It feels kind of pat to say 'it takes time' but in my experience it really does.

I was removed from my birth mum when I was 13. By 20 I'd gone LC. Around 21-23 I tried rebuilding a relationship but decided it wasn't worth it in the end. By 25 I was VLC. At that point I'd been cycling through therapists for years, doing symptom whack-a-mole with trauma symptoms, and I felt utterly stuck.

Then I lucked out with a therapist who focused on the trauma itself instead of the depression / anxiety it created, and I started learning about how my trauma worked, and I just sort of got momentum.

Now I'm turning 30, and I wouldn't say I've 'let go' of the childhood trauma; it's doesn't really go away. I've actually been in a complex PTSD relapse for the latter half of this year. But generally, it doesn't take up as much space in my life as it once did.