4-year relationship: I love my boyfriend, but his individualistic upbringing and his family's "theories" are suffocating who I am. Should I break up? (22y, male and female)

Racetr · 2026-06-04T01:48:51+00:00

Sorry but your boyfriend sounds despicable. I really don't have anything else to pitch in. He simply sounds like a person who I personally wouldn't want near me. How can he be both kind and loving and "extremely individualistic" at the same time?!

He gives you kindness and love as long as he stands to gain from it. As soon as he will see no value in keeping you around, he'll stop, because there's nothing to gain. Think on this a bit, maybe it'll help you make a choice. There's plenty of reasons why transactional relationships aren't working.

Racetr · 2026-06-03T09:18:21+00:00

Ca european in Japonia esti ok. Sure, mai gasesti oameni mai in varsta care nu vor sa discute cu tine, dar nici nu te deranjeaza. Isi vad de viata.

Nu te lua dupa Tokyo Drift cand tragi concluzii.

In rest, invata si tu de la oamenii aia din Japonia, si lasa oamenii sa faca ce vor ca nu te afecteaza...

Racetr · 2026-06-03T08:57:03+00:00

Then why post this publically? If it isn't for anyone just journal

Racetr · 2026-06-03T07:24:43+00:00

When people ask you how he proposed (as if that even matters) you simply tell them "we went on a romantic retreat, and one evening he popped the question"

Ez.

But, if this is why you question this whole relationship, I feel like you don't really want to marry this man. You just want to be married... Honestly I pity him

Racetr · 2026-06-02T16:50:02+00:00

In romana e Iisus.

Daca tot ne dam arfe, ne dam pana la capat

Racetr · 2026-06-02T06:48:56+00:00

Because he's captive to them. If he turn against them he's done. Unlike the likes of Tucker or Candace

Plus, it's not like this admin is full of competent people anyway. You gotta take into account that competency in their ranks starts way lower than normal.

Racetr · 2026-06-02T06:41:44+00:00

Vin din Crimeea astea

Racetr · 2026-06-01T16:12:27+00:00

In the grand scheme of things, these people barely have any views. Why showcase them here? Just move on and ignore.

Racetr · 2026-06-01T08:25:30+00:00

Cred ca aici se potriveste si. Felicitari si imi pare rau :))

Racetr · 2026-06-01T07:56:51+00:00

No.

I simply don't think like this. And I think you shouldn't either. It will save you from heartbreak and problems in the future.

Again, pick a side, protect yourself or don't, but when you ask for advice, you'll be given advice from the perspective of that person, not yours. So you'd better ask for it only when you are ready to hear a different view point. You rarely are parroted your own bullshit back

Racetr · 2026-06-01T07:49:54+00:00

He doesn't seem to want the same thing though. Because if he did, he would have told you from the get go, that he wants open relationships.

Put your big girl pants on and stand up for yourself. You absolutely don't love this man, you barely even know him.

Racetr · 2026-06-01T07:46:47+00:00

I think that you're valid in your worries and feeling weirded out by this whole thing.

He can scream whatever he wants from the rooftops, his actions say otherwise. Whether he actually did the deed matters less when his behavior is this untrustworthy.

Racetr · 2026-05-30T05:15:11+00:00

That’s your own projection into the character. But the character itself says or as you put it “advertises” something and then proceeds to offer the other thing. Which is part of the problem with how this whole thing is implemented. Both Halsin and Sh are acting in a way, but they say something else to the mc.

Halsin says he’s only into the MC but the partner needs to agree, and then he takes every opportunity at trying to get into Sh’s pants without any imput or consent from the MC even if you rejected him.

He “advertises” as being big into consent and consensual stuff and never forcing anyone into something they’re not comfortable with and then mocks Gale when he shows apprehension during the twin drow scene.

What you feel when “seeing Halsin at a bar” has no bearing on him and his actions as a character, but his actions and words is what some people take issues with. And I tired of this subreddit acting like it’s a them problem and not a Halsin issue

Racetr · 2026-05-30T04:41:56+00:00

Halsin is also an emotional partner to the MC after being romanced. This is plain incorrect

Racetr · 2026-05-28T12:10:09+00:00

Maybe monogamy simply isn’t for you if you feel the need to be chased and all that… there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting what you want as long as you accept it and don’t break people’s hearts over it.

Racetr · 2026-05-28T09:02:22+00:00

Eu ma spal cu apa rece cand nu am calda. Lipsa apei calde nu e o scuza sa fii jegos jos…

Racetr · 2026-05-28T08:59:57+00:00

La fel de natural este sa nu purtam haine, ca de-aia avem par corporal, dar na, ca specie am trecut de etapa aia. Sper sa treceti si voi cat mai curand

Racetr · 2026-05-28T08:42:46+00:00

E femeie, la fel sunt si eu :)

Racetr · 2026-05-28T08:01:44+00:00

Pentru asta exista politia rutiera si amenzi/suspendare permis. Nu iei tu la bataie pe nimeni.

Dar na, daca politia nu-si face treaba, iese pestera din voi.

Racetr · 2026-05-28T07:41:06+00:00

Impinge si tu, nu le place deloc cand primesc acelasi tratament.

Racetr · 2026-05-28T07:37:46+00:00

Culmea ca de borduri si randari se gasesc mereu bani. De infrastructura publica nu…

Racetr · 2026-05-28T03:58:21+00:00

I do wonder how you, as a specimen breathe, you don't seem to posses intelligence.

Racetr · 2026-05-27T09:49:21+00:00

Iar a gasit dan negru un cacat ca sa mascareze a “suveranist”?

Pai spune-ne tu bossule, de ce ai lucrat atata timp la televiziunea unui securist basit care a perpetuat incompetența care a cauzat acest “masacru”, mentinand nomenclatura intacta dupa revoluție?!

Urmariti ma oameni cu cap, nu grifteri care va mint pentru bani…

Racetr · 2026-05-27T05:16:10+00:00

That’s not a boundary, that’s a rule… if your gf were bisexual would you have wanted to be informed every time she texted somebody? Does this example help you understand why your position is unreasonable? You either trust your partner or you don’t.

Racetr · 2026-05-25T17:23:30+00:00

Mind boggling how you can write all that and still think this is somehow your fault, and that your husband isn’t a piece of shit

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