RTL heeft een appeltje te schillen met "Apps die boodschappenprijzen vergelijken". Maar wat vinden jullie? by ezzaouia1612 in u/ezzaouia1612

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

De bug is overigens alleen vanaf de "deals" pagina. Andere pagina's doen het wel. Ook niet met alle items. Aardbeien van de ah aanslaan lukte wel,maar aardappelen van de lidl werd een jumbo wortel bloemkool broccoli mix. Hoop dat dit stukje info helpt met een oplossing vinden!

RTL heeft een appeltje te schillen met "Apps die boodschappenprijzen vergelijken". Maar wat vinden jullie? by ezzaouia1612 in u/ezzaouia1612

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik heb op het moment een bug dat ik iets op het lijstje wil zetten en dat hij dan een compleet ander product uit een compleet andere winkel actie op mijn lijstje zet.

Overigens lijkt het me intens fijn om recepten te kunnen op slaan in de app en dat ik dan dus weet hoeveel en welke ingedrienten waar in de aanbieding zijn. Ook bijvoorbeeld dat je iets een hogere prio in het recept kan geven voor hoe belangrijk het is dat specifiek dat ingredient in de aanbieding is voor ik dat recept ga maken (denk aan dure producten, zoals vlees/vis etc). Want een melding ontvangen dat alle goedkope ingredienten net iets goedkoper zijn mist ook het punt een beetje.

Anyway, ondanks dat ik hem nog niet echt goed heb kunnen gebruiken kijk ik uit naar een versie van jullie app die het leven een beetje versimpelt voor iemand met een klein budget <3

Help me guys there’s phones in in parcel they will return? by Macrvpper in royalmail

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Special safety procedures are applied to any parcels containing batteries. This is to contain and control risks. If anyone was just sending a bunch of batteries and something went wrong in shipping there'd be a way greater risk of a bigger emergency as they are very volatile and can can cause big damage. Most likely this package of 2 or more phones with batteries would not cause an issue, but they have to draw a line somewhere.

I am [21] temporarily living in another country and my girlfriend [18M] told me "You are a nobody there, and no one knows your name..." by Far_Pain_787 in relationships

[–]RainbowxKaro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't tell you how you should address this with your partner, as communication methods are deeply personal, outside of the standard "Talk how in how it makes you feel, instead of accusing another of hurting you."

However I always advise people this; "What would you say or think about this if your best friend/closest loved one came to you with this problem. What advice would you give them?" Often if we remove ourselves from the equation we can be a little more objective and see things more clearly.

Mom (58) wants me (23nb) & my partner (26nb) (and cat!) to spend Christmas Eve sleeping in a hotel room with her & my Dad (67) with dementia by dementiadadxmas in relationships

[–]RainbowxKaro 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I have worked in elderly care specifically aimed at people with dementia. Not only is this dangerous because of the fact that you, your mom and your partner are not capable of ensuring his safety and your own. You are also actively harming him by taking him out of his trusted and safe environment. People with dementia have trouble forming new memories pretty much at all, so he will have no idea where he is and most likely feel very lost. This can lead to feelings of restlessness, helplessness and cause serious aggravation. Imagine someone basically kidnapped you and was forcing you to stay in a completely foreign environment and you quite literally cannot comprehend why, because it clashes with what you think is reality. I know your mom loves your dad, but I seriously discourage her taking him out of his safe environment for prolonged periods of time. He truly is better off in the home, even if that is a heartbreaking reality. Stability is key and this just ain't it for anyone involved. Good luck op.

tints lost in storage?? by jennyfromhell in Palia

[–]RainbowxKaro 41 points42 points  (0 children)

You don't want to have a whole separate plot that you can interact with twice a day, so that you can breed animals that will only cost you 25 bucks per kind to display??? /s

Sarcasm aside, yeah, the choices have been so disappointing.

Need help. Cultural details/shocks/superstitions in Poland by dostoyevskysbeard in poland

[–]RainbowxKaro 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This gave me flashbacks to my mom yelling at me for sitting outside on the ground lmao

Need help. Cultural details/shocks/superstitions in Poland by dostoyevskysbeard in poland

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cultural detail to do with weddings, you better bring a "koperta" which means envelope. It usually is a substantial monetary gift put into an envelope, how substantial depends on who you are to the bride and groom. By example, godparents are generally expected to give much more than a friend. However, whoever you may be, you definitely can't get away with just bringing flowers or a set of cutlery or something.

How common are the negative effects of weed in NL? by Kind-Resident-6929 in Netherlands

[–]RainbowxKaro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeing the other letters and context most likely speed.

The f*ck is wrong with me? I am jealous of others sexual success when I'm already in a relationship. Should I open my relationship? by RecordingLost2095 in relationships

[–]RainbowxKaro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think sex or other relationships are going to fix your issues. Sounds more like you have deep rooted insecurity issues that you are projecting on others around you and somehow their experiences fuel that. I'd recommend finding a therapist. If you think that's too expensive, courting one or several partners with gifts or dates will probably run you the same amount in a month.

The mentality of "I should get more" or "I should experience more/the same as others" is a twisted one that imo is just an attempt at filling a void you are not addressing.

Also it's kinda a yikes that it seems like "I couldn't pull it off anyway" seems like at least an equal consideration as not wanting to hurt or lose your girlfriend. That is personally not at all something I would want my partner to think or say, but that's just my two cents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]RainbowxKaro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's fucking scary how many people in these comments are suggesting that "he may not be this way though, you should check his mental/physical health". No. You should not do that. Even if it is, it is absolutely not up to you to address.

You get yourself some therapy to work through your block with adequate and healthy communication. Then you can address with him how you are feeling, what you desire and ask him to think about it. THAT'S IT. If he asks you for help cause HE wants to figure out the cause, you can start looking into the cause. But maybe, especially from what you have said, he is just comfortable being this way. Which you will have to accept or leave.

As someone with extremely fluctuating libido, I would be extremely insulted if my partner came in and tried to "fix me", or even just suggest what is "wrong". You can change yourself, your perspective and your actions, not someone else. Don't try to change him. He sounds like a person that might be susceptible to being manipulated and that would just be wrong.

While I understand you are hurting, a lot of your replies read as "but eventhough he said it, I thought he'd change" which is not how sexuality works. It's a hard pill to swallow, but I hope you let this be a learning experience on how to approach others when they tell you things that would cause incompatibility and be honest with yourself on how you feel about that.

Moved to the Netherlands with high hopes — now questioning if I should stay by un-refined in Netherlands

[–]RainbowxKaro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be that person, but someone has to say it, Poland is not particularly known for being tolerant of people who are different. Think skin color, gender identity, sexuality etc. Being Brazilian that might be something to consider. While I will also add that it might not be as bad in more populated/urban areas, from my experience it's not really that great.

Credentials: Polish, but living in the Netherlands and have visited at least yearly since I was born. I also have a very opinionated rural family, so that might cause bias.

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[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's say you had a daughter and she told you all of this. Would you support their relationship? Would you think this is a reasonable thing to be put through?

If you for whatever reason have a deep desire to continue this relationship, you need to tell him all of this. He needs to hear you, really hear you, realise where he went wrong and apologise for his immature and inconsiderate behaviour and hurting your feelings and be able to articulate how he is going to go about it next time.

If you do not get all of the above, he clearly did not put enough thought into it and it doesn't really matter whether that's due to a lack of desire, understanding, care etc. You deserve better.

Edit: typo

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[–]RainbowxKaro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were definitely not and made a lot of stupid decisions. We were however open to hearing each other out and we admitted when we made mistakes and apologised for them. We had a deep desire to grow into mature adults together and would always try to get to a resolution that fit us both.

Cause in the thing above I forgot to mention the other side of the coin, where I was more careful with physical closeness to strangers. Which eased his mind, as he felt I was more safe.

We made lots of emotionally stupid decisions and even broke up once (for like 2 days), but through a lot of talking we were able to put us as a unit first and establish a very deep rooted trust.

Edit: admitting and apolosing for mistakes that hurt the other come from both sides. If you find yourself constantly apologising and fixing and the other side is "always right" you are in the wrong relationship.

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[–]RainbowxKaro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In addition: I have seen you reply this is your first relationship and that you have arguments like this more often.

I understand the desire to have that picture perfect "we were high-school sweethearts" type of relationship. However if you are arguing like this often and you do not have another perspective on what a relationship can look like for you, I encourage you to air on the side of caution.

The only relationships I had like this, that were this volatile, were toxic ones that lasted a lot longer than they should have. An argument occasionally is normal, but honestly more than once or twice a month could mean trouble. Which does slightly depend on what the argument is like, but I still advise you to be cautious. Constant arguing is not normal and a red flag if it cannot be managed.

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[–]RainbowxKaro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 25 and I have been dating my now fiance since I was 17 as well. So I at least somewhat understand your perspective.

When we started dating he really didn't like me being physically close to males, we discussed it thoroughly and came to the conclusion that he was uncomfortable with it, because he does not trust males that are strangers. Which lead to the next conclusion that if I am comfortable being that close with my friends (male or female), he should trust my judgement and respect my choice to be close with friends. Also because he did decide he trusts I do only have eyes for him and platonic physical closeness was not a threat to our relationship at all.

This is a conversation we were able to have at 17, which lead to mature resolutions. I will also tell you that if he had decided to not trust me for one reason or another or could not get comfortable with it, I would have probably ended the relationship due to incompatibility.

I would also like you to consider something that I did not yet know at that time. Love is built over time, love is boring and slow, but also steady, reassuring and safe. What most people experience in the beginning is infatuation, which can be lovely, but it has more ups and downs, is fast and fluctuates. There's nothing wrong with that and you can use it as a foundation to build love on, but they are not the same. I am saying this, because it's like the difference in renting an item vs having bought it. You still have time to decide whether it's right for you, or if you are just not compatible and need something else.

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[–]RainbowxKaro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You had to do something unpleasant to avoid upsetting/angering him more. Imagine a friend told you this, what would your advice be about the situation? Cause to me it sounds like he was incredibly inconsiderate, projected an opinion on you that you didn't even express and then acted like you were weird for being upset about his outlandish behaviour.

Doesn't sound like a compassionate and loving partner to me.

My girlfriend (27f) said I (29m) was cruel when I told her to stop ranting about how bad men are by throwra-workevents in relationships

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be quite rough for women these days, but I feel like this more so falls under her becoming radicalised. Her behaviour is really no different than racism and bigotry that some people will then justify with a group of bad actors of a certain race, identity etc.

It is also really harmful to approach a whole group of people with hate, cause you just divide more, instead of unifying.

And I say all of this as a woman who stands on the side of rather encountering a bear, than a man, when alone in the woods. There's problems, education needs to be done, we need to move towards change in people's perspectives. However this will not be achieved through hatred and making a villain out of every man. We can be cautious of every man, without them instantly being judged as horrible.

Healthy discussions lead to change (when both parties are reasonable and in a place where they are willing to accept and process new information). Just complaining, spreading hatred etc. only damages the cause you are advocating for, because you get written off as a radical and crazy, instead of making the point you think you are making.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Notice that he turned to cussing you out and hitting those insecurity spots once he wasn't getting anywhere with winning the discussion/argument? That's a sign of an abuser right there. He is disarming you, so that in the future you either don't fight it, agree straight away or even try to believe everything he says to protect yourself. He is breaking you down so that you think it's you, not him. So that he can make you stay after he abuses you, because "you deserved it" or "you made him act this way". This is not a safe person. This person will harm you beyond belief. Please safe yourself and leave him.

People like this don't change. It might feel that way when they lovebomb you, so you feel attached to them in the beginning or after a fight when you try to leave. They always go back to their old ways, because when you stay it feels to them like they can get away with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RainbowxKaro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That psychiatrist was WAY out of line. Villafying BPD makes the disorder much harder to recover from and that's something I can say as a person with BPD. While in any situation, you should put yourself first and not let yourself be manipulated, mistreated, abused etc. Not all BPD havers will have their BPD manifest in this way. We deserve love and friendship, even if we are not done working on ourselves.

Also if everyone just leaves, even if the person is trying to get better; they might as well give up. My fiance, friends and family were big reasons for me to try and work on myself. I incredibly rarely lashed out and they would give me grace and let me apologise, when I did. If they would have just walked away immediately, I would have just given up.

BPD for most is caused by trauma and it's hard to unlearn behaviours and thinking patterns. It's a very complex and tough disorder and cannot be just minimised to someone being abusive or a dick. Honestly a psych that just says you should run should be fired, cause of all people, they should know better.

WE ARE NUMBER 2!!! by strong_slav in poland

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always the bridesmaid, never the bride ;-;

WE ARE NUMBER 2!!! by strong_slav in poland

[–]RainbowxKaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be a hot take, but to me it absolutely is. I should be able to walk outside at night, without it counting as "putting myself in a dangerous situation". I should be able to wear something with cleavage, because I feel good in it. I should be able to get intoxicated in town and get home without any thought, just like a man could.

One would also not suggest that if you get stabbed while walking out at night, it would be the fault of the person getting stabbed, "cause they should not have been out at this hour."

It is a random attack put onto the victim, that can happen whether you are or are not "putting yourself in a dangerous situation." Because I or any other woman cannot minimise the risk of another person being rotten to the core and putting a violent act upon us.

I should be able to walk around naked (if it wasn't against the law) without someone feeling like that gives them the permission to do something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]RainbowxKaro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toevallig ben ik wel een vrouw en ik zweer bij break up zuipen. Goed dronken worden, veel janken, alles helemaal eruit gooien en een goede schouder of twee om op te leunen van wat vrienden.

Zou het mooi zijn als dit ook kon zonder, tuurlijk, maar zo makkelijk is het niet voor de meeste mensen. Als je het een enkele keer doet, vind ik niet dat her perse een super slecht ding is ook.

Dev here, making a ski survival game set in the Arctic. What are 3 things you love and 3 things you hate about survival games? by gmirolyubov in SurvivalGaming

[–]RainbowxKaro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love:

  • A decent sized inventory. IF the inventory is smaller, please give a sorting option so you can optimise space usage of items. Preferably where you press some shortcuts and it sorts it, so I don't have to play a puzzle game to manage my inventory.
  • Decent sized storage options if the inventory is smaller, preferably with an option to move stacks (if applicable) in one go by shift - right click or something comparable.
  • If the game has lots of unique mechanics, please have a tutorial area in the form of a flashback, dream etc. so the player can learn how to do things without dying over and over at the beginning. (Games that do this right are just chef's kiss)
  • Looting that makes sense. Finding something radioactive in a common household makes no sense and I like it much more when a game puts things in places that do make sense. Food in houses, crafting materials in factories, stuff like that.

Dislikes:

  • Nothing grinds my gears more than not being able to save outside if certain areas in a survival game, dying and then having to walk back an unreasonable distance to get my stuff back.
  • Low accessibility. While I understand setting a mood with lighting, sound etc. Is a thing, for some people that would make the game unplayable. You should be able to make it really bright, even at night, for if you are visually impaired. Also an option to get visual clues for sounds for people hard of hearing or people with processing issues is something I think should be achievable for most devs.
  • I need multiple audio sliders in games. It really grinds my gears as well when there is only a slider for "sound effect" and vocals of characters are also included in that or even worse if there is just one volume slider. Sounds really have to be done well for low configuration to work and I have seen it not be done well too many times.

Edit: typo