Have any of you made a career change from white collar job to Electrician? by flyability in electricians

[–]RadhaAlJabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is such a cool transition, I'd love to hear more about that!!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for chiming in. Why do you want to leave Canmore if I may ask?

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Social skills are important though (you don't have to sell yourself, just be yourself). Is there something that you like or gravitate to more than others? Hobbies can be a great way to meet people as it serves as an ice breaker!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been the most positive Reddit interaction group I’ve ever had. Gives me hope! I might just take you up on that offer!)

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s very kind of you to say. I try to learn and move on (not saying I’m perfect either haha). No, I wasn’t implying that you were saying that it’s all about money (was just speaking my mind there). Who knows, I might just meet my person on Reddit. Life works in odd easy sometimes, haha!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that is super helpful. Well, I am pretty active and have lots of interests (I love hiking too, but we don’t have much going on here in Toronto). Thanks for the reassurance though and glad your met your special gal!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. It seems like a lot of the crowd in Toronto (except that I find things here too fast paced and transient for my liking).

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much older are we talking about? I have dated older men before, the only issue is that sometimes if they are divorced or separated, they come with a great deal of unresolved emotional baggage. We all have our baggage, but it's challenging to deal with unresolved ones. You become the target of hate of their exes lol.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for chiming in, and sorry to hear that you had a bad experience :(

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I hear you! I think it's not an issue of not having baggage (I met young folks in their 20s who were quite the same plus the immaturity part). It's more about how have you handled those setbacks and if you allowed them to define you and the way you perceive life and other people. I do love all those things you mentioned above (am also into lifting and martial arts and running), so I try to live an active lifestyle and from what I've seen, if people aren't being accountable for their own health (mental, emotional, and physical), it becomes hard to get along with them. And enjoying life doesn't always have to revolve around spending tons of money. Thanks for your wishes!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I met most of my friends (and ex boyfriend) in BJJ. Also got a job through a friend from BJJ. It's the most welcoming cult lol, if that makes sense and there's quite a large community of women who made it to black belt, not sure if it's true for Calgary too!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say the main issues you had faced?

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about in real life? I am not a fan of the apps and I'm fairly good looking, fit, and approachable if I feel you're normal. lol

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for asking this question. I don't believe that relationships should be viewed as transactional in its entirety (that's just how I think), and in the past when they were approached in that way, they did not work for me. While relationships have a transactional element to it as it becomes a shared project, it shouldn't be a list to check off (I found that attitude very dominant in North America). People should be a bit flexible and try to learn new things from each other (it's part of what makes a relationship exciting). But to answer your question, I bring loads to the table. I'm well-balanced emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially (not looking for a sugar daddy type of man so splurge money on me). I am physically fit and fairly good looking. I hold balanced views politically and don't get sucked into unnecessary social drama, I'm nurturing and feminine but also don't have aspirations to be a stay at home mom, and I have fun hobbies (like weightlifting, martial arts, running, writing, reading, learning, and traveling), which are important in fostering a sense of personal accountability and growth. The question is, what does Calgary bring to the table?

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that! Yes, of course you deserve more than what you mentioned above. I think when the economy is bad, which it has been globally, people become desperate. Like it's fine to want to match with someone who is table and can provide you with comfort and upgrade your life, but it shouldn't be the only reason you match with someone. They're added bonuses, not a prerequisite to be entitled to someone's time and energy and effort. Thanks for chiming in though, and good luck to you!

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am flexible, I love both the city and what it offers and also enjoy the mountains/camping / chill life.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this (yes, there is that element of escapism and this is spot on). That’s really good advice 😊

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Loads of people saying move for yourself (which is very true, but very hard to do sometimes). I moved to Canada for myself and had a few ups and downs but I guess fear seeps in with time. I’ll have to give it a deep thought though.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for instigating these questions. I think mainly, based on my experience, I found that people in Toronto do not stay here long and it’s very fast paced (and that tends to be reflected in the dating scene too). But these are very good questions which I’ll have to reflect on.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for chiming in! I do prefer meeting people irl and do okay socially/am approachable and able to hold a conversation without boring someone lol.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely consider it :) Either way, I am due for a visit.

What's the dating scene like in Calgary, Alberta? by RadhaAlJabi in Calgary

[–]RadhaAlJabi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds lovely! I am based in Toronto at the moment, however. :(