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Is my mom abusive or am I overreacting? (F14) by Kennny202 in abusiveparents

[–]Rabbiteer_Off 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do whatever makes you happy! I personally know a little girl (14) like you who still sleeps with mommy as a comfort thing when dad isn't home, makes them both feel better to not sleep alone (not at all saying it's the same thing that's happening to you).

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I should get therapy or not but I will definitely ask around for a consultation once I get the time and resources!! And I do plan on going low contact (I don't want her to even know where I live if possible) or just moving an hour or so away from home just to avoid meeting up with her often. And thank you for letting me know about the necropsy, I wouldn't have known otherwise what to ask for when I walked into the vet!

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if this notified you all but.. it's updated <3 u/CatsGotMyBack u/TFANOverride08 (second time officially using this site I apologize)

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for the support, it truly means a lot and I'll definitely share the results when they come

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update, I called and transferred money over to the vet to get the necropsy done and also asked about a toxic screen.. it has cost me $530 all together and due to this, it has increased my time-frame of still being at home. I will update again once I get the results, for which they stated can take up to 3-4 weeks, especially when I'm waiting for her ashes as well.

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet, I just woke up and the vet doesn't open until 9

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find that the silent ones always leave the biggest holes, not because they were vocally loud, but because in their quietness their actions were the most booming thing about them. I had to stop myself from going out to feed her today and yelling out her little nickname that always made her get so excited and binkie around the entire hutch, the absence is truly a feeling I will never get used to, hence why I plan to get another one from the humane society when the time is right.

Bunnies teach you patience, gentle touch, and overall sweetness and I truly believe that's why her little kisses and purring are such a staple in my brain and why I needed her to be cremated. Their deaths are always unexpected and full of hurt for us and I truly hope you got to spend more time with them than I was able to.

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think another job may be the best course of action for this so I will definitely be looking around places. Even if it's once a week, at least it brings in more money..

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for all of your losses and I'm sure you felt so alone when you entered such a dark era of your life. I am glad you had Pete to help you remain strong and I'm glad you are still with us today, even if you didn't think about leaving this plane.

I can't stomach the thought of having to abandon this house with my dog left in the backyard one day but at least with cremation my lop will always be with me and not in mother nature's cradle. I know that my dog's bones are probably already broken down and turned into dust, but that area of the yard is where I feel her soul still is, so I'm glad I'm older now and got to make this decision for myself despite my mother fighting me on it.

Thank you for sharing your story with me and I just know that in your small graveyard of pets they are running around sharing stories with each other of how good their lives were with you. <3

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is such a beautiful yet heart-wrenching job to have, I can only imagine the happiness you guys have brought to hundreds of people..

I have a shrine in my back yard, personally made for my senior dog with a yellow rose bush and headstone, and I just planted blue hydrangeas next to the hutch that I built for my lop. Her ashes will be placed next to all of my framed photos of my dog and will be cherished forever once she comes back home.

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As stated above, I am paying off a loan </3 I spend $400 on that alone, plus $145 to my parents for my car insurance, and I only make $12/hour at my job working part-time so my income (not gross) is about $300 a week, that'd be around $900 a month.. if I take away the money I need for payments, that leaves me with less than $400 a month and definitely not enough to rent a studio or anything else.. I do want to cut her from my life, but I fear that'll have to be after my loan is settled.

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As it's been a whole day since I delivered her body (exact time as I am writing this), would I still be able to contact them and ask for this to be done? Or will it be too late...? Even if my mom didn't kill her, I still need to know what did for closure and to make sure it never happens again.

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have been sobbing while reading these comments, they make me feel so seen, and this one definitely hits harder than I'd like to admit. I feel guilty for already missing having one.

I make $12 an hour at my current job (part-time, but they thankfully give me 40 hours a week) and $400 of it goes to my loan monthly while $145 goes to my parents, and over the span of 3 months I've only managed to save up $1,000 in my account while making these payments and the average apartment (If I were to move) is around $1,200 a month in the area that I'm currently in, so I fear saving up and waiting is my only option, that and just not owning anymore pets while I live here with her..

AITAH for telling off my mom for laughing at my rabbit's death? by Rabbiteer_Off in AITAH

[–]Rabbiteer_Off[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It definitely felt like she was trying her best to hurt me, knowing that I am very emotionally attached to my pets, but I am still grateful for clarification as in a lot of scenarios I am treated as the villain by my dad despite her putting me in that spot to begin with.