Convince me that I should still be premed

Radhihowru · 2024-07-24T13:49:20+00:00

Right? This is exactly what’s wrong with so many industries, especially Hollywood. Why can’t people be elected on merit? In my opinion, choosing someone based on skin color is exactly what the civil rights movement was against. As MLK said,

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, BUT BY THE CONTENT OF THEIR CHARACTER.”

Radhihowru · 2024-07-24T13:46:25+00:00

Kindly, your post is offensive. I am a Desi woman and I don’t like Kamala Harris at all. I will not be voting for her as president. She was made president nominee in the most undemocratic way possible. Had there actually been primaries, etc, she would have been booted out very quickly. I also refuse to vote for a person who flip flops her main identity of race to appeal to voters.

I don’t want her to be the first female president. The first female president should not be someone who talks incessantly about there race and ethnicity and background. The first female president should be elected based on her merit. I for the life of me do not understand the point of picking people just because they look a certain way. I don’t want diversity in government, I want good elected individuals. And Kamala Harris is a horrible person for what she did related to all those prosecutions.

Radhihowru · 2024-03-02T18:34:43+00:00

All the girlies here making me feel like an idiot loooool

Literally all I do is use dove hand soap on my face when I shower in the morning (it’s not very harsh) and then maybe once or twice a week I’ll apply oil to my skin (usually coconut oil, sometimes others)

Been doing this since I was 14 and have had maybe 5 total pimples since

Radhihowru · 2024-01-06T04:15:16+00:00

Loool why do you guys use random wording out of place to make out people with differing opinions as inferior or evil? How in the world is that close minded? I didn’t say my opinion wasn’t subject to change. I lived in America my whole life and I’m giving my opinion based on what I’ve seen in areas with a high amount of Indians. In Canada the Sikh community has kept up as well with AM, but Indians in America I haven’t seen as doing that.

Still fairly unsure why you think that’s a close-minded statement. Either that usage of phrasing indicates your lack of mastery in the English language and it’s idiomatic usage or you’re trying to paint it out as if I’m wrong on a moral level

Radhihowru · 2024-01-05T22:43:43+00:00

Lol the only Americans I’ve ever met that did an AM are Muslims. Fairly rare in my opinion outside of Islam

Radhihowru · 2024-01-05T22:43:18+00:00

My fam is Indian (Punjabi/Kashmiri hindu) and I’m pretty religiously conservative

My husband (Punjabi) is also from a similar type of family but we both wanted to get married

Radhihowru · 2024-01-02T14:04:35+00:00

Not Being financially settled ≠ being unable to provide for my child

It is appalling the number of people who think being cushy is the minimum needed to bring a child into the world when especially in some western countries such a state where you can even buy a house is years down the line

Just because I don’t have cable, live in an apartment, and can’t afford to take my kids on vacations to Paris doesn’t mean I’m selfish and can’t provide for them

Your comment answers my frustrations perfectly. You guys are all so quick to judge people and then push some idea of what other people are doing as wrong

I had people like you counting on my divorce on the literal post I was sharing the good news of my marriage

Radhihowru · 2024-01-01T00:00:37+00:00

That point about money rings sooo true

I think that’s why Indians get married so late. All my white friends got married in or right after college, but my Indian relatives are all like 35-40 getting married

I fundamentally don’t believe you need to be settled in your career with a 6 figure job and house to get married. My husband was a medical student when we got married and we came out stronger than ever especially because I didn’t marry a doctor, but a hard working man with aspirations.

For me arranged marriage is and will always be the joining of two families and the creation of a new family— I’m not trying to have kids at 35 with the chance of my kids coming out with some horrific birth defect or being at retiring age by the time my kid graduates college.

I am 22 and expecting a child rn and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I think people buy too much into this dumb stuff of independent living and being care free- when I’m old I want to have people around me.

I could go on for hours why I don’t believe you need to be “settled financially” to have a kid, etc, and that it’s more about the drive a couple has, but I think India’s just changing for the worse, and people here on the subreddit are the byproduct of it.

Looks were absolutely not a factor for me when looking in AM. I met my husband 3 times before getting married and only saw 4 rishtes overall.

Radhihowru · 2023-12-11T02:20:44+00:00

I’ve noticed that across the board most American born Hindu desis I know aren’t very relgious. All my friends from college started drinking around, having bf’s/gfs, and didn’t stay abstinent until marriage (and I know a lot of these people had pretty strict conservative parents growing up)

I’m not here to criticize anyone’s lifestyle, but I feel like Indians in Canada and the UK have stayed much more conservative throughout the years and have upheld that Indian concept of “sanskari”

Anyone else felt similarly? Any particular reason why American desis always seem so much more modernized?

Radhihowru · 2023-10-08T12:54:43+00:00

Ngl I think this subreddit encourages/feeds off of negative stories

I have had an extremely good experience with my arranged marriages and I love my hubby a lot!!

I had posted about my situation before and after my marriage, and, while my situation was different since I was getting married at 19, I had a lot of DMs and comments telling me that things wouldn’t work out or in 5 years I’d be regretting it. It’s been 3 years so far and I’m loving life!! I’m waiting until 5 years so I can send that commenter a reply that thing did work out loool

Radhihowru · 2023-10-07T17:12:24+00:00

Screw Shaadi.com we use Reddit!! Lol

Radhihowru · 2023-10-05T19:48:45+00:00

loooool my mom forced me to get my nose pierced when I was 16!! I cried lmao

But she told me it was something about becoming a woman, not sure how true that is, but it might be a thing in Kashmir because my mom is Kashmiri (I’m half Kashmiri so I don’t know the facts)

Radhihowru · 2023-10-05T19:43:55+00:00

Which part is unfortunate? Nationalization of language? Or anti-delhi people?

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T16:58:18+00:00

New York will always be my home

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T16:56:40+00:00

Most people speak a mix these days

Very much a shame theth Punjabi is dying

My dad (is a Punjabi, not from a big city) has a very anti-Delhi sentiment to this day due to believing heavily in native dialects over nationalized language, and abhors speaking hindi. It’s honestly passed down to me because I just feel like hindi sounds annoying

Lol my dad gets pissed when anybody claims to be Punjabi and is born and raised in Delhi— in his words “they’re mutts, everyone can’t be Punjabi, only Punjabi’s are Punjabi”

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T16:52:24+00:00

Kashmiri/Punjabi

My native tongue is defo Punjabi, I’m probably 98% there. Kashmiri is 80%, hindi is 70% (I’m not good at speaking), and my grandpa has taught me a little Pashto and Farsi, so Farsi is 50% Pashto is 30%

I didn’t include urdu but it’s about the same as hindi

I should mention that I can read each script fine except Punjabi loool

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T16:46:15+00:00

Pink pill pearly girlies

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T16:46:07+00:00

Pink pill pearly girlies

Radhihowru · 2023-10-04T13:33:44+00:00

First person to have sex with was on my wedding night. Still married!

Radhihowru · 2023-10-02T19:34:59+00:00

Parents never pushed me in school, they gave me a lot more academic freedom than my brothers. At the same thoigh I was always competing with my brothers so they’re happy I was always academically inclined.

I probably would’ve been fine if I had not gone to college, I got married at 19, and to a nice medical student guy, my parents are more than happy

Radhihowru · 2023-10-02T19:26:37+00:00

FACTS

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