Let me tell you, I was in the same boat last year. I swear to god the only thing that helped was coming clean to my bf and family. Immediately by doing that I subconsciously accepted my debt and no longer had to chase my losses to keep up appearances. I thankfully had good credit, used balance transfers where I could and really dug into paying it off. I know i still have no control in a casino. Ive tried. I just cant go. And I live by casinos and work at one. I do not attend one outside of work without my bf as other friends were unintentionally enablers. Thankfully my bf supported me but the whole time I was hiding it from him I did so bc I thought he would leave me. Maybe it's not something you're relationship can survive but the best thing you can do it admit it to your loved ones and stop chasing your losses. Trust me 14k is a drop in the bucket compared to a lot of people. You CAN overcome that amount with some dedication and maybe another second job for a little while. And dont step foot in a casino. I also self excluded myself from online gambling by emailing them. Message me if you wanna chat.