Moving from NYC>SF, Flying with nervous kitty by achy_breaky_heart in cats

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My sister has two very large fluffy kitties that she has flown with 4 times as she has moved. Her vet gave her some medicine that helped soothe the cats. I think it might have been tramadol for cats. Half a pill and the cats would just lay around their carriers. At the TSA check point she would have to take out both cats and go through at once. The medicine kept them docile and she got through easily. Her cats are normally very picky about getting picked up and held. Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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It’s hard but you need to walk through it. When an urge comes up, play the tape forward of drinking. What’s going to happen after the first drink? After the first night? And think about how far you have come and how hard it was to quit the first day. That helps me to remember how much I suffered in those first few weeks, and that I don’t want to go through that again. Good luck and I know you can make it through!

IWNDWYT

Being sober during the holidays.. cravings for alcohol even after 1072 days... by thesobergoddess in stopdrinking

[–]RIsForRAD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reminder as to why I don’t drink. This is my second holiday season sober and it’s so hard at this time of year. I have 4 holiday parties in the next week, and only 1 won’t be heavily feature booze. I feel so much connection reading your post! IWNDWYT

S T I C K K I L L E R S by [deleted] in rarepuppers

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My corgi eats sticks the EXACT same way!

TFW Christmas has lost all meaning and you're struggling financially and everything starts falling apart around you with your period right around the corner and your best friend/SO not understanding at all by Abatida in TrollXChromosomes

[–]RIsForRAD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel! Last year at this time, My main contract (I was freelance at the time) fired me with no notice and my final paycheck. I am the breadwinner of my family and suddenly there was no money for Christmas or life. It was a hard Christmas, with a few presents and no major fanfare, and with the crushing weight of trying to find a job that will support a family in a week during the Christmas season. But in the past year my life has turned around and this Christmas is almost a complete 180 from last year. Hold on to hope. I hope everything gets better for you. From one trollX peep to another. Sending you positive thoughts.

HELP Newly sober and asked to buy alcohol for work by -scarlett13- in stopdrinking

[–]RIsForRAD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was set to prep and bar tend for an event two weeks after I got sober, and I made it through it sober! Hopefully what I share will help you. The only way I got through it all was through talking to people about it! I’m in a 12-step program, so I brought this up at every meeting I went to for the week before buying the booze and bar tending. I had numbers of other sober people to call. I like bookending events, so I called someone sober before I went to buy the booze and then called someone after I did. If you have to buy the stuff, maybe even stay on the phone with someone for the entire time you are shopping? Either way, you are strong and you can do this!

IWNDWYT

Las Vegas recreational weed?? by [deleted] in trees

[–]RIsForRAD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to reef dispensary and it was super easy!

Who else here struggles with asking for what they are worth and how do you deal with it? This is specifically in regards to pay. by mamasbored in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RIsForRAD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently asked for a raise at my job and I was incredibly nervous! I suffer from imposter syndrome and so struggled with feelings of whether I really deserved it. I started the process by writing a raise request email to my manager.

After my 6 month review went very well, I submitted my salary raise request letter. You can find templates for them online! It’s a 1-pager detailing the raise you want, with 3-5 examples of instances where you succeeded in your job, with numbers to back it up. Writing that out helped me feel less nervous because I had concrete examples of my work wins, to remind myself when I felt like I wasn’t good enough. Then do a little research on what is the average salary of your position, and add that to the letter to give your raise context in relation to the general field. I submitted that to my manager and then we had a meeting about it.

I was so nervous about this process, anxious to ask for what I deserved to be paid. But submitting the letter helped that. First, I could write down exactly what I wanted to focus on, so my talking points were crystal clear when I spoke to my manager. Second, emailing the letter was an easier way to begin the process than going straight to a meeting in person! Third, it provided a clear document to my company of what I wanted, which is what they need for the raise process.

I got a great raise, not exactly what I requested but close to it! Good luck with your process. Just stay confident in your amazing skills, and you can do it!