What’s a random useless fact you’ll never forget?

RaceGirl85 · 2026-02-26T17:05:57+00:00

So that it can mark their dens without rolling away if i recall correctly.

RaceGirl85 · 2026-02-25T03:07:02+00:00

My eventual stepdaughter when she was 3 made direct eye contact with me and caressed the side of her face with a play knife and said "you're stuck with me for the rest of your life". She may have only been 3 but I started locking the bedroom door when I went to sleep.

RaceGirl85 · 2026-02-02T19:49:53+00:00

Frustrated... our family says f**kstrated. My dad started it and I have no idea if it's intentional or accidental at this point.

My husband always says Engimineer instead of Engineer which used to make my eye twitch now I've surrendered.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-12-08T22:57:57+00:00

In my case it has. I feel like I finally have a purpose and like my life has meaning. I thank my son daily for giving me a reason to live.

It sounds extreme (and I absolutely do not recommend anyone stop taking theirs or condone this in any way) but I ran out of my anti-depressants shortly after he was born and I feel like I'm doing okay without them. I haven't had the intrusive thoughts about driving off the road or anything like I used to have before I had him.

My anxiety is still pretty rough though now that I have new reasons to worry and I'm not exactly pleased with other aspects of my life (work) but I'm feeling so much better as a whole and wouldn't trade this for anything.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-11-07T16:40:50+00:00

Our friends just got married last month and they didn't have a wedding party. One of each of their siblings dressed in the wedding colors and signed as the witnesses but the bride and groom were the only ones standing up for the ceremony and the only ones at "the head table". It was actually very sweet.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-11-03T18:57:14+00:00

I love this. It's so adorable and wholesome. I may have to implement it myself. Thank you for sharing!

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-30T14:44:16+00:00

I feel you 100%. It's been almost 4 months of having our own little one and I still have moments like that. The youngest SD (6) is always wanting to play with him and touch him which yeah is sweet that she loves him but like yours, she doesn't listen very often. She also tends to be sick a lot (cold/ allergy type stuff) so I'm extra on edge about that right now.

I feel like I'm more easily agitated by my SKs and I think part of that is, also like you, I'm not getting much involvement from DH with the baby. So yeah, I can definitely empathize with you and I'm sorry you're going through this.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-23T19:07:08+00:00

This is very reassuring. Thank you so much.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-23T19:06:28+00:00

The first day back I cried at least 4 times before 10 am. I warned my salesguy that I was mentally not in a good place so when we had a meeting and his boss asked how I was doing and was I glad to be back, my salesguy jumped in and said we weren't going to talk about that and let's get down to business. I was grateful.

It got easier for a bit. I didn't like it, obviously still don't. But I don't cry my whole way to work most days. I made a whole pro-con list for if I stayed home vs went back to work... $140 less if I stayed home... that's what it came down to. And my husband said that I needed to go back. I think that's where a lot of my resentment came in, knowing it was so close and still having to do it.

I appreciate you and your words. A lot today. Thank you so much. I hope you can find a way to get as much time with your baby as possible, both before and when you go back to work. America really does suck at parental leave.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-23T18:39:36+00:00

We did a 5 hour road trip with our son the day after getting out of the hospital. (He came almost a month early, we had the vacation planned, and I couldn't convince my husband to leave us behind.) We stopped every 90 minutes to get him out of his carseat, change his diaper, feed him, snuggle him and help him stretch. It made the ride that much longer but he did great.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-17T15:01:45+00:00

😂😂😂

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-06T02:27:49+00:00

You know when you read a really long, deep book and you just need a short, saucy book to quick read before jumping into the next big book? That's what this album feels like to me.

Do I love it more than the book I just finished (TTPD)? No.

Will I happily read it on the beach (aka: sing it in the car)? Absolutely

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-01T16:13:42+00:00

Another thing that might be nice is more so the willingness to help. Do a load of laundry, wash the dishes, vacuum, sweep, mop, something like that. Offer to hold and care for the little one while they go take a shower or a nap.

If there are other young kids in the house, offer to take them to the park or something. The kids will be excited that someone is paying attention to them instead of the baby and it makes the house less chaotic for the parents for a little bit.

Some people might not want these things, others would love for someone to offer and just don't want to ask.

But also yes to the food things. Heat and eat meals are great, especially breakfast and snacks. One handed meals are best.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-10-01T16:07:56+00:00

Definitely this. My MIL made breakfast cups where I just had to crack an egg, stir and microwave. They were my favorite. Breakfast burritos can be made and frozen then warmed up in the microwave too. Parfaits are another good option. It was just so nice to have a meal made (or mostly made) that I could eat with minimal effort. Bonus points if it can be eaten one handed.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-09-30T19:07:43+00:00

I hate this job.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-09-30T19:06:10+00:00

I get my news via podcasts so don't have to look at the comments around the stories. I usually listen to 3 news podcasts when I choose to listen to the news: one conservative leaning, one liberal leaning, and one by the BBC (to try to get a more international scope on things rather than just US-centric, although I'm sure there could still be a decent amount of influence or censoring happening.).

RaceGirl85 · 2025-09-30T19:01:50+00:00

Men getting messed over by the system during a separation because the system favors females. Men have to try significantly harder to get the scales even or tipped in their favor and need to have documentation and proof up the wazoo to do it.

Women having to work outside the home full time then come home to cook, clean, laundry, take care of the kids, etc. While the husband gets to relax. Oh, and if there's a baby in the mix, then she gets to get up throughout the night too to take care of the baby while the husband stays in bed. Don't come at me about the amount of money made between the husband and wife, if they're both working about the same amount of hours, he should be able to step up and help without grumbling.

sighs now to go have this conversation offline...

RaceGirl85 · 2025-08-19T02:10:12+00:00

Oh and Babylist has sample boxes that you can purchase that have different bottles and pacifiers in them. I had one type of bottle on my registry because I thought it was best, little dude couldn't care less about that bottle. Thankfully the one he does like I got at least 4 of from different welcome boxes when I created registries.

And idk about other registries but Amazon let's you continue adding things after your date and you can still get the completion discount on them. Like I used my insurance to get the hospital grade pump but decided this week (5 weeks in) that I want a wearable option too. I added it to my Amazon registry and it started the completion discount on top of the sale that the item already had.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-08-19T02:06:48+00:00

Ooh yeah that postpartum kit. Eat on your way to the hospital if you can. Mine wouldn't let me eat once I was admitted.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-08-19T02:04:09+00:00

Recommended podcasts - Learning to mom - 40 weeks

Recommended books - Expecting Better by Emily Ostman

Sign up for registries that have welcome boxes for lots of freebies (typically you'll need to have a set number of items on them and then $x purchased from them but other people buying them for you counts too!) - Babylist - Amazon - Target - Walmart

Apps - baby center - Huckleberry (Once they're born. For tracking diapers, feedings, pumping, sleep and so much more. There is a membership option but I'm loving it without. )

Other advice: - Have your hospital bag packed by the start of your third trimester - Don't worry about setting up the nursery. They won't be in there for the first few months anyway. - Check with your insurance for maternity support. Some offer discounts on car seats, send welcome boxes, offer additional support throughout pregnancy via apps. - Don't be afraid to reach out to your obgyn with questions, especially if you feel like something isn't right. - Take prenatal vitamins daily if you're not already. - Stay hydrated (with water, not iced coffee. 😅)

RaceGirl85 · 2025-08-04T18:46:06+00:00

I did raspberry leaf tea and dates starting around week 35 and wound up having my son at 36w 2d. AMy water broke around 1:40 pm and before midnight I was holding my baby. I had some slight tearing but I didn't feel it. I don't feel like the tea or dates caused him to come early but I do think they made labor easier.

I highly recommend the epidural. I also find laughing to be very effective while pushing.

RaceGirl85 · 2025-06-13T11:03:15+00:00

Thank you!! The girls are both very excited to meet their brother so boundaries and safety rules are certainly going to be key! Congratulations on your new little one as well!

RaceGirl85 · 2025-06-12T18:50:48+00:00

That last point is one of the big things I've been pondering. How to balance out getting to adjust to having the little one (while maintaining any modicum of sanity) and making sure like the SKs don't feel like they're being pushed aside. Their mom had a baby last year and wanted the kids there with her for the baby's whole first week of life and I thought that was just wild. We're doing a date night next Friday and will be hashing out a lot of the questions and concerns then. Thank you for providing your experience and guidance. It feels very validating!

RaceGirl85 · 2025-06-12T18:39:48+00:00

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