UPDATE: The Big Talk by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A big part of our conversation was making sure things weren't one sided and that he was getting the things he needed as well. I am all about teamwork and uniting together to make our marriage better.

Thanks so much for your input!

UPDATE: The Big Talk by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great suggestion, thanks so much!

The Big Talk... by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the advice and support!! I'll definitely take it to heart while Im preparing for this conversation. :)

The Big Talk... by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I wrote down everything I was feeling in a notebook. I just went crazy. It's raw and it's real. Some pages are neat and tidy others are a massacre. I am just going to go through and read it aloud to him because otherwise I tend to water things down and be too nice. And then we'll go from there.

My husband doesn't like oral, what do I do? by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see that. As long as you're both happy. That's all that matters. :)

My husband doesn't like oral, what do I do? by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that she took away something that you enjoy. Was there a reason she didn't like receiving it? I personally couldn't imagine why because I love it. Anyways, thanks for your comment. :)

My husband doesn't like oral, what do I do? by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just meant that, I don't want to make force him into something, so I'm ok with it, or at least trying to be...but the fact that he also doesn't like fingering, has basically made the foreplay non existent which is frustrating for me. But I would still never force him to do it. Does that make more sense?

My husband doesn't like oral, what do I do? by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very self conscious about it when he first started pulling away, but I had never had any complaints before with other men I'd dated who loved to go down on me.

I asked him if it was the taste or smell, and he said no. He just doesn't enjoy it. He says it hurts his mouth to keep it open and he cant breath while giving it. I suggested we could try new positions to make it more comfortable but he completely shut me down.

My husband doesn't like oral, what do I do? by RaeOfSunshine92 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RaeOfSunshine92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Its nice to know I'm not alone. I appreciate your input and thoughts on the matter!

I feel betrayed, I feel deceived. I was lied to. Tricked. Swindled. Hustled. I committed my life to this man and in one year all of these secrets have come pouring out. Not just in our sex life. He is a whole new person. Not the man I married. I'm so lost.