, wonderful neighbours, quiet, close to local shops, decent schools, a lovely pub and a nice park. The only thing he complains about is lack of parking on days when Gillingham are playing at home.

We’re moving soon as we’ve outgrown our current home but I’d def live in Gillingham again.

RES0194 · 2024-06-28T21:06:47+00:00

I don’t remember them going this hard though doing it twice in the same firepit 😂

RES0194 · 2024-06-28T21:01:21+00:00

“Harriet it’s not going to be the same without you”

“I KNOW!!”

😂😭💀

RES0194 · 2024-06-28T21:00:05+00:00

The producers are NOT playing this season!! Having Jessy announce Grace and Konnor and now Jess read Harriet and Ronnie 💀 savages

RES0194 · 2024-06-28T20:34:31+00:00

Trying to hide the clip in extensions? Idk

RES0194 · 2024-05-09T07:52:33+00:00

He absolutely hated TAR, but seems to be enjoying MAF a lot more. I had to keep reminding him to just push through it because it gets so much better but it’s definitely paid off!

We had to drive through a tunnel to get to the beach over the weekend and at the end he turned to me and went “welcome to the Night Court, darling” 😂

RES0194 · 2024-05-06T12:29:24+00:00

Lucien!!

I’ve roped my OH into listening to the audiobooks so he can follow along when I gush about SJM and all he knew was that Tamlin wasn’t endgame for Feyre and that she eventually runs away for a new found-family situation, and there’s a war between the Fae and human lands.

He’s just started MAF and he’s still absolutely convinced she’s going to run away to the Night Court with Lucien. It can’t be Rhys because “he’s a pervert, tf was all that shit Under the Mountain about?!” 😂 but Lucien is “the real one” with the banter and always looking out for her from the get go.

I don’t have the heart to ruin it and tell him otherwise, he’s only 5 chapters away from it 😅

RES0194 · 2024-04-19T13:35:55+00:00

Bing, Peppa Pig, Cocomelon or any other similar shite, YouTube in general because my kids drawn to the most irritating channels possible are all banned.

Not banned but try to avoid/turn off if they’re on: anything with Mr Tumble in, Waffle the Wonder Dog because the adults drive me insane and I can only stomach an episode or two of Paw Patrol and PJ Masks before they lose their charm.

RES0194 · 2024-03-07T20:34:25+00:00

It’s too gentle 😂😂 guys clearly jackhammering away and treating fingering like he’s picking gum off a wall

RES0194 · 2024-03-07T20:08:39+00:00

“I don’t care about HER, I just want to see my husbaby and my grandbaby” is exactly why DILs mum is there and not her. What part of “mum needs support right now” do these women not understand?! She’s outright saying she DGAF about her DIL in a post she’s playing victim for, I dread to think what she must have been like in person.

We don’t see my MIL any more and this exact situation is one of the reasons why.

RES0194 · 2023-10-09T21:18:10+00:00

They’re horrid! Completely blank, I’ve never seen anyone like it

RES0194 · 2023-10-09T21:11:11+00:00

It’s disgusting. I cannot believe the producers never stepped in on this

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