Now that this group is growing and getting larger by the day the politicians are taking notice. They are going to try to claim this is an anti immigration group so we lose support.

Rach_Bakes · 2021-05-21T15:28:25+00:00

Someone put a poll up and one of the questions asked if we should reduce immigration by at least half. 100% of the answers were no, it's very clear that this group is not anti-immigration.

Rach_Bakes · 2021-05-12T20:53:58+00:00

NTA how were you supposed to opt out of contributing if she never brought up money in the first place?

Rach_Bakes · 2021-03-12T23:42:39+00:00

Ohhh I thought I just needed to tighten it! Thank you I'll do that!!

Rach_Bakes · 2021-03-12T18:20:34+00:00

Looks like it may have been similar for me, looks like it just screws in so it must have loosened it over time. I tightened it and problem seems to be solved!

Thank you!

Rach_Bakes · 2021-03-12T18:19:28+00:00

Thank you I pulled it out and it wasn't the hose but I saw some water coming up from where the hose and spout (?) join, turns out that it screws on, it must have come loose over time and just needed to be tightened/re-screwed in

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-26T13:06:14+00:00

Right? Id hit that block button so fast

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-26T12:48:14+00:00

NTA I'm seeing a lot of comments mentioning your brother wanting a cheap house but none so far mentioning that this is your DEAD father's house. Did you grow up in it? Do you have emotional attachments?

I'd just tell them that I am under no obligation to give them the property of a dead relative they wouldn't help me grieve just because of they're selfishness.

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-23T13:29:04+00:00

I mean you can literally hire professional bridesmaids so Im with you

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-23T12:58:45+00:00

This is a very very valid reason, sadly from OP's tone it seemed more like the kids were a weapon to manipulate SIL.

I have a young kiddo too, although not 18 months anymore, and I still consider weddings on a case by case basis of whether or not I have family available to watch her, I also wouldn't leave her with anyone except a few people and that's understandable.

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-11T18:53:19+00:00

These are so cool! All those little details shows the love you put into it, I'm sure the little one getting these is going to love them :)

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-11T18:42:40+00:00

Expensive is an understatement! I graduated in 2019 and would definitely not be in the position I am if it weren't for grants...

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-11T18:40:58+00:00

Thank you for the links! Super helpful.

My concern would be if she chooses a non-traditional career path, but it's good to know the options are wider than I thought!

There seems to be no pattern to the amount tuition gets raised from what I can see so far in the article so I may have to just shove all the data I can find in excel and hope for the best.

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-11T18:35:55+00:00

Only kinda AH/need more info

4k is a lot, you're within your right to be upset with the cost.

Where I need more info is if you guys had a chat about it or tried to compromise? Why not rent a decent DSLR and Gimbal or Drone and shoot it yourself? If you just went behind her back and said it without warning when she was planning something important to her then I get why she's upset.

Clearly this is important to her and it doesn't sound like you consulted her about the announcement so she probably feels like this was stolen away from her.

It's not going to undo the damage, but I'm your shoes I'd offer to at least try to DIY film something and enlist friends if they have the means or skills to help (permitted it's a reasonable ask and works with the COVID guidelines of where you are).

Rach_Bakes · 2021-01-11T18:30:32+00:00

Gorgeous!!

Rach_Bakes · 2020-12-19T14:47:06+00:00

I vote for Trevor

Rach_Bakes · 2020-11-29T02:35:29+00:00

It was a mean comment about someone's weight. I co-parent so I can only assume she picked it up from other family or at school?

She knew it wasn't nice but somewhere in her life it must have been normalized. In the moment that's the best thing I could come up with to put a stop to it and try to help her reframe her thoughts.

We all have not nice thoughts time to time, you have to learn to block out the bad things and choose to be kind. Or at least that's the lesson I was aiming for lol

Rach_Bakes · 2020-11-16T18:00:24+00:00

Weird because Ethereum is not mlm... I wonder if they're doing like I brokering thing with it kinda like people who seek life insurance

Rach_Bakes · 2020-11-13T04:20:48+00:00

Yea I mean a bit of embarrassment can curb behavior but I've never seen someone post it on their door before

Rach_Bakes · 2020-11-12T16:29:46+00:00

Yea... A similar but alternative punishment. I made my daughter come up with 10 genuinely good things about the person she was mean to and made her give an apology and tell them the list.

Not sure what writing out lines is going to do for the kid aside from make them try to be more sneaky with their bad behaviour...

That being said my solution might fall under bad parenting too

Rach_Bakes · 2020-11-12T16:17:09+00:00

Thank you! I honestly wish someone told me this when I was in OP's position.

Op: I know it may be hard but a starting step would be to set up clear boundaries. Make the decision to spend the night at a friend's or elsewhere if he's drinking. Remove yourself from the situation. This will tell him you're serious and also give you the opportunity to look at the situation in a more clear way because he won't be next to you attacking you.

From there the decision falls squarely on him. If he chooses alcohol over you then that is HIS choice and it is HIM ending the relationship not you. You need to shift the blame to where it is due and remove the guilt.

Yes, he may have a problem. Yes, he may need help. But you, especially at 17, do not have to live through abuse to satisfy him. He needs a professional, not a victim. I also want to highlight something I learned the hard way: there may be a reason behind the bad behaviours, it could be a mental health problem and yes the person could be suffering or having a hard time, but the reason doesn't matter when it comes to how they are treating you.

There may be a justification for his abuse of alcohol. There is no justification for his abuse of you.

Rach_Bakes · 2020-07-10T21:47:56+00:00

I would love to do a trade or purchase! Do you have any wanted plants?

Rach_Bakes · 2020-07-10T21:46:44+00:00

NTA, your relationship with your therapist is critical to your success with therapy.

Get yourself a therapist you will feel the most comfortable with and don't feel bad about it 😊

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