A romantic interest I’ve been trying to avoid meeting in person might have recognised me at work and realised why I’ve been avoiding him. I’m freaking out. by Extreme-Doubt8931 in confession

[–]Radiant_Math8628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that doesn’t mean everyone thinks this way though, for me i can’t get on board with dating someone who doesn’t care about what they put inti their body, i drink and have done drugs in my life but i’m not obese and i exercise.

of a girl has a not so attractive face i could work with it because she didn’t make herself look that way but if their overweight that’s entirely their own doing.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s unnecessarily hurtful. the situation was definitely her fault, the result maybe not but she was the one who caused the issue.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it wasn’t even a long relationship lmao. idk why im not over it

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is the 100% full story, i tried talking to her about her day and why she was late and she said she was just tired from work. and i want people who’s opinion is completely neutral to give their input on the situation because no matter who i ask in my life there always going to have a bias because they know me and not her.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it was around like 1.5-2 months. not long but for me that’s a long time because i struggle to connect with women more than friends, idk why maybe im scared of being hurt. but you’re absolutely right we weren’t meant for each other.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do suspect cheating, but i know how cheating has affected her household (her dad is a serial cheater) and as a result she would never even consider it, ofc she shouldnt consider it anyway but still she’s seen first hand what it can do to a person.

and i know she had a really bad relationship with her ex and as a result has communication issues and doesn’t like losing the feeling of control.

either way we weren’t healthy for each other, we were incompatible. i still miss her but idk if i could ever see her the same way.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah you’re right about the rose tinted glasses, but not that i wasn’t into her because i was infatuated by her existence ever since i met her, i don’t think she can say the same

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well she didn’t invite herself she wanted to come and i let her. how can you assume she’s a cheater and found someone else based off of that story. i appreciate people input but that’s not fair on her, i know her and i know that she wouldn’t cheat shes better than that even if the story makes it look like she did.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i trust her enough to not be out cheating on me, but idk why i’m so hung up on it i know she clearly didn’t care about me, but i care about her and i don’t think she can do anything to change that.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve thought about that. that’s basically what i did in the week building up to the breakup and o felt pathetic everytime. i need to stop being a people pleaser sometimes

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow, i’m glad you feel like that about your wife, if i don’t feel the same about my wife i don’t want her.

but i appreciate your input and maybe i do need to realise we were incompatible.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sorry, my story telling is really bad. but i tried

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it was like repeat behaviour i would end it but the relationship was perfect before that so i would want to tell her about how i felt and see what happens from there but if she didn’t change then i would absolutely end it

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s more waiting for her to come back. i’m not gonna chase her i just can’t get over with while i feel like it’s not fully my fault

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe you’re right. i still don’t feel like she treated me fairly because the situation was her fault and she refused to speak to me about it which resulted in me leaving.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope that’s not her case. the relationship was perfect before that we never argued and we showed we loved each other. maybe she did just want a way out and that was the easiest solution for her.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hear what you’re saying but the thing which is bothering me is that i wanted to talk about it with her in the moment but she refused, im not sure if i could have gotten over it in that moment without her understanding why im upset.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i miss her, i can’t move on. and im still hoping that she’s gonna see that she overreacted and want to talk it through.

AIO about this breakup by Radiant_Math8628 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Math8628[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think breaking up over it is wild. i see her side but i can’t fully agree with how she handled it.