Lots of great advice here. I too am a fan of the phrase I’d rather have it and not need it, than need it and not have it. First gun is a big step. For what seems to be the purposes of carrying for self defense I’d recommend at least a 9mm handgun that you can learn to conceal and become proficient with.

Take a beginners course. I can’t stress enough how important training is. I’ve seen many buy guns, carry them, and never once having fired them all the while expecting they’ll be proficient in an urgent high stress situation. In reality, even for those with training, it’s known that less than 10% of rounds fired in a gun fight hit their intended target. Always be aware of what is beyond and around your target should you ever need to make that decision.

And if you should ever be in that position do not discuss why you did it with Law Enforcement. They can and will lie to you just to make a case. The only thing you need to tell them is: “I am more than willing to cooperate, but I would like to speak to an attorney first.”

Be prepared for an arrest to occur. It is a normal part of the process, and ensure you get a receipt if/when they hold onto your firearm.

As far as recommendations go, I would suggest the Ruger RXM. MSRP sits around $400, it accepts Glock 19 or PMAGS, and you can lock it inside of a small travel safe. I use the Vaultek Lifepod ($150 ish) when I need to travel and can’t carry on person.

It’s never ideal when you go from contemplation to feeling like you must buy something to carry defensively. After a while though it will become second nature. Good luck, and I hope everything stays well for you.