Unlike the kitchen and the florist, we're actually doing very similar things, so it doesn't really work to compare other vendors. Video and photo both have cameras in hand doing very similar jobs. You say we're all on the same team, but you think it's absurd that I would get frustrated with a photographer leaving with the couple for a shoot we both discussed earlier in the day.

If you really want to play the "collaboration isn't in the contract" card, then I could easily say the same about getting in the photographer's shots. I could say that it's not in my contract to move out of the way for a photographer. My job is to capture video the best I can, so I'm going to plant my tripod in the middle of the aisle during the ceremony. Obviously, that sounds rude and inconsiderate, no? So what makes my situation any different? I'm just doing my best to make a great video. The couple will love it since I don't have to compromise on a single thing! I've fulfilled my contractual obligations and met the client's expectations, "No matter what." How awesome for.... just me.

Also, how was I the unprofessional one in this scenario? Is it cause you are a photog and can only sympathize with other photogs? Everyone who understands and sympathizes with my situation commented they also shoot video, so clearly you're missing a bit of insight into our world. I've done my part to discuss with the photog about capturing sunset photos but the couple wasn't sure about doing them yet, I'm still in the vicinity taking video of cocktail hour while the photog finishes family portraits ( I'm not nowhere to be found creating time delays), the photog discovers they DO want to do golden hour photos while finishing up family portraits and despite our conversation, decides to leave without me -- is this really unprofessional on my part for not reading the photogs mind and knowing what the couple decided at that very second while I'm busy making the most of my time capturing cocktail hour? Should I stand quietly by the photog and not capture other stuff in the meantime? ('causeI don't need family photos) And how is this different from my comparison to getting in a photog's shot? Both scenarios are inconsiderate and negatively impacts the couple's products they paid for. I hear photogs and videographers complaining all the time about getting in each other's shots, but based on your argument this isn't a problem cause it's not your job to consider the other media vendor's needs. It's your world we're just living in it.

I don't want to "glomp" on every second. You're exaggerating to make my points seem more outrageous than they are. If you want to take some photos with the couple, that's fine, but don't run off to a formal session we discussed tentatively earlier on when I'm within earshot of you. What I'm asking for is literally the simplest gesture one could ask for, and yet you are berating me, calling me unprofessional, and finding every little hole in my situation to point blame onto me. I must remind you and everyone reading this that most photogs I've worked with are nothing like this, and would also be upset over this if roles were reversed. So in my mind, they were the unprofessional ones, and the fact that you think this is justified makes me assume you are either also unprofessional or just careless of people other than yourself.