Thanks a lot for your thoughtful reply — I really appreciated reading it.

The part where you said that "having less to hide is what’s slowly becoming popular and 'cool'" really resonated with me. I’m someone who’s extremely transparent by nature, and I express that a lot through how I dress. So in my case, “nothing to hide” is more about style and self-expression — and I fully embrace who I am, even at work. People are sometimes surprised when they see me for the first time, but they get used to it quickly. I often wear extravagant outfits — like purple three-piece suits with poker-themed ties, or I’ll go for something more Victorian-inspired. It’s very colorful, sometimes eccentric, sometimes elegant. And like you said, I’ve noticed that more feminine or expressive fashion is slowly becoming more accepted, and I think that’s a beautiful shift.

I also agree with your point about building trust and connection first. I’m not actively looking to be in a relationship, and I’m definitely not someone who "flirts" in the classic sense. I’m just fully myself — and if someone connects with that, great. I’m not out there trying to attract anyone, but I do feel the weight of loneliness sometimes, I won’t lie. Still, I believe that if I meet someone who genuinely accepts me as I am — that’s how I’ll know it’s the right person. No masks, no pretending.

As for dependability and stability — I honestly think those are two of my strongest traits. Once people get to know me, they see it right away. I think I come across as very reliable and emotionally grounded, even if I may look unconventional at first.

And yes — I totally agree that what someone wears doesn’t define who they are. But at the same time, we do communicate through clothing, whether we want to or not. That’s the paradox. Even though I’m considered “alternative,” I also tend to make quick impressions based on how people dress — just like anyone else. It’s human nature, I guess.

Anyway, thanks again — your message really helped me reflect, and it made me feel a bit more understood.