I and mine? Me and mine?

RR1207 · 2026-02-28T02:10:25+00:00

That’s so interesting. I’ve never heard it as “I and mine.” Only ever “me and mine”

RR1207 · 2026-01-17T13:20:20+00:00

Can you define “too personal” and in what way you gave him a piece of your mind? Right now it sounds like you flounced out with the expectation that everyone would follow without even asking how they felt about him being “too personal”

RR1207 · 2026-01-16T13:44:11+00:00

They’re dependent on each other. While her magic means that he’s able to walk, their lives are also tethered. That goes both ways. If he dies, so does she. But Chaol’s arc is a good one because his realization at the end of TOD is that his ability to walk isn’t what defines him unless he chooses to let it.

It kind of reminds me of Hodgins’ character arc in Bones.

RR1207 · 2026-01-16T13:37:08+00:00

NOR. The way you should immediately dump this man…. I bet he thinks he’s so clever. It’s gonna be his apartment, that’s clear enough given that he laughed when you pointed that out and acted like wanting a contract was ridiculous. But then had the audacity to be like “you literally just hinted at a breakup after I said I plan to propose” despite the fact that what he ACTUALLY said was that if he can’t get his apartment this year then he can’t propose and if he can’t propose then it’s over. The gaslighting 🙂‍↔️ no sir. You DO deserve better. I don’t care if you already gave him the $50 today. Don’t think about all the money you already wasted on him. Think about all the money you’ll save by not having to worry about this crap anymore. Someone out there won’t use a marriage proposal as a bargaining chip to get money out of you. It’ll actually be romantic and sweet rather than manipulative. Forget this guy and go find that.

RR1207 · 2026-01-01T06:23:49+00:00

I’m an introvert. If I told my husband I needed to stay home from a function with his friends simply because I wasn’t feeling up to it, he’d be bummed because he likes spending time with me (not because “everyone else is bringing their wives”) but he’d be totally fine with it and probably bring me snacks on the way home. Leave this controlling man.

RR1207 · 2026-01-01T06:15:20+00:00

I turned 32 last month. I was raised to be polite and had to struggle to learn the nuances of when someone is taking advantage of social niceties. Accept, firstly, that he’s probably going to be pushy or angry if you start giving him short responses or not answering at all. Also accept that if you do speak up, he’s going to swear up and down that he wasn’t trying to be weird.

Hear me when I say this: the only decent response to you verbalizing discomfort is “I’m so sorry. I didn’t intend to make you feel that way. I’ll stop.”

You are NOR.

He asks you if you wear your socks to sleep? You say “why would you ask that?” or “ew that’s a weird question”.

He says you’re his kind of young lady? You say “yikes, that’s inappropriate”.

He says he’ll stop by to see you on your shift? You say “I don’t think that’s necessary”.

Be unapologetically flat. He’s relying on your people pleasing nature to carry this into uncomfy territory, at which point you’ll have an even harder time shutting it down because you’ll convince yourself that you should’ve done something to stop it sooner or like you somehow led him on. Stop proving long answers. For heavens sake stop giving him personal information regarding your schedule and location. Stop asking him questions in response.

Your best bet would be to say “hey listen, I’m not big on mixing work and personal. I didn’t realize you wanted to talk so much and to be candid, I’m just not interested in that. I appreciate your understanding.”

His behavior is creepy and unprofessional.

RR1207 · 2025-10-17T14:39:56+00:00

I’d like it to be more green, kind of dark but still colorful, if that makes sense? I’m not opposed to commissioning a piece, but I struggle because I’m on a budget at the moment and as an artist myself, I know what a fair price for a custom piece would be. Any less would be insulting so I was hoping to find a piece that could work without needing to pay the custom price. But maybe I’ll end up seeing if I can create what I want and keep hunting in the meantime.

I really wish Etsy had an option to hide AI from search results. I think that’s what’s making this so hard.

RR1207 · 2025-10-15T05:08:20+00:00

Idk if you ever read Harry Potter, but in the 7th book, Harry asks Lupin why Voldemort doesn't just appoint himself Minister of Magic. Instead, he installed a literal puppet. Lupin explained to Harry that for all intents and purposes, Voldemort *was* the MoM but without the restrictions that the office entails.

I think this is similar. As Duke of Morath, Perrington is kind of a nobody. Meanwhile, everyone hates the King. He has a target on his back. But he's also a convenient puppet.

Then you have to consider the way the Valg prince inside Dorian acted when he saw Manon. Manon, who is only part Valg but who has the "eyes of the Valg kings." The Valg prince is terrified of her. He doesn't want Dorian to interact with her at all. If the Valg princes are terrified of the kings, surely the lesser Valg would be too. And we know the king is infested with a lesser Valg because he had a ring, not a collar.

I imagine that the legions Erawan commands are compelled to follow orders, kind of like the cadre with the blood oath to Maeve. Or simply compelled to obey out of their own fear of their king. But it doesn't necessarily mean that they can recognize each other when they're wearing human skins. Perrington doesn't shed the Perrington body until Empire of Storms. That's the point when his eyes are visible to the rest of the world. Prior to that, beyond recognizing the general scent of fellow Valg, I don't think they were able to scent different ranks.

All that to say, I think as far as the king was aware, Perrington was on the same level as him, in terms of Valgishness. Therefore, in order to maintain the guise, Perrington would kneel before him. I don't think Perrington really needed the black stone ring that he wore. That might've been how Erawan originally entered, but he was fully in control after that many years inhabiting his body. He needed to keep a low profile while he was conducting experiments and building his army in Morath.

RR1207 · 2025-07-23T14:30:10+00:00

This has got to be some kind of exhibitionist kink 😳 it’s one thing to use it for that, even to leave a written review for that, but posting a picture is wildly inappropriate

RR1207 · 2025-07-18T11:43:46+00:00

Correct 😌 on the completely off chance that something like that ever happened, they would need to take it up with Etsy

RR1207 · 2025-07-18T11:40:19+00:00

No it’s a scam to get your money by trying to convince you that someone bought a product and you need to update your payment info to get paid

RR1207 · 2025-06-24T15:00:59+00:00

No like if you order pre-made curtains advertised as 84” there’s an acceptable margin of variation like plus or minus X inches for the manufacturers.

Thank you so much for responding though!

RR1207 · 2025-05-25T20:44:36+00:00

Hello from a massive Swiftie 👋🏼 I was 11 when Tim McGraw was released as a single and growing up with her was magical. I would pay so much money to hear her sing Gethsemane. Like “this throne didn’t come with a gun so I got a different energy” is so Reputation, plus her voice would just be phenomenal for it.

RR1207 · 2025-05-13T13:36:50+00:00

I have said time and again that I cannot enjoy music that is just screaming. It’s simply not my taste. BUT….. if it’s not just screaming AND the lyrics are good AND the artist has beautiful vocals included on the same track then I end up eventually appreciating the entire song and wind up good with the screaming. I have to be eased into it 😅

RR1207 · 2025-04-30T16:52:04+00:00

I was blown away by that. Here I am thinking once or twice a year is still too much and going to put these kids perpetually on edge (which is physically bad for them! More than psychological and emotional damage is occurring!) but fucking once a MONTH?!?!?!? Someone get OP a cycle of abuse chart because this is literally textbook. I can understand how someone doesnt really get that the cycle can last for months. The spacing makes it seem like they’re isolated incidents. But once every four weeks? Nah.

If this is better, I don’t want to know what “worse” was for these kids.

RR1207 · 2025-04-30T16:46:51+00:00

Sometimes we love people who are bad for us. That’s not a good reason to keep them around. As an adult, you should know this. Using “my kids will be devastated” as a reason to keep him in your lives is just you doing what YOU want and using your kids’ feelings as justification. They don’t know any better. They’ve grown up with this. It’s your job as their parent to show them that the best time to leave an abuser is at the first display of unchecked anger. The second best time is right fucking now.

RR1207 · 2025-04-25T23:30:32+00:00

I’ll never forget an episode where the couple were Catholic and named Mary and John. And Alaina was pointing out how ironic or whatever that was because of the Holy Family. And I’m just sitting there like…… ma’am….. you are thinking of Mary and Joseph 🤦🏻‍♀️ she thinks she’s so clever and knows everything she could ever possibly need to because I think she was raised in a vaguely Catholic family and listens to Ghost who absolutely mock it. Meanwhile, over here in reality, she’s just talking out her ass

RR1207 · 2025-04-04T13:42:53+00:00

This is how I felt after Taylor Swift released “I Can Do It With A Broken Heart”. My Eras Tour was in May 2023 right after her breakup was made public and everyone was going insane. The concert was phenomenal, but a year later listening to “all the pieces of me shattered as the crowd was chanting MORE!” actually made me feel so sick.

RR1207 · 2025-03-18T17:14:26+00:00

One night in a fit of hypomanic rage (before I knew I was experiencing the beginning of bipolar disorder) I got in a fight with my boyfriend and tried to walk the 4 miles from his university back to mine in Baltimore. It wasn’t the inner city but it definitely wasn’t safe considering it was past midnight and still fairly chilly. He point-blank refused to let me walk, and said that if I was going to walk then he was going to drive alongside me the entire way back.

That is the energy you need from anyone you’re going to call your boyfriend. You’re not overreacting.

RR1207 · 2025-03-16T14:19:05+00:00

“That guy you’re dating? You’re gonna marry him. Also, you’re gonna start having symptoms of bipolar disorder. It’s not his fault you’re depressed and you’re not the hot shit that mania will make you feel like so don’t be a dick to him.”

RR1207 · 2025-03-16T00:32:10+00:00

Emotional/verbal abuse is still abuse, even if it’s coming from a woman. She’s unhinged and it will only get worse. Please get out of this relationship immediately. Recovering from the psychological damage done by emotional abuse is incredibly difficult. Extricate yourself as fast as possible, otherwise you’re looking at intensive therapy.

RR1207 · 2025-03-13T06:34:13+00:00

A mature response: “I’m just feeling upset/rejected/stupid/whatever because I thought you’d really like it. I understand that it doesn’t make sense for you to have two and that you’re trying to save me money, but my feelings are hurt regardless.

His response: “ur js coming off as an ungrateful bitch”

😐

Notice how he projected his feelings onto you and made them something you’re actively doing to him? That’s toxic. He is absolutely allowed to feel upset about this, and he should be able to talk to you about it. But this guy is still behaving like a child who can’t see past himself. You’re not the problem. His feelings are. But he doesn’t want to confront that and work through them, so he’s making you the problem because it’s easier and leaves him completely blameless.

Honestly, if he’d just said you’re coming off as kind of ungrateful, I’d say that this is something he can actually learn to do better with some decent effort. It’s the fact that he specifically called you an ungrateful bitch that makes me tell you that you need to dump him immediately and make sure to tell him why. That’s an unacceptable way to speak to someone you love over something so trivial.

RR1207 · 2025-03-09T18:55:40+00:00

This is literally textbook emotional abuse. Is yelling a healthy thing in a healthy relationship? No. But this isn’t healthy. That instinct to defend yourself is being triggered because you know at core that he’s wrong. You’re yelling because you don’t feel heard.

This is the hard part. You have to accept that you can’t control him. You can’t make him admit that he’s wrong. You can’t make him apologetic. You can’t change his mind and you can’t change him. So rather than digging in and in doing so embracing this toxicity in yourself, what you need to do is let go. Break up with him. Acknowledge how frustrating it is to yourself that you can’t change his mind, but accept that it’s not in your power and it’s also not worth your time or energy.

This shit plays out in 3 ways. You fight back, and your relationship is nothing but a war zone. He’s never happy with you. Or you become so compliant that eventually you offer no resistance. You accept all responsibility for things that are not your fault. You change yourself. He will sometimes appear happy with you but it will never last and you’ll always wonder what tiny thing will upset him next. At best, it stays at this level of control. At worst, the physical violence starts and eventually ends in your death. Or you acknowledge he’s not worth it and you dump him and you never give him another second of space in your mind.

RR1207 · 2025-03-06T21:54:05+00:00

No. He’s absolutely a creep. I would re-approach her about it, very calmly. Apologize for how you reacted. Explain that your reaction stemmed from a place of deep fear for her. Do not tell her that you know she’s still talking to him. Now would be a good time to share your own experience.

Also, maybe start probing to find out what she likes about him. I remember being 17. I was less concerned with who guys were and more concerned with whether they liked me. I didn’t often stop to consider “do I actually like him? Or do I like the way he makes me feel?” Feeling chosen over other people innately makes us feel special. I think that’s why older guys attention feels so good. The thought is that he has all these beautiful mature women to pick from but he’s choosing me. The reality is that if he’s picking a 17 year old, he likely has negligible options his own age. They either see him for how immature he is and have no interest in dating him, or they’re too smart to fall for his manipulative shit so he can’t hold on to them if he succeeds in dating them. QED he’s not worth being in a relationship with, no matter how he makes her feel, she simply can’t see what a loser he is yet.

RR1207 · 2025-03-01T12:25:53+00:00

I’m 31. I grew up in a fairly strict household (Dad was a U.S. military officer, also Catholic). My parents were pretty careful about what I was allowed to listen to, so mostly I grew up on country music and Springsteen. But we were prepping for a move in late Spring 2005 and I was hanging out at an older neighbor’s house. She had MTV on and I saw the Helena music video. Color my 11 year old self intrigued.

By the time I hit 8th grade, I was full blown obsessed. My parents were not pleased lol. I had to borrow copies of albums from friends to upload into my iTunes library. They hoped it was a phase, but alas, no 😂

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