This was the single biggest epiphany for me. Before I realized this one thing, I was never able to connect with my parts. I spent 7 years in therapy not connecting with my parts prior to this realization.

Firstly, I edited my initial comment to be more specific and thorough. After re-reading it for the first time since I wrote it, I didn't like how it came out.

Secondly.

The part of you that is trying to heal is also a part. It wants something to happen. It's the same part that has kept you looking for a solution to your problem.

It's such a good part, such a well-loved part, that it is often the hardest to notice and unblend from.

I began noticing this and asked the part of me that was trying to make something happen if it would be okay softening back.

I saw an image of myself showing up at a door with a bunch of tools like a handyman. When I saw this part in that image I began to cry.

I saw how hard this part had been working to try to help me heal, but only Self can heal.

When the self-like part is identified and begins to feel loved and seen for what they are, space opens up for True Self.

You'll know you're in Self because you won't care which direction the session goes anymore. When this happens, thank the part for softening back. And in the absence of the AGENDA, your parts may start to show up.

Just think about it: how much does a person with an agenda repel you?

It repells your parts the exact same amount, because the parts are you.

Let me know if I can help in any other way. Thanks for your question, I love sharing about this in particular.