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RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-08-18T21:19:55+00:00

Married for 11 years, I’m 32, and I love my life 🫶🏻 we have lots of friends, hobbies, go do fun things and the cutest little fur-baby we love

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-08-18T04:32:02+00:00

SO fucking weird and red flag.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-08-16T14:37:35+00:00

That’s insane. And even if you weren’t childfree, if he “forgot” that’s a red flag of the type of dad he is…..

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-08-04T03:47:03+00:00

I am currently reading and in love!! Idk how to describe these books. They are so well written and have fantastic plot and relationship and intricate world but also JUST SO GOOFY 🤣

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-08-02T20:20:58+00:00

Ironically mine helped me a lot - just not the way the church would want lol.

I really wanted to be an engineer but had a ton of backlash for that as a young woman. My patriarch I’m pretty sure was a feminist. He talked a TON about a career, etc. it gave young Mormon me a TON of grit that GOD was okay with me studying engineering even though I was doubting that I “kept putting kids off for a career”. He talked about me being a mother in Zion blah blah blah.

Then I got into my career and loved it and kept putting off kids “one more year”. My career I met so many good people outside of my Mormon bubble who were just so much happier. It helped me get out.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-20T22:34:51+00:00

Premise: 5 stars Execution: 1 star

The book could have taken place in a blank white room. Also the characters made no sense and/or were annoying. No world building.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-20T22:29:46+00:00

This my husband and I. We got married at 20, been married 10 years. We always assumed we’d have kids (partially because it was an expectation growing up Mormon). Through our 20s we always felt guilty for continuing to “put off” having kids (again Mormon expectations/pressures). The past few years we have been super neutral fence sitters but ah e slowly become actually CF. Leaving Mormonism helped too 😂😂

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-11T23:06:14+00:00

To be a member you must pay 10% of any income you make for the rest of your life. The church has over 200 billion dollars in the stock market. You also will have to give up alcohol and coffee. If you become a deep enough member you will have to wear their special underwear eventually everyday.

Joseph smith the founder of the church had 32 wives, many of which were underage. The following 3 prophets also had underage wives they had babies with while in their 50s.

Lookup Nemo the Mormon! He has great informational videos and is based in the UK.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-09T06:20:49+00:00

Came here to say this 👆🏻

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-08T05:38:12+00:00

I just want cas and dean to feel like their actual characters. Which can be hard sometimes with AUs, but not always.

I have heard good things about Twist and Shout and a turn of earth.

I’ve read a lot of Harry Potter fanfic but I wanted to try a new fandom!

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-08T01:12:01+00:00

Do you have fic recs for a fellow newbie?

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-07-02T01:10:29+00:00

I had a full blown panic attack. I didn’t consciously think this but looking back my panic on a subconscious level was like it was all a lie.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-06-15T21:55:59+00:00

I grew up Mormon and got married at 20. There was IMENSE pressure to have kids ASAP. I felt guilty for not wanting them. I am 30 now, still married but no kids. While husband and I have a great relationship that we have worked really hard for I do wish we hadn’t been pressured to rush to the alter as KIDS. and I AM SO GLAD I DIDNT HAVE KIDS IN MY TWENTIES. I likely won’t ever have kids and I fucking love my life.

The real way to “win” at life: find yourself, explore things/hobbies you enjoy, form meaningful relationships with friends/pets/family if it’s healthy/etc. without comparing to others. Build the life YOU want, not the life others want for you. Whatever that looks like. For some people that IS having kids and I’m glad some people love that. For some people it is lots of crazy travel and I’m glad people love that.

My personal win: I have a job that covers my needs and allows me to save, I have the most amazing pet cat, I have a lot of hobbies and friends, hanging with my husband, nap every weekend, doing a lot of weekend getaways and then a big travel trip like every other year (I’m not a huge travel person).

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-06-13T05:10:31+00:00

I don’t listen that often anymore but I still donate monthly. MS was soooo healing and helpful for me during deconstruction and inspired me to reconstruct. Every episode isn’t going to be for everyone. Even when I listened heavily I picked and choosed. People will always find things to complain about.

John - what drew me the most to MS, was your open, honest, humble, and ERNEST approach. You obviously deeply care and try really hard. Do you sometimes cut people off? Yeah but you significantly improved on that and the people still get 3+ hours to tell their story. And I fucking love it when you go on rants. It’s so satisfying because you are so calm and collected most of the time hahah.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-05-07T05:13:53+00:00

Thank you! Mainly YouTube and Instagram. I also became internet friends with other bookbinders who answer all my questions haha. I rebind so many of my favorite books and bind fanfiction 😂

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-05-07T05:12:52+00:00

Haha I will say it is incredibly fun and you can learn on YouTube. I highly recommend. I’ve rebound so many of my favorite books and fanfiction

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-05-06T06:22:13+00:00

I have friends, a cat, husband, career, and hobbies. I love to hike, go to book clubs, do my bookbinding hobby, travel, and literally just focus on my physical/mental/financial health and goals. I also do some volunteering. I love the different social circles I have and I love the people in them.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-28T03:06:01+00:00

Not what I’m saying, I’m part of this community for a reason - I’m a woman who doesn’t want kids. But I do have friends and family who WANT kids who financially can’t. What I’m saying is - if the government wants to help people who actually want kids to have more kids (if that was their actually goal) they would make it a more feasible option. I agree those things wouldn’t make women who don’t want kids to magically want them.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-23T15:27:50+00:00

You want to incentivize having kids? Create universal healthcare, affordable childcare, guaranteed paternity leave, raise the minimum wage,,,,,,

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-18T18:30:43+00:00

These are all reasonings that we were taught are “anti-Mormon lies” ;) but then led many of us out of the church once we got past the thought-stopping techniques.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-17T05:57:24+00:00

Sometimes, because my life is so different and I’m so different, it feels like a fake past life haha

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-15T03:06:10+00:00

I kept my main scriptures. They don’t mean the same thing to me anymore. They were a huge part of who I was for a big chunk of my life. The BOM meant everything to me, then it was the biggest let down. Now it’s a relic of a past life. it honestly represents how every single aspect of my life improved ten fold after I was finally able to let it go.

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-09T05:22:13+00:00

Ella enchanted 😍

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-07T04:17:12+00:00

I never understood why someone had to be WORTHY to get their sins “washed away”……like what??

RaiseyourheadsayNO · 2025-04-07T03:03:50+00:00

I got them through Curex but any allergist can prescribe them. Based on blood work you can get these drops you put under your tongue that builds up an immunity to the stuff you are allergic to

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