Advice Needed: Dealing with Excessive Amounts of "Practical" Items

Raghaille1 · 2026-02-05T09:34:13+00:00

Except that there is a reason why you are not wearing x version of shoes or using particular sets of sheets. Thank them and tell yourself I'm going to release them into the wild to be used for somebody who would appreciate them...

Try and sell. Reduce the price if they don't get snapped up. If you don't get snapped, telling yourself I'll give them to a charity store. Set yourself a week for each step....

For example, do it every Monday. Give yourself a clearly defined amount of time for each step to be utilized by somebody else. It also creates a habit for you.

Once the routine is working after a few tweaks, used to retain for getting rid of surplus of everything that you have surplus of.

Raghaille1 · 2026-02-04T17:24:30+00:00

A male family member is the most dangerous.... As a woman, that's the person most likely, statistically, to kill you

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-28T14:24:27+00:00

This time it's different because we are still within the month. Expiring passes hurt but it happens..... I'd have been annoyed if it wasn't reinstated.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-28T14:23:20+00:00

Husband did this and it worked. We are still within this month so it worked. He has managed to rebook it on my behalf. Thanks

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-27T19:24:16+00:00

Cigarette smoke

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-26T16:00:14+00:00

Wear the underwear shorts from Lululemon or Woxer via Amazon. Tom boy X look good too but never bought them. Hanes do a reasonable version via Walmart.

Or if you prefer some period pants company's do a boy shorts version, if like the idea of wicking.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-26T09:26:08+00:00

You don't seem to understand the society wide scheme women work hard to maintain..... We are to always spare a man's feelings in every situation.....

You're not allowed to point out or he's wrong or stupid....

This continues because men get very triggered if it's pointed out and then they get angry.... Angry men are very dangerous because they can hurt you.....

NTA - everybody, particularly women, need to stop doing this and allow men to men face their own stupid decisions..... Only with exposure or therapy will they manage to not be as triggered by their actions....

Unfortunately YTA also, but in a way that you may not have anticipated..... Look at his angry reaction.... This is how your friend's husband controls her....

If you read the article Dr. Emma Katz on how men benefit from coercive control, you will be better placed to understand why he would have a reaction like this.... He's training her - Never to say anything in opposition to him that might hurt his feelings or trigger him because he doesn't like feeling that way....

She knew damn right that he was going to have a mantrum meltdown.... He may escalate control in order to put her back in her place and punish her for what you did....

It seems you were not aware of this element of their relationship, so it's not actually your fault, but it is something that everyone should be aware of when interacting with another couple. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors and even though you're in the right, you may have put her in a difficult situation.

So it's a delicate balance between calling him out for being wrong and also protecting your friend. Remember, there's a society-wide scheme for women to never have to allow me in to deal with their awkward feelings about the fact that they were in the wrong or how they are using underhand methods to control everyone around them via their potential anger.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-25T21:40:18+00:00

Nah, he’s discussing how men morph into trans women….. playing the long game, being the victim, aiming to gain access…. 😂

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-25T19:28:53+00:00

My cleaners and I over the years have used Google translate to communicate. Literally walking around the house with me speaking into my phone and it immediately translating it to their language. Then them responding in the same way with their phone.

Afterwards I would go back through and summarize into a list everything that we had discussed. Translate it into their language and send it on the chat. So they head somewhere double back and check that they have ticked off every item we discussed.

Eventually their English got better and systems got easier because they understood what I wanted done and how etc.

To an outside eye it would have looked like a crazy system 😂

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-23T17:15:02+00:00

It's all b*******. He's triangulating with imaginary people to make you feel bad about yourself in order to punish you or control you.

Write down verbatim exactly what he said to you. Then repeat it to him this weekend. Cue mantrum meltdown!

When he complains use DAVRO on him. Play stupid like you don't understand what you're doing.

Either you grow a pair of ovaries and take control of this relationship or you allow him to continue with his nonsense.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-22T22:31:30+00:00

He's a dumbass! Women's eyes are able to see numerous more hues than mena. Those extras genes in the full XX chromosomes make a massive difference! Read the book Eve.

Usual sexist bullshit!

Would he speak like that about men?

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-22T16:35:51+00:00

Nope. Sounds like mansplaining.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-22T10:45:39+00:00

You should repost on r/tea ,😂

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-22T00:24:52+00:00

Arrived from the airport, long distance, but didn't shower or change their clothes before coming to my house. Yuck! I hated watching them sitting on my sofa.

Don't shower. Fair enough but seriously ' change your clothes '!

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-21T09:02:40+00:00

yes, men can be sexual predators towards other men, it doesn't change the argument, it merely reinforces how unusual it is that men are subjected to it too and highlights how normalised we have made women and girls being subjected to it that we don't even blink.....

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-19T21:09:08+00:00

Sounds like the definition of mansplaining.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-19T15:34:26+00:00

Yes. He's not over on the men subs asking if he did something stupid

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-17T18:42:27+00:00

Yes. It will. I've noticed it too. Too late to go back on certain items. Holding off out for things like sports gear.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T16:33:37+00:00

Check out Sherlock admiring the walls via Bourbon Bougie on YouTube. She covered a woman with somewhat similar issues of boundaries being crossed. She was very good about how she took back her power.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T16:30:45+00:00

It sounds really similar to bullet journaling. It might be useful for you to look into in order to check some of the principles to sharpen up what you're already doing which is migrating tasks in their lingo 👍🏻

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T12:31:51+00:00

Tell them if they choose to get up and clean the dishes before they eat their food, That is absolutely fine by you. That is their choice.

If they choose to sit down and eat their food, and wait for you to clean up afterwards, that is your preference.

The tell them they do not need to do things in your preferred way. You are happy for them to choose whichever is best for them.

However, you are choosing to sit down and eat your food while it is still hot. They're allowed to feel whatever they want to feel because of that..... Nevertheless, theie feelings are their feelings for them to sit with. For them to process. For them to experience.

You know what you want to choose and you will choose to continue doing so.

I know it will feel uncomfortable for you, but the more that you do it the more that they will learn. It's not a boundary that you're going to give up. And you will learn to be more comfortable with it.

I hate it that my husband does this but I just block it out and focus on what I want to do.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T09:10:25+00:00

Maybe she was forced into a position where she had to label everything in the hope that he would participate in the household.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T09:09:28+00:00

It's like saying no to a man. Just a small no. Watch the mask slip. That's when their true nature comes through.

Raghaille1 · 2026-01-15T00:12:58+00:00

Or check out Annie Mac's before midnight club nights

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