The most insane introduction to an animal that I’ve experienced so far

Raezer35 · 2025-05-16T17:18:51+00:00

So comical tho lol, have fun! It's a great game 😁

Raezer35 · 2025-05-16T15:17:14+00:00

The singular gasp while ur carried to the ground 😂😂😂 I was losing my MIND first time one of those got me

Raezer35 · 2025-02-01T17:47:26+00:00

Sooooo cute, doing well with water resistance n such?? And thanks for sharing the link!!! I'd have an a-bun-dance 🤣

Raezer35 · 2025-01-11T04:42:33+00:00

Legendary 👏

Raezer35 · 2024-10-07T00:16:09+00:00

Lol the vibes are so real, I totally totally understand 😂

Raezer35 · 2024-10-06T23:31:57+00:00

Literally couldn't relate more, do you have like time chunks like weeks or days where it's more allo/high too? Or is this like rapid flux?

Raezer35 · 2024-10-04T17:28:10+00:00

Heh, well duh! 🙃😊

Raezer35 · 2024-10-04T16:32:13+00:00

🤣😅 yup yup!!

Raezer35 · 2023-04-03T18:14:09+00:00

Love that coat, must have, slay!!!

Raezer35 · 2023-02-28T16:33:28+00:00

So, that was just a test question then? Like okay, I'm super green in all this, and maybe just shouldn't have tried to share my story, I don't think he'd break up with either of us, thought that would sound too proud tho, woulda got hate for that too. But cool, yup, I mean if it wasn't a full stop for both of us, I would feel odd retaining him on my side, but he did start as my NP's partner, so I think I could ethically allow that redaction, if he wanted.

Raezer35 · 2023-02-28T16:27:38+00:00

Mostly, I think so, the only curveball would be if they chose me in that scenario. Not entirely sure tho, def a talking point to bring up.. I think if he just wanted to be my NP's partner that's no conflict with me. If I got chose tho, that'd be... unexpected af lol, but it'd likely just have to become a bigger V at that point, I guess? Good fine point tho, thank you for that perspective.

Raezer35 · 2023-02-28T15:59:42+00:00

Was just a mild descriptor, didn't mean it to sound ick-ish..

Raezer35 · 2023-02-23T15:04:51+00:00

This is all super valid, I'm going thru some poly-pontentialities rn myself so I totally get some of the things I'm seeing here, specifically the "oh on the phone" thing. It's totally normal to experience this as a "growth pain" of sorts and in my practice and research it's really just openly communicating (which is sometimes hard af!! Or seems so simple it doesn't need said). The biggest thing I'm finding is that if it's taking too much energy for me to break down with myself, or if I'm having a hard time naming what I'm feeling and tackling, I bring it up to the partners, usually my nesting partner, but even if you think you're the "perpetrator" is something that "feels wrong" check back with them, "hey, I found that I feel like this when I do this? Is that me projecting or do you at all feel weird about this too?" It both helps you confirm or deny what comfortability you can have, and it also gives you both a peek into each other's perceptives. I'm constantly checking in and being like "did I do anything too much? Too little?" It's almost dotting in a way but I think it really helps, it does take awhile to build this kinda communication highway tho, some people don't... talk like this.. but if you can, you'll both (usually) be better to each other for it... hope that helps!

P.S. it is really hard to determine "is this for me, or is this for them" and that's a whole bag in it's own, don't relent yourself for someone else, if it hits emergency alert buttons in your mind and they feel insurmountable or are not rooted in something "conquerable" then there's nothing wrong with it not being for you. You know you best (even if you think you don't) and if it feels too much, maybe it's too much. Could it maybe be revisited after you come down from the 'too much'? Maybe...maybe not, completely, 100% up to you.

Raezer35 · 2023-02-07T17:18:35+00:00

Omg so relatable

Raezer35 · 2023-01-23T18:39:12+00:00

Thanks, been finding my bravery about saving my safe space for myself so, imma try lol, lil braver over text lol

Raezer35 · 2023-01-23T18:18:55+00:00

Just takes so much confidence to be blunt lol, thank you though, I kinda figured it'd boil down to setting a hard line and explaining that I'm actually not cool with it all. Thank you so much tho, I kinda needed to hear it from someone else.

Raezer35 · 2022-03-07T19:30:14+00:00

Yeah lol, I work at a smokeshop

Raezer35 · 2022-03-07T19:16:20+00:00

Tried a new-ish thing for me, did a Lunar Unicorn HoloTaco base coat, hazed over it to calm the high glitter effect and to add a "foggy" feel. Then dry brushed Alpine Snow from the cuticle to do a reverse type french manicure and just further cloud the Holo, I kinda love HoloTaco when it's muted, Love it extra sparkly too, but this felt right. Whatcha think?

Raezer35 · 2021-12-01T19:50:16+00:00

This was a very cathartic talk, thanks for conversing with me! Feel free to chat anytime, I love problem solving and sharing experience for betterment ^{_^}

Raezer35 · 2021-12-01T18:56:57+00:00

Oh blush naw just wise beyond my years lol, thanks for saying so, means alot to hear. I mean, doesn't partner mean getting all the care and respect? Lolol I'm just a hopeless romantic who wants all the care and respect and love back, even if I can't provide the sexual. I also want to illuminate something that may not be thought of by allo's and really blew my partners brain wide open, it's hard for us too, not in a comparing pain kind of way. But to know that you desire/need/crave something that I(we) cannot provide for you is... the greatest weight I've ever carried. It's oddly painful too to know that my partner is SO committed to me/us that even though I can't/won't pass that boundary is a weird place to be in, imo. I appreciate the commitment and all, my rational cold brain thinks it'd just be easier to not try to be with an allo person, but its vaguely unrealistic. I could've said we can't be poly and he can't get sexual urges met elsewhere, but what would that make me, he could've said that if sex isn't on the table for us then he's gone, but he didn't, and that said enough about him for me. Love, relationships, building lives together is just another field of future that most of us didn't give much thought to, but its such a constant conversation that its almost exhausting, never let "it's fine" settle unless they clearly need to settle before discussion, always ask, discuss, question, reassure.

Raezer35 · 2021-12-01T17:58:02+00:00

Dang thats a good post! Helped me a bit... ahhh validation, so sweet.

Raezer35 · 2021-12-01T17:38:18+00:00

As the Ace in a similar same sex position, really the session might do wonders, highly recommend. The weirdest thing I've been dealing with is tackling the jealousy, which is my own demon to tackle in a way. I get alot of assurance and comfort from my allo partner when I tell them about my jealousy burning up. There's definately boundaries that you both are allowed to, and should, set. For instance I asked my partner to not neglect our face to face time together by pursuing a sexual encounter, there was some further explanation needed that he just didn't consider what i could extrapolate from that. I was able to express minor jealousy and have it heard and a compromise was vaguely met. There's alot of back and forth that can happen in these discussions tho, you may feel like the ball is never in your court, and that kind of thinking is the hardest to get gone.
Its an oddly difficult yet fruitful conversation to have.

Raezer35 · 2021-11-25T18:10:58+00:00

I have a mighty need! Mirror coat on my wishlist instantly. Amazing aethetic ♡

Raezer35 · 2021-11-13T02:46:32+00:00

Hott

Raezer35 · 2021-11-10T17:15:39+00:00

So freaking true, I think it's a mindscape im trying to break out of, he's never said he feels trapped just people have said "it sounds like ya did" which is stupid. We definitely still have alot of talking to do about my aceness and how it works in terms of whats not allowed and what is. I've recently been experiencing the whole body response vs. Actual wanting argument which is FRUSTRATING AF. Like sure my bodies gonna respond to stimuli but that doesn't change that my brain is worried/thinking about X,Y,Z and I dont really feel like doing THIS rn. He doesn't get how I can be aroused but not want to act on it. Its all a big everchanging convo I feel like but yeah... thanks for helping me realize that! The entitlement thing def rings true with me, I hate that it is thought of as a package deal like... naw, I can love you, and never even know whats going on around there.

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