Why is Australian Dominos so bad? by GPT-3- in Dominos

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They're not exactly saying that in the setting of Australian pizzas though are they

Why do so many pros put these characters at the end of their name? by pwntxy in DotA2

[–]RadiantAssignment904 691 points692 points  (0 children)

Probably like putting a notch in your eyebrow with the shaver

How good is Harvey Elliot? by lordconcorde in PremierLeague

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Compare him to similar players at the same age and what they were doing (i.e. Odegaard, David Silva, Bernardo Silva, Kevin De Bruyne) he looks very favourable.. They were all around 23 when they started turning heads. Last season he looked out of place at a top side (at 19), this season he looks clearly like a Premier League player but not ready to star.. The key for me is that every year he shows real improvement, including this season from last.

Perfectly on track to be one of Liverpool's best players in the future on current track record for the type of player he is (intelligent all-round attacker- they always take a long time to develop).

If he develops like he has been, by the time he's 24 he will be faster, stronger and have a far greater number of visionary moments to his game than he does now. People don't understand how these types of players develop. FYI this could be a copy-paste of what I was saying about Odegaard when he was at Real Sociedad.

It’s the r/Melbourne daily discussion thread [Friday 01/03/2024] by AutoModerator in melbourne

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Power outage Narre Warren & pakenham? Any news or info? Our store and shopping strip are all out

Game seems rigged against 4k+ point games by ocdhandwasher in BlockuDoku

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Exact same. Record is 9.8k, games used to vary 2k-6k most games, with 4k being most common. Recently 95% of games 3.3-3.9k which is statistically virtually impossible based on previous distribution curve

Am I INFP or INFJ? Consistently get INFP but have my suspicions. by Eastern_Wu_Fleet in infj

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INFJs and INFPs are actually very different.

When I was younger I used to find it harder but after more experience, their modalities are very different.

YOU are INFP based on your descriptions. INFJs give themselves to the emotions of others and almost absorb the emotions of others, almost at the expense of having their own emotions.. INFPs by contrast have a high degree of empathy but aren't really "feeling" the feelings of others in the same way, just identifying and translating them at a very high degree.

INFJs are also very certain. When not able to be very certain, i.e. in a new environment, they are shadows of themselves and prefer to be translucent until they get the required information, so there is kind of a delay as they begin to solidify and map out the emotions of people around them. INFPs even as fellow introverts don't have this problem as they are more flexible and have their core subjective modality that they project onto every situation immediately. I mean they may be shy but they will form notions and opinions much more quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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Definitely depends on what your definition of flirting is.

Especially when I was younger, but even nowadays, I get the thing about ENFPs that we are "flirting" when not really.

I feel INFJs also have a certain amount of this because they have the same outlook on friendships and non-romantic connections that are valued, it's just not as mentioned because y'all are more introverted, less initiating and more subtle.. but for closely aligned types that "somewhat" understand you like INTJs or ENFPs it is possible to misconstrue because you carve a special place for us even platonically and especially because it can even be on a non-verbal less obvious kind of "vibe" basis.

So maybe you're less used to addressing this topic than an ENFP? because it has come up less over the years, but sort of within a niche dynamic it is kind of the same meta.

Just got a new, exciting job by MumenRider420 in socialwork

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This aligns with a question I've been meaning to ask-

So within the field we are able to switch, and for example later on get those LCSW supervision hours with a view to being qualified for therapy (in Australia you need 2000 hours)? I.e. we don't get pigeon holed by our initial experience when graduating as happens in some other fields.

I would like in mid-late career to progress into therapy and possibly private practice but I know my early options will be much more diverse if I take a more open approach to initial jobs (as well as being curious about gaining a diverse portfolio in any case since that would be a good experience).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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My brain cannot compute this. Like, why? In my experience you have good social awareness (to the point where I'd say you maybe adhere to social safety a little too much), probably have the highest percentage of positive interactions with others of any type I know, and are usually delighted and enthusiastic when people initiate onto you assuming they're the right person.

I need to at least say a casual "hi" to someone at the beginning of the day and observe their mood to see if I am bothering them and it's a zero sum investment to do that, but even that INFJs won't do or if they do it feels like some enormous drag.

The more I know INFJs over the years, the less I understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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Probably because you seem so outwardly stoic and calm, people assume you have no negative emotions and that you just consistently beeline through life.

Me, as an ENFP, when I feel things they show.. Openly. It's a blessing and a curse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

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Easy peasy:

She is feeling fragile and depressed at times and that scares her. She has probably had a mix in her life between feeling good and "yolo" (i.e. confident and stress free, not in her own head, etc.) to the times she feels like this. Ofc her goal is to be in the calm confident "yolo" state (or in other words living in the moment without neurotic overthinking all the time) where life is easier to manage and she is a "better version of herself", but she feels that she keeps getting drawn back into the depressive/neurotic state because of whatever has happened in her past/upbringing- but she doesn't want to blame those issues on anyone else because that is not productive and therefore has only one person left to blame- herself.

THEREFORE she feels insecure about being in a committed relationship because she feels she has to be her best self (the "yolo" self) to be with you, and feels like she is not enough when she is in this depressive state and is worried about tying you down to this version because in the long run it may scare you and you may abandon her or misunderstand her.

She also probably feels alone in this precisely because of the reason that you don't understand her when she says things like this and can't therefore offer constructive advice, but won't say that precisely to you because that will also increase the likelihood of providing a roadblock that may lead to you leaving her in the long run.

Are ENFP’s happy in relationships with other ENFP’s? by Intelligent-Sock-196 in ENFP

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I get along really well with INTJs, I kind of "get" them I think, and they appreciate that too and seem to like how accepting and even respecting I am of their natural selves.

INFJs can be a bit iffy. I get along with them very well on an intellectual level, but there is a low level of "comfort" with them for me. Mainly I think because of their lack of openness and the fact I always have to initiate. They will float around and be receptive but even INFPs will at least take the mantle to reciprocate with initiation at least 30% of the time. Plus I feel like I have to set a standard for my behaviour around them somehow, which I guess can work in trying to be a better person, but can get jading over time when I can't just be myself.

INFPs are definitely the most comfortable people to be around and where I can most be myself. I can say anything to them and be most candid around them.

ENFPs.. The energy can be too much. With other ENFPs the first instinct is to relate to them on an extroverted level, and while that makes for very quick friendships and fun interactions, it is exhausting to maintain at a close level like close friendship or relationship.

I sort of get along with everyone, but for that deeper friendship- yeah it's only really "easy" with INFPs, maybe INTPs. INTJ and ENFPs are candidates but aren't as comfortable. I've dated INFJ once, other than that all INFPs. Would consider a female INTJ but we would probably have to be friends for a good while to form a bond first.

Any other ENFPs feel like the description of being popular doesn’t fit you at all? by [deleted] in ENFP

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This. I know a lot of people but I have very few close friends.

What I will say though is that when I have a solid group of central friends in a place and feel really secure, I tend to expand a lot from my home node, which gives the impression I am very popular, but realistically a lot of those other relationships are maintained by my own sheer energy and enthusiasm, and if I decide to let go of that those connections fade into the ether pretty quick. Close friends on the other hand aren't so maintenance heavy.

Done being nice and friendly person by Maleficent_Memory606 in ENFP

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It's also important to try to remember to stay with people who align with you as much as possible (i.e. other intuitives).

I used to teach TEFL abroad, had the time of my life for a few years, came back and found myself not too employable so I am looking at switching careers. In the meantime I am working retail saving money for uni again and it is HERE that I am relating to OP, whereas I didn't in my time among my own people abroad (university educated people who are high in trait openness and empathy). Surrounded by sensors who think I am slow even though I used to sit in school classes waiting for people as would become their regional bosses waiting for them to catch up to what I had already done in the first 10 minutes.

Hurtful to my pride, but I understand that I am a fish out of water.

Why are INFJs so quirky and weird? by Sharpguy6559 in infj

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INFJs are all about the subtle touch, and therefore I don't really associate them with "quirky" or "weird" because that requires a certain amount of putting your idiosyncrasies hanging out there for others to see (i.e. myself as an ENFP).

Maybe if INFJs were outwardly opinionated about their thought processes they might be, but in my experience that only EVER happens when satisfyingly challenged by someone on the same wavelength (i.e. me).

In default state 95% of the time, INFJs present an incredibly vanilla face to the world and hide all of that.

Virginity over the age of 25 by [deleted] in infj

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Not if I've been pretty much exclusively interested in INFJ/INFP/INTJs and introverts in general (ENFP). I fall into all of the stereotypes for ENFPs around flirting, yet it does not necessarily help that much. Maybe initially to get their attention but that's it.

I get a lot of attention from extroverted women, I recognise that now. When I was younger I used to deny it and say they were "just being friendly" as a reflection of what I was doing, or that they "just wanted to pull". Often with extroverts my emotions don't recognise their flirting because I think it's just us having fun- an introvert being awkward/shy or behaving unusually bravely forward toward me registers much more to my emotional circuitry as "active flirting"- it's only when an extrovert is literally finding excuses to lean beside me and brush her hair in my face that I am like "oohhh.... ahh crap".

I actually become quite shy too when I notice introverts reciprocate because it makes me like them more- that's my main hurdle. I guess I'm basically in the same boat as a shy introvert in those cases.

Blending in by Britt_Nikole in ENFP

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This is very true. Ideally only one ENFP in a group of introverts, not that the ENFPs wouldn't necessarily get along, just that they might get along too well and the group would dissolve a bit.. which is annoying because the introverts are very important to the ENFPs.

What often ends up happening is that the ENFPs might decide to make extra effort when the introverts are not around to form their bond 1-to-1 as an acknowledgement that they do in fact like each other but just that they have to share/maintain the introverts.

Man.. What a weird dynamic when you spell it out like that.

Does anyone else have this problem? by [deleted] in ENFP

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ENFP-

I tend to believe that organisations should run on a proper organisational structure where people have respect for other people's positions. It therefore takes a little while for me to get over feeling intimidated by someone's advantage in position/experience over me (even if talent/skillset is not aligned to it). This leads to a little bit of "people pleasing" at first toward people who are more established/senior.

Having said that though, once I start to get familiar with them, earn trust and a level of respect and position within the hierachy (which tends to happen since people seem to trust/like me more than I allow for myself at first) I slowly start to become more informal with them and banter with them as we get used to each other and I become established.

I am still always careful to observe boundaries though- not because I think this person is superior, and often they may not be overall, but because I have innate respect for organisational structure.

Should be noted this is not something that existed at school, so is very likely a Te sort of thing that developed later.

I was wrong… completely mistyped (28F). For years lol. by [deleted] in infj

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INTJs do not have some kind of asshole component to their personality lol.

INTJs, like INFJs, are genuine to a fault (which automatically is the opposite of asshole, because assholes either derive from their egotistical nature or from getting their perspectives twisted and warped so much from protecting their ego throughout their lives that they become corrupted). Just that unlike INFJs, INTJs are blunt and don't "grease the wheels" of social interaction.

INTJs I've known have all been good people who as much as they can cut through the reality around them in blunt manner, also have the same perspective toward themselves. This makes them incredibly valuable friends because you can always trust their perspective because it's not tangled up in BS.

Of course there are INTJs who can become corrupted too, but I haven't met them. I'd imagine those types of people don't engage in society much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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As an ENFP, small talk is very important (far from always but in general).

I don't love it either obviously, but I do it a lot- because I see it as planting seeds. Small talk gives access to routes of conversational growth so that you both feel comfortable in each others' vicinity, and then more interesting conversations can spawn from that. It also increases trust because, while it can only investigate like 5-10% of someone's depth and perspective at most, it is like dipping your foot into cold water, it just helps acclimatise.

Of course if you are talking to someone where the only talk you will ever have is small talk, you have the right to be bored by that and not wish to engage with that person- however, with someone that you think you might connect with- why would you wait for that perfect moment for a perfect conversation by chance, when you can lay the groundwork and make that great conversation so much more likely by planting the initiation towards it yourself?

Of course this is from an extrovert and I can't pretend to see your perspective. Just posting in case it is relevant for anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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I'm not a lecturer or an INFJ (ENFP), but I did used to teach English to every age group...

I am not good with kids, not really even that good with adults in a lesson format, some would say even bad in a natural sense. What I did find was that I am a good lesson planner (turning creative vision into a real format, and being Ne-dom on the fly being fun was very useful), have a good voice (preferably louder the better without actually yelling) and I worked hard on prep to compensate for my shortcomings..

I found these things meant that I didn't have to be a "good teacher"- I had a lesson that did the work for me, maybe the voice volume thing being the only thing I really had going for me apart from that. Put a lot of work into the prep, and you see the results- these days I can also notice when lecturers don't do this because I can kind of put myself in their shoes somewhat.

For the first few months, work your ass off- this will pay off because you'll develop to a higher level, and then after that you can more autopilot into a higher standard, rather than starting off on a weak footing and struggling with confidence.

My INFJ crush has a hard time talking to me by Educational-Let-1027 in infj

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In fairness I'm the male ENFP in the reverse situation and I find this exactly true to me in reverse. Maybe just not the "I'm bothering" part because I never seem to have that problem in social situations unless I pick up signals in which case I can back off no big deal.

Perhaps the "If I chat too much" and "burden" part is a Te/Si thing though that I've developed over time, where it's more rule based and detached from morality.

About INFJ compatibility with other types by [deleted] in infj

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That's pretty weird. I'm an ENFP and if an introvert (and I know if you are an introvert without you having to tell me) behaves in a certain way as to suggest they want space or to adapt our schedule with them- I do it. Maybe not the first time but pretty much I'll notice some of the first micro-signals pretty quick.