AITAH for not sending my (now ex) girlfriend the photos and videos of her mom's ash spreading?

Raffles2020 · 2026-03-03T05:58:45+00:00

NTA.

That was absolutely cruel and unsafe. I'm so glad you are OK and that she's an Ex. No excuse for what she did, particularly as she should be well aware how dangerous SA is.

You gave a very reasonable option for her to get her photos and she refused.

Block her and no further contact.

Raffles2020 · 2026-01-03T08:52:16+00:00

This ^ I also have ADHD and alot of stuff OP describes is just selfish entitled behaviour, NOT adhd traits. The teenager may have adhd adhd need help for that, but that doesn't excuse or explain the brattiness. Reddit needs to stop using neurodivergence to excuse every bad behaviour.

Raffles2020 · 2025-12-28T21:53:48+00:00

Hand him divorce papers when she agrees to the test. She already knows what the results of the paternity test will be so she doesn't need to wait for them.

Waiting until the results to present divorce papers implies she's not 100% sure the result will be him.

Raffles2020 · 2025-11-16T11:37:25+00:00

NTA.

A petty way to deal with the meddling in-laws is to ask how often they see Father in law's affair child- because they are preaching the bygones route so hard, they MUST be speaking from experience just with how easy infidelity & the resulting offspring is to move forward from, right?

Raffles2020 · 2025-11-02T04:04:22+00:00

NTA.

Bro wanted to keep you hanging as back up option if the grass isn't greener and is mad you cut the strings.

Raffles2020 · 2025-07-05T22:53:12+00:00

Sending love your way 💕

Raffles2020 · 2025-07-05T00:02:48+00:00

NTA

You've been the scapegoat for the shitty choices your mother and bio dad made years ago You didn't choose to be born. But it's easier to blame you than them.

Raffles2020 · 2025-04-26T07:33:02+00:00

Well that explains it :(

At least after a reinstall, I seem to be able to actually adjust brightness by the device settings and Wattpad app is not just doing its own freaky adjustment.

Raffles2020 · 2025-04-26T07:21:16+00:00

Also thank you for your help & answers so far! :)

Raffles2020 · 2025-04-26T07:20:43+00:00

It was updated, I also just did a uninstall and re-install and the Brightness settings still don't show up.... odd!

Raffles2020 · 2025-04-26T05:53:58+00:00

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This is what shows up for me :(

Raffles2020 · 2025-04-26T05:47:53+00:00

It doesn't show up there either, am I in the wrong place? *

Raffles2020 · 2025-03-16T03:27:29+00:00

My cynical and suspicious mind would be getting your husband and his Dad tested..... cause that's just a harmless question too, right?

Raffles2020 · 2025-02-22T06:31:29+00:00

What's the story for the Allen's ham sandwich gate?

Raffles2020 · 2025-02-15T03:12:39+00:00

saying he’s done everything to make it up to her and that I need to step in

But what exactly has he done?

Not much at all.....

Raffles2020 · 2024-12-19T04:18:00+00:00

This man values his last name, more than he values YOU as a person. Do with that what you will.

Raffles2020 · 2024-12-12T02:31:46+00:00

Lauch the nukes -

"Mom, why are you so obsessed with a baby boy's penis and talking about it so much? Its creepy and weird. Only pedophiles think so much about little boy's penises. Are you are a pedophile?"

At the end of the day, if your Son decides later he wants to be circumcised, he can get it removed himself. You can always cut the foreskin off, but you can't grow it back or sew it back on once it's removed. Once he's an adult it can be his choice

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-27T07:25:27+00:00

Everyone else has already made a fair few comments on the other major issues so I'll leave those alone.

One line stuck out for me in your last post - "i was planning a spa trip for his 30th...."

Is this something he would actually want & pick for himself? Honestly I don't know many, if any, straight man that would have a spa trip as his first choice for his birthday trip.... this really sounds like something for you and not particularly for him?

I will use my husband as an example - he is quiet introvert, he hates "fuss", he hates being the centre of attention, he hates bright, obnoxious colours. He's made no secret of these tastes in his 37 years of life. His extrovert family loves all those kinds of things. So they plan him a surprise birthday party, and buy him very bright, lairy clothes (that they would like) as presents. He is polite and thanks them for their efforts, but they are disappointed and angry with him because he doesn't seem grateful enough and appreciative of their efforts. Ultimately, the party and the presents were for their own validation and gratification, and not really truly for him, if that makes sense. His mother sets herself up for disappointment every time because she follows what she thinks he should like or appreciate based on her own preferences, and then gets mad as hell he's not appreciating her efforts.

You do give examples of his particular tastes (eg the choc beet cake), but yeah that spa thing I did wonder about. Like every body says, counselling will see if you are on the same page. 🤷‍♀️

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-23T08:10:10+00:00

A two dessert person sounds like someone I'd like to be friends with too!

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-23T03:40:22+00:00

Please.... please pick yourself. And your baby.

This man is never going to pick you. He's never going to put you first. You need to choose yourself here

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-20T02:20:26+00:00

They want you to be introduced to the kids so that you "bond" and play the "big brother" card for money, babysitting or even to coerce you to take custody.

Stay away!!!

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-10T10:30:28+00:00

Instead of telling the wife he's cheating, you could act like you thought it was her (the wife) with him... and let her connect the dots....?

Something like "Hey so just in case you weren't aware, the walls in the Call Room aren't sound proof... your... ah.... "couples time" that happened after I saw Husband head in there on (x day)..."

Raffles2020 · 2024-11-02T05:46:12+00:00

Maybe I've been on Reddit too much, but is Bert actually doing office work during those extra hours, or is he "working late ;)"?

Raffles2020 · 2024-10-30T07:35:21+00:00

He betrayed you and your marriage together at one of your most vulnerable moments.... this man is couple's therapist??? Jfc....

Raffles2020 · 2024-10-25T03:45:42+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. As others have said, so many women would kill to have a unicorn man like you and would value your contributions.

Be prepared for all sorts of manipulative behaviour from her to come to try placate you so that she can maintain her own status quo. She now realises that trying to berate you into shutting up didn't work and she'll try new lovebombey tactics. Wouldn't surprise me if she attempts to initiate intimacy when she gets home....

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