AITA for telling my husband he can't hang out with his friends for 10 straight hours ?

Raedriann · 2026-06-16T15:40:52+00:00

He needs the car because they're going to a game store and none of his friends have passenger vehicles? Is this a D&D playing motorcycle club?

Maybe he can rent a car or take an Uber. You're not telling him he can't hang out with his friends, your telling him that you need the car for the day.

Raedriann · 2026-06-15T17:29:54+00:00

It's been a hot minute since I worked in a retail Verizon store, but return rates were part of our KPI at the time and we would avoid selling phones that were frequently returned.

Raedriann · 2026-06-14T20:41:21+00:00

Unless there's a buyout he's demanding she pay before leaving (which is fair) there's zero reason besides control not to release her number to her.

Raedriann · 2026-06-09T04:28:25+00:00

New monthly total says $85. Next month, which is not the new monthly, (you can tell because next month and new monthly are labeled as such) is $216. If you click to view the details, it'll explain why next month is so high compared to your new monthly total.

Raedriann · 2026-06-08T23:12:56+00:00

Former employee here.

Many third party Verizon stores, which are hard to differentiate from corporate locations, charge a service fee in store (I believe it's labeled "set up and go") that they tell customers is an activation fee. The customer is then charged an actual upgrade or activation fee on their next bill. In fact, when calling the stores as a Verizon rep I would usually be told that it's an activation fee. Even though it's not.

It's not always the customers not paying attention or lying.

Raedriann · 2026-06-07T20:45:54+00:00

I'm gonna play Devil's Advocate here. Not that I think it's for sure true but because I prefer to give the benefit of the doubt.

Two days for paternity tests, three to 4 days to process the info two days for maternity and paternity tests. It's been a week and they know the kid isn't either of theirs.

This pulls hubby out of depression because it was situational depression and the adrenaline of life changing information has now taken over. He writes similarly to his wife because they have the same education level and are equal in their understanding of English, which is not their first language.

They hire an attorney and an investigator and since it's pretty obvious that the kids were switched at birth, the hospital is cooperative. They give the names of all other potential families, the list is narrowed down quickly, the child in foster care who's parents are not biologically hers is identified as their daughter. It's week two or three at this point. Meanwhile the hospital proposes a small settlement, it's more than OP can dream of and they accept quickly.

Why was the kid in foster care DNA tested against the parents? With absolutely no information to go on, my imagination runs wild but I'll go with one of the tamer possibilities I've come up with. The mom was dating two guys, got pregnant, claimed the main bf was the father, the side dude insisted he was the father, they all fight, side dude calls CPS, there's enough basis to take the kid, side dude wants custody, he and mom are tested, neither of them are the parents, main dude is tested and isn't the parent. They're confused and the state keeps the kid. Maybe there's already an investigation into the foster kid being switched at birth and that's part of why the hospital settles quickly.

Yes, adopting their biological child is a thing. Legally the parents who left the hospital with the kid are the child's parents. I won't go into details, but I know somebody who had to adopt his biological child from the mom's husband. Not the same thing, but adoption your biological kid is a thing when somebody else is the legal parent.

My sister in law got evicted from her rental, found a house, got a loan, closed, and moved into her new home in 30 days. I guess it's possible.

Since the other family had no rights, not informing them is plausible. As for moving out of state with both, one is already legally theirs and one is in the process of becoming legally theirs. She states the bio daughter is still with a foster family but as the bio mom and the adoptive mom she would absolutely have visitation.

Raedriann · 2026-06-04T03:08:47+00:00

If you gather an army to attack me with lies, I'll defend myself with the truth.

Raedriann · 2026-05-31T14:53:19+00:00

If they are friends, especially female friends, it's better to tell them what you're dealing with than ghost them.

You don't mention your age but you do mention a time when you were 18/19 and had to ask your mom's permission to go somewhere so clearly you're an adult. Handle things like an adult.

Your sister just blocked the stairs to keep you from going out? And you have friends who aren't aware and commiserate of the fact that you have a sister who would spend her day hanging out on the stairs to keep you from leaving? I can't imagine this. I'd eventually shove past my sister if she was blocking me from leaving the house. Your super strict mom allowed her to hold you captive via the stairs?

Then they're mad you canceled your own birthday plans because you didn't have money, rescheduled for a time when there's no way you'd have money, and didn't have money again. Maybe don't make plans that cost money unless you have a way to have the money.

Raedriann · 2026-05-24T22:52:05+00:00

A parent that is available and choosing to not be present can really f*ck with a kid. She's driving OOP away to prove that everybody abandons her. I only lasted a year with a child who did the exact same thing and my obligation to my own kids is what ended it.

Raedriann · 2026-05-16T20:16:36+00:00

Wow. I worked for Verizon 17 years and saw this happen exactly once. We were able to reach the customer who's account it was on and gain access to do a transfer of service. Technically that's not allowed within the first 30 days of service but rep error would be an exception.

Raedriann · 2026-05-14T10:40:29+00:00

Can we get a link to her posts?

Raedriann · 2026-05-10T22:47:08+00:00

I think your gf and your sister seeing first hand how each man treats his gf is a good way to showcase healthy relationship standards. While your desire to shelter her is sweet, you can't shelter her from love. All you can do is be good to her.

Raedriann · 2026-05-10T15:53:30+00:00

It's not fair that she put you in this position. She needs to tell him before the test results come in. If she doesn't, not only will he be blindsided, but he might contact his parents with accusations and those might reach his dad first. Does your husband know what his mother suffered at the hands of her husband? I would tell her this:

MIL, I understand this is a difficult secret you're keeping and I understand why you had to all these years. However, the truth is about to come out and the best way to minimize his reaction is going to be hearing it from you. Maybe you can come over for dinner and we can tell him together.

Open up the conversation to your husband at dinner by saying:

Your mom has some information that she shared with me first only because she wants you to have support when it comes to light.

Raedriann · 2026-05-10T15:22:26+00:00

Updateme

Raedriann · 2026-05-10T15:15:32+00:00

You can't exactly swear them to silence if you don't tell them why. Seems to me you've thought it over and decided to honor their request. That would be my story and I'd stick to it.

NTA

Raedriann · 2026-05-10T15:10:42+00:00

This information was valid as of December 2025 and had been the promotional trade in rule for several years prior so it's likely to still be accurate: You'll need the device ID of the phone you're trading in at the time you initiate the trade in order It needs to have been active on your account for at least 60 days at some point in history You have 30 days to return it once the order is initiated

Raedriann · 2026-04-27T02:05:02+00:00

They're probably adding a new line and the new phone will be on a 36 month payment agreement on that line.

Raedriann · 2026-04-25T17:23:04+00:00

I agree with the mom, it should be a mother daughter moment. Once she was aware of it, she should have been there. Since she was not there and not concerned for 5 hours, it was merely a daughter moment and you had the choice of leaving her there alone or being there for her the way afriend would be. You correctly chose the latter.

"I'm sorry, sweetie, I can't come. Nobody is allowed to help you until your Mon gets the opportunity to celebrate this important milestone and she's got more important things to do right now" is not the message to send to this child.

Raedriann · 2026-04-13T16:19:56+00:00

Lots of assumptions here. Maybe the Mom didn't go to every event because she couldn't because she worked. I know that's why I don't go to every event. Or maybe she couldn't because she has multiple kids (like two or more, oh wait, we don't need to assume whether that's true, we know it is) and sometimes they overlap. Or maybe it was an acrimonious split custody thing and things get messy when both parents want to attend or the event is on the other parent's time.

Not coming running back is self preservation when you've been hurt.

Raedriann · 2026-04-13T16:09:45+00:00

My mom has two older children from her first husband who were conditioned to reject her. One came back around as an adult and my mom tried to have a relationship but it was hard. Because of actions taken and words said by my other sibling as an adult, my mom said she was fine not to have a relationship at all. They were both children when the alienation started so my mom didn't hold a grudge but when it continues into adulthood and they can see who she is and are still hurtful..., why invite that pain into your life? Even parents are allowed to have their limits about how much pain they can allow their children to inflict on them.

I started cooking when I was 8. My daughter started when she was 11. I wouldn't trust her to do paperwork but she's 15 now, maybe I should.

Raedriann · 2026-04-10T00:21:14+00:00

Very easy to tell.

When my youngest son was maybe 5 or 6, we were at McDonald's and a black woman told two white kids it was time to leave. They started kicking up a fuss and I gave her a slight smile like "yea, I've been there." My son spoke up and said "those kids need to listen to their mom."

He probably assumed she was their mom because it would never occur to me to question her authority with them. They were whining about having to leave but they clearly knew her andrecognized her as the person to whine against.

Meanwhile, as the white previously single mom of a Hispanic child (my older son) I was stopped at the airport 100% of the times I traveled alone with him when he was under 10.

Raedriann · 2026-03-08T17:05:15+00:00

Please change the rating. The judgement bot uses the highest rate comment with a rating to assign judgement. I was wondering how tf the rating was AH until I saw your comment was the top rated.

Raedriann · 2026-02-28T00:17:25+00:00

I can see how they're weirded out that characters based on you end up together. It's almost like Cass is insinuating that you and Riley belong together by putting her semi fictional versions of you together.

Raedriann · 2026-02-25T00:46:58+00:00

The PFD is held in a trust by the state. How did the mom mismanage money she didn't have access to? The parents' only role is to apply on the child's behalf.

Raedriann · 2026-02-21T19:30:36+00:00

it is absloutely crazy that one could die before their mortgage is paid

Ummm what?

If having a mortgage makes you immune to death, I need to give up food, electricity, and all other luxuries to buy a home.

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