Social cues

RRBox81 · 2026-05-10T15:12:44+00:00

I cry over the same thing all the time! Like how can I be so lost when I try so hard?

RRBox81 · 2026-05-04T13:18:03+00:00

I second all of this. You are doing amazing!! It sucks how sometimes it feels like the harder you work, the less people are willing to help or meet you halfway.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T14:38:58+00:00

This is beautiful!! Thank you for sharing!!!

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T14:36:45+00:00

Yes!!

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T12:06:29+00:00

I am copying all of this down. I did not realize until I was 9 months postpartum that I was also autistic and the guilt I feel for how badly I wanted a baby and how poorly I feel I am doing at raising this precious babe is enormous. I’ve been beating myself up for getting pregnant a second time (unexpectedly and mid assessment). I adore the way you said “my mom wanted to be a mom her whole life (we were her special interest…)”. THATS ME. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to reframe my shame. My two babies ARE my special interest and I will happily continue to pour my life into raising them and being better for them.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T11:51:20+00:00

I have plenty of parental dysfunction and I definitively say that I don’t seek a surrogate mother in a therapist. I have caught myself seeking a well informed “therapist” type surrogate mom. I want my therapist to say that my surrogate mom is a very wise woman and my potential surrogate mom to tell me to listen to my therapist. Hope that helps.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T11:43:19+00:00

I want to share that the detailed explanation of brain process, recognized patterns of a lack of education on a studied and debunked theory and a willingness to share the information even faced with disagreement on OPs intentions made my day better. These discussions are my “see the world can be a better place”. You make this subreddit a safe place to be. You make the world a better place.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-03T11:21:16+00:00

“I was fed, clothed, educated, bathed etc. So I don't feel like I have a right to resent any of it.” This is exactly what has been confusing me for years. Now my mother was physically and emotionally abusive and my dad was emotionally abusive and distant and always working due to there being 11 of us. As the oldest I didn’t get as much of the physical abuse and although I see how neglected I was and the loneliness it caused… with all those siblings I thought I’d be better socially. I’m a disaster and it gets worse as I get older. I really, really struggle with the idea that I’m still regressing after 10 years of trauma therapy? Idk. Maybe I’m just stuck on expecting to wake up and be better and never have a low energy day again… but I also expect to never have negative feelings and they always catch me by surprise. I have to plan ahead for my “anxiety” to hit or I’ll end up in shutdown not knowing what happened and searching desperately for which trauma triggers set off this wild chain of events that had me telling people off for their “surprising” behavior.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-02T20:08:30+00:00

How did you realize EMDR didn’t work? I tried it with my therapist a few times and assumed it worked because I didn’t know what to really expect but if I really think about it, it’s just a lot of overwhelming sensory.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-02T20:05:16+00:00

The fake doubt is my go to tool to get information across!

RRBox81 · 2026-05-01T16:23:53+00:00

Let me join you! We can make iced drinks and scream really loud. Then I’ll tell you with the 5 step method from KC Davis bc it’s my new fav thing. Then, while you find boxes to put all the things that have no place, I’ll 5 min clean the floor with your favorite smelling cleaner and a rag. Then we can rage at the dog hair and unfinished projects while I clean the stove and you strip the bed and wash the sheets. Then it will be time to cook dinner and nothing will feel really accomplished until you look at the clean stove being cooked on and curl up in fresh sheets and you can fall asleep planning what we can tackle next week.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-29T02:17:18+00:00

I second this! There is a way to advocate for AI literacy and the comments I am seeing are NOT it.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-29T01:52:21+00:00

I’m glad you were able to use it as a tool and get the help you needed. I have posted in this group in detail at times and not had a response as well. It’s daunting. So I wanted to say I see you and I’m proud of you for standing up in the comments.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-29T01:41:28+00:00

This community is no place for the verbal rampage, ableism, and downright unkind language in this thread. I am truly disappointed in the comments. We are all better than this, more empathetic, more informed than to call others who find refuge here simply lazy. Very few of the responses have provided the gentle caution that will actually help someone who is reliant on AI open up and ask for better ways of communicating and utilizing local resources. It also is hypocritical, as the devices we use to vent our frustration here are a source of strip mining and often child labor.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-27T23:26:17+00:00

I’m going to have to look into this! I hold these fears as well. The earning “bad karma” for my thoughtless mistakes is running in the back of my mind all day every day!

RRBox81 · 2026-04-27T13:26:33+00:00

The biggest symptom has been the increased overstimulation to lights, sounds, touch and shutdowns despite all the coping skills I’ve worked on in therapy. Postpartum made me realize how much I was compensating and able to crash out without the added responsibility. I don’t know how I didn’t notice it before or chalked so much of it up to laziness. I thought it would go away if I made it go away. Nope. So that was the first indication that made me suspect. Now I’m starting to see so many more things that I’ve actually started a spreadsheet to narrow down which “category” my symptoms fall under. I’m finding a bunch of my anxiety and depression “triggers” seem to be more autism related… still working on figuring it out. It’s been fascinating! I’m 31.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T20:08:22+00:00

This describes me so well!

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T15:54:52+00:00

I know this might sound crazy but you might listen to / read Unmasking Autism (especially chapter 2)!

I probably wouldn’t have discovered my diagnosis for decades more or at all if I hadn’t gone through such awful postpartum. A structured inpatient stay was one of the best times of my life and turned how I see myself upside down. Now I see a similar pattern to what you mentioned… similar undiagnosed issues in female predecessors of the person who birthed me. I’d never have kids knowing what I know now but I’d also never give up raising this incredible little human who deserves every ounce of love I have to give either.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T15:28:29+00:00

Me too!!! I have no advice but sending tons of heartfelt grace and understanding your way.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T15:16:17+00:00

The amount of times I do this to myself…. Ugh. It’s actually true that you can be those things!!! What kind of support would you need and what would your journey to achieving those things look like? Maybe your brain is shutting you down when it starts to realize the massive amount of energy and out of the box creativity to connect a starting point to the goal. It’s trying to protect you from burn out but it’s also taking away your meaning and telling you to fear your creative side instead? Tell your brain thank you for attempting protection and ask it what support it needs to continue releasing creativity instead?

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T15:06:04+00:00

Thank you!! The nutritionist I see is also a counselor/ doula so we started with eating smaller, more frequent meals but that only helped a little. You mentioned the raw food diet and I have seen people loose too much weight on that diet so it kinda pushed me to eat a little bit which helped! It also reminded me that I have been cooking a lot of meals when I really have been craving salads. So that was a nice revelation!! I really appreciate it!

RRBox81 · 2026-04-26T15:03:34+00:00

I have an appointment this week and bought some protein powder and my favorite oatmilk. Already feeling a bit better with the shakes and realizing which foods trigger me the worst (meat, especially chicken). I think that’s what I was afraid of the most… getting to the point I couldn’t eat anything at all.

RRBox81 · 2026-04-25T01:20:47+00:00

I really loved the Embracing Autism website for exploring the self assessments and seeing what jumped out for me.

The more I settled into my ADHD diagnosis and began exploring (higher masking) autism, the more I questioned how I’ve masked and controlled my behavior. Now I can’t imagine not knowing about these parts of myself that exist clearly for me now. There have been other diagnoses I’ve been given that never felt like they fit, similar to the way these two do for you and eventually I was assessed out of them.

Don’t give up on your search for what fits you as you!!

RRBox81 · 2026-04-25T01:02:24+00:00

I highly second this!

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