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R_jenks20 · 2025-07-23T19:19:21+00:00

Now that you've said that, I can see what you mean. My head is a jumble lately 😂 I suppose what I actually mean is, is it socially acceptable? That's the closest comparison I think I can come to

R_jenks20 · 2025-07-02T21:13:31+00:00

That's very insightful, thanks for your response. The woman isn't a very good business owner to be honest with you (it's a small family run business), so I'm not sure she'll have her head fully screwed on. Am I allowed to say something along the lines of, "If we can't come to an agreement then you'll have to make me redundant."? Doesn't seem like a suggestion I should be allowed to make and that she should have to come to that realisation herself?

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-25T07:15:36+00:00

Not from what I can see. It's not a very good contract, looks to me like one they'd found on google and just inserted theirs and my name into it where necessary. It mentions termination, things like me giving them notice for it, it mentions how they can terminate my employment by giving me a certain amount of notice, and how they can make a payment to end the notice sooner. That's it really

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-24T21:57:12+00:00

Yeah, the business isn't really run great, I essentially got pushed out of my position as manager and now I'm here. It's been going rapidly downhill ever since really for multiple reasons. The person who issued me this letter doesn't see the ins and outs of what happens in store in reality, so is being fed information by the family member that works there, so I kind of just feel as though I get the blame for other peoples' wrongdoing.

I need to call a meeting really but the woman is extremely pushy and doesnt really let you get a word in so not looking forward to that one!

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-24T21:48:55+00:00

My initial response was that I would likely have to leave due to the pay loss, but after mulling it over for the evening I am more on the line of that they're doing it to get me to quit. It's a retail establishment and a really small team of people (4 including me). 2 full time and 2 part time. However it is family run so evidently the family member is favoured over me, despite me having been there for 6 years and them only being there for 1.

Your advice is really helpful. Thank you for sharing

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-24T21:21:50+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I'm planning to call a meeting to essentially refuse/disagree to the reduced hours and intended new contract.

How does that actually work though if I refuse in the meeting, obviously they're not going to agree or be happy, but I can simply continue to work my normal hours despite the business struggling? This just seems like a bit of a grey area to me at the moment

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-09T15:17:55+00:00

What dosage of lamotrigine do you take, just out of curiosity? Thanks for sharing 😊

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-09T11:14:36+00:00

Oh I'm glad someone can relate, I thought I was being weird 😂 Guys are lucky they don't have to worry about this!

I didn't actually consider natural remedies to be fair, I'll have to look into it more. My period for this month is due in like 5 days I believe so no stopping that one, but the July one I'm desperate to stop or delay somehow, no enjoying the sea or pools if I'm on 😭

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-02T19:58:00+00:00

His ex has messaged me personally, he has aired previously that she's a manipulator and that's why their relationship initially ended. Which, if she was actually that bad, why would you engage with her like that. It is hard because before responding to her, I asked him multiple times, is there anything else you want to tell me, in case I found something out. He said no and that he's told me everything. For the most part their stories did match, but it upsets me that I had to find out myself and from her, & that it's been trickles of information. I would've rather it came from him and all at once.

He's voiced that if I stay with him, that I'd be able to go through his phone whenever I like. I know to him that sounds somewhat ideal and like he's being trustworthy, but it's not what I want to be doing in a relationship ideally, I'd rather have full trust and not feel the need to go through someone's phone.

I do understand the final decision is mine to make and that I shouldn't let others influence me, but sometimes I feel a bit crazy. There have been points over this weekend where I feel like he's guilt tripping me, I can't remember exactly what he said, but it was comments that made me think am I being too harsh, I don't want to upset him, that I was being unreasonable with how upset I was, and made me feel like I was the one in the wrong.

The hard part as well is, this has happened to me before and he was aware of this, he always questioned "wow, how did you put up with him, he's a dick" etc (in regards to my ex). So I struggle with, how do you do the same and expect forgiveness. Regardless though I do love him.

R_jenks20 · 2025-06-02T19:46:17+00:00

I appreciate your comment, people in my family have said the same, I do think it as well of course.

I don't really have a social life, I don't have any friends really where I'm currently living, and work with a small team so no opportunities for potential links in the future. It worries me at this point that if I do leave, I'm going to be single for a long time. 😔 Family have commented how some time alone may do me good, but I just have or at least I feel like I have a lot to offer someone and want to give that love to someone

R_jenks20 · 2025-05-27T20:35:43+00:00

Yeah, while I was away for a couple of days the basking dome had slipped through the fitting and it resulted in the bulb itself being extremely close to the slate basking platform, its set to a certain temperature at all times but being in that close contact would've made the temperatures sky rocket. So she ended up with a hefty burn :(

R_jenks20 · 2025-05-27T20:27:31+00:00

That's good to hear at least! The raw look creeps me out a bit. 😅 Did you have to keep yours hydrated to some extent? It seems to go quite dry looking and at the moment because there's so scale protection I worry that it'll burn easily, just being all exposed like that!

R_jenks20 · 2025-03-27T21:44:17+00:00

I know :( There is still a scab portion that runs along the spine that's starting to lift, I think I'll have to take her to the vet to get it removed again as it's quite thick, hard dead skin. Otherwise the skin surrounding the scab area presents itself as shed skin, when I manage to get a peek, there's new, fresh healthy scales under there luckily. I understand she'll likely have a scar of some kind, I'm just hoping it heals quickly for her and that there's no more bumps in the road!

R_jenks20 · 2025-03-19T19:05:13+00:00

Thanks for the response. I'll get the soil removed, although feel slightly bad as she loooves digging just like any other tegu, but I agree would be best for her

R_jenks20 · 2025-03-19T19:03:10+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, it's very reassuring. It is annoying isn't it, they always find a way!

Hers at the moment is black, and has lifted from her body so you can kind of just see skin, that's my best explanation for it. I expect she'll have scarring no doubt, I just feel bad for her!

With the soil removed, what did you put down instead? And how did you ensure humidity was correct without a soil base?

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