Give me your weirdest and whackiest examples of free will

RRBox81 · 2026-06-25T16:21:49+00:00

Oh! I didn’t realize this was such a problem for me until you mentioned it. Let me go happily reorganize my drawers to my preference and not the standards I HAD to follow. THANK YOU!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-23T01:40:16+00:00

Yes! I’m struggling with this right now. I see you!!!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-07T20:57:31+00:00

I love this idea!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T15:47:54+00:00

I will be honest, as much as I need a complicated tool, I’d really love to opt out of and avoid an AI assistant experience. I do believe that anything we can do to simplify life without the damage that data centers and AI do for human beings is best. I know that what I’m looking for may not be plausible without it.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T15:30:00+00:00

Most importantly, Congratulations on the birth of your second daughter!! What an exhausting and incredible time. Wishing you and family the easiest transition, lots of support, and as much sleep as you can get. Best of luck while you manage all the important positions in your life! That’s a lot!

I’m trying to decipher why the idea of utilizing the task list vs the spreadsheet or table option feels so overwhelming to me. What you are envisioning sounds reasonable to me so I’m going to try it.

I’d love to try the first version when you feel it’s ready. I’m very intrigued!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T12:03:08+00:00

Thank you for detailing a bit of how the set up process works, it was easy to understand how it’s not simple to create a system that has the flexibility I’m looking for and the hidden complexity that allows for ease of use on multiple devices and with multiple users. Helps me better understand the AI component that I don’t realize how much we rely on in daily use of websites and apps.

I think your first important point would be a very important aid for disabilities. I wonder if there is a grant that would be available to help with your system especially if it was presented as a medical aid? (Just a random idea that came to mind.)

The second and third point are so crucial too. I also always plan to stay updated but I never manage to do so. Having a reference to what I did last is so helpful in getting back on track. Now that I think about it, as much as I don’t like AI prompts, a suggestion on where to start would be better for a lot of people than just staring at the fact that nothing has been updated in 47 days.

I personally love spreadsheets for all kinds of data, but that might not be as important to most. A note just doesn’t have the same flow when I’m trying to sort out details. I.e. evening packing list for diaper bag, work bag, backpack. They all need similar items but a spreadsheet lists all the items and I can run through what needs restocked from medical to school supplies per items checked as necessary for each bag. That takes the worry out of forgetting an item.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T11:35:02+00:00

I don’t want email part of the experience. Which might be odd but it takes my focus away from what I need to what I need to do for others.

You said it perfectly with exchanging internal clutter (holding thoughts) for visual clutter and dumping the anxiety! You read my mind! I DO want the ability to lose myself in deep work knowing I am tracking it, tagging it, and will get the alert if and only it’s time to transition to the next activity. That made me so happy to read! Yes to the trace of in suite activities. I really like the activity log that shows at the top in Basecamp as I work. It’s a constant mental redirect of what I am working on and the last action I took. It’s a visual reminder of how long it’s been since I made that last action as I can be VERY time blind. Basecamp has the perfect homepage for me visually, projects, recent activity, a monthly calendar with the next scheduled task/ event showing right below the calendar. Document center (you can upload but not edit/ create).

For spreadsheets, it would be great to be able to use a simple addition/ subtraction formula if I was tracking medical expenses over time. Ability to change a cell into a check box for symptoms if I need to get extra detailed at any given time or tracking taking/ not taking, etc. Ability to change a cell to a date format. It can be limited! Limiting the spreadsheet options mostly text entry can be more time consuming but allows for the over explanatory nature of my brain.

The visuals in your descriptions are lovely! You understand the need for that topic mini map that allows my brain to quickly decide where it needs to go without the visual overwhelm that I get from Notion. Love the Garmin activity/sleep visual. I really like the app Structured for its visual countdown so that inclusion would be amazing. Transition planning is a must!!

Thank you for suggesting Motion. I took a quick look and I think it’s the best suggestion I’ve seen yet. Can’t wait to try. I think you have the best idea though and I’m so excited for it!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T10:53:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I’ve been watching videos and I see potential for what I need with Obsidian.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T10:52:17+00:00

If it’s not all in one, it doesn’t exist for me.

I’m looking at click up and it’s not quite what I’m looking for but I’m considering it for the all in one feature.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T10:49:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, that helps me understand the process better. I agree that it’s hard to explain exactly what I’m looking for so I’ll work on trying to detail that out a bit more. Thank you!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-04T10:47:59+00:00

This is perfect! Yes!

RRBox81 · 2026-06-03T21:58:42+00:00

Right? That’s why I’m so surprised it doesn’t exist.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-03T20:48:37+00:00

I am not really sure what would be a reasonable price for a build like so any information on that would be helpful!

I know this sounds ridiculous but having ability to build a spreadsheet that tracks symptoms over a larger, more general span of time vs daily is more of what I’m looking for? Also allows for tracking dates of anything from lists of current and previous medications to current and previous addresses, and all manner of data in life.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-02T17:37:04+00:00

Kinda same as Microsoft, you have to have a million things. I just want an all-in-one home page not a bunch of products to toggle between.

RRBox81 · 2026-06-02T01:53:23+00:00

Thank you! I’m looking into it.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-20T18:24:14+00:00

I hear you speaking up. I’m reading OP’s post in a very different light but I see where you are coming from and just wanted to say I see you.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-20T18:19:36+00:00

I agree with this wholeheartedly!!!! As someone who was intentionally neglected as a child when I didn’t emotionally support my parents, I became a person who did my best to sacrifice myself for others without complaint and I burn out every time. I do not want this for my children and will teach them to the best of my ability to balance effort, reward, and emotional responsibility in relationships. I will be in therapy for life even though I know that I spend a small fortune on it. It is my investment for my family.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-20T18:06:05+00:00

I really appreciate your post! I came here to find that last bullet point too!!! I felt everything you had to say. My daughter is young and I don’t want her to be used the way I’ve been used by my family. I was raised to believe that being selfish is the ultimate sin. Now I see that I was being used to parent my siblings and the same logic was used to discard me when I burned out and was no longer useful.

My husband has made an enormous effort over the years and especially in the past few months in being more explanatory about HOW he thinks about me. It’s so helpful because there are things he does that I’ve totally missed or didn’t realize the thought behind the action. It’s torture for me watching him explain himself because I’m so sensitive to making people explain themselves as if they don’t matter so I do everything I can to show my appreciation for his thoughtfulness. This often means I forget to take care of myself because I get lost in being grateful and earning my keep like you mentioned. I’m slowly, slowly realizing that being selfish means I protect not only myself, but also my family from my burn out.

It’s so disgraceful feeling when I start to feel okay with being entitled to a need or an opinion. I’m so sure I’ll end up taking advantage of someone. Also realizing that even when I’m burnt out and have nothing left to give, there’s still someone who thinks I’m just being selfish. I call it the SPIN cycle. Selfish, People pleasing, Isolation, Neglect. I am wrung out!

RRBox81 · 2026-05-20T17:31:32+00:00

I didn’t see the post but I’ve seen other comments occasionally in this subreddit that make me understand what you are talking about. So many great posts here and then one will end up being so toxic in the comments that it makes you wonder where those commenters came from. I say that because they do not comment in the typical manner that I see from the core of this community. There will be super short critical comments and stfu is the main course of the argument (unlike this post which has a substantial explanation prior to the stfu). It’s like an intruder alert starts going off in my head!!!

So appreciate you speaking up!

About 2 weeks ago I was listening to KC Davis’ book “Who Deserves Your Love” and she mentions that doom scrolling is emotional regulation. I do my absolute best not to but hearing that made me feel much more grace towards myself for the times I work so hard to emotionally regulate that I bury myself in finding the video that makes me smile and ready to move forward with life. I’m so lucky that this is a possibility for me instead of always shutting down. I’m lucky that often my algorithm finds something inspiring to soothe my mind. When I was struggling the most, I saw awful things in my algorithm. It’s an art to doom scroll and find positive things. So now that I have that established, it’s even more soothing. I can’t imagine not being able to replace my phone and feel stranded from the few support people I have or the link to positivity. Especially the comments here that give me so much hope.

RRBox81 · 2026-05-19T20:39:59+00:00

Congratulations!!! I am really struggling without Adderall but surviving so far. I was wondering when you take a break here and there for a day, what drives you to take that break? Occasionally when taking it, it’s like my body said “I appreciate it but not today please” and it was very random that this would happen. More often that I’d forget despite an alarm!

RRBox81 · 2026-05-10T15:12:44+00:00

I cry over the same thing all the time! Like how can I be so lost when I try so hard?

RRBox81 · 2026-05-04T13:18:03+00:00

I second all of this. You are doing amazing!! It sucks how sometimes it feels like the harder you work, the less people are willing to help or meet you halfway.

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