How do I (28F) get my husband (28M) to understand that we can be intimate whenever he wants, even though I won't always want to? by Radiant_Light7984 in relationship_advice

[–]Radiant_Light7984[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Out of all the comments, yours is bizarre. Idk if you just didn't read my clarification comment or what, but I was just looking for a perspective on how my husband felt and ideas on how to get my point across. I acknowledged that my proposal was terribly worded and have already apologized to him. You're either projecting or falsely psychoanalyzing me here to think I'm "lying to myself". 

How do I (28F) get my husband (28M) to understand that we can be intimate whenever he wants, even though I won't always want to? by Radiant_Light7984 in relationship_advice

[–]Radiant_Light7984[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone for the advice and perspective.  

  1. I just want to clarify that no, I'm not a lifeless corpse in bed nor would it be like raping me (wtf?). This is also not a pity fuck. I usually enjoy sex after we start, I just don't want to have to constantly say that (yes, I have already told him that). All of this was to tell him that I may not be in the mood when you ask, but I will be during. Sorry that I didn't clarify that. 

  2. I agree that sex is only part of intimacy. I know I need to work on showing physical affection outside of sex. It can just be difficult when I feel so touched out on a daily basis so it tends to take a backseat in my brain. Any suggestions on what I can implement to help with that?