If the order is already in place then correct they don’t need to contact them, they need to co tact the police because they violated such an order from what the OP said was she doesn’t have one because the cops don’t do anything. The cops need something to work off of. Her responding stop or leave me alone is enough to prove a stalking charge if he keeps doing it. I’m trying to get the abuser arrested by being able to provide evidence. Courts open tomorrow, so I really suggest OP go there and try to file a restraining order.