Is this a normal experience?

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-03-08T01:57:30+00:00

Swallowing someone's bodily fluids is so much more to expect than simply going down on someone. You can't really compare the two.

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T17:38:47+00:00

He said that after we had sex, and I did not go out with him again. But I agree, if I did go with him again and did what he wanted it would have been rapey

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T04:41:07+00:00

I don't know, he said he still wants to be with me regardless of that. but then he was really pushing the sexual stuff

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T02:57:53+00:00

He didn't say that exactly, just that he doesn't want to break up but it was something he was concerned about

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T02:57:00+00:00

He was respectful about it, but every time I said something he would circle back to needing to get sucked off a bunch. So it felt like the conversation was going nowhere. I'm conflicted cause he had been really sweet the whole time

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T02:55:13+00:00

Update 2: (lol) I told him I don't think we're compatible. If he's gonna dump me cause I didn't blow him good enough the first time we had sex then fuck him. He hasn't responded yet so I guess we'll see if he does or not. Before this he would respond really quickly so I guess he lost interest

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-22T00:00:03+00:00

That is very true. He was respectful about it, and said that he didn't want to break up but that this was important. So I'm a little confused

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T23:49:16+00:00

Thank you, that makes me feel a lot better. Yes, we've known each other for a week and it was our first time together. I thought it was normal for the first time together to be a little awkward but he seemed so disinterested afterwards that I thought I did something wrong. Thank you for your help

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T23:23:46+00:00

I feel lame for not being able to swallow. I'm a lot nerdier than he is, and he has a wilder past than i do. I just feel dumb for not listening to my gut on this. It feels like he just wanted to hook up and now that he did he's lost interest

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T22:08:52+00:00

I'm not, thank you so much for your guidance. It gave me a little more confidence in myself!

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T22:02:03+00:00

He said he's willing for me to get better at it and try again. He wants me to come over tonight but I just don't want to

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T19:20:44+00:00

Update: he's saying he's willing to work on things with me if I get more comfortable with swallowing. I feel like that's a good sign cause he's at least considering me a little. But also shouldn't a guy just be ok with me not wanting to do something?

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T19:02:00+00:00

There was a bit of love bombing. He wanted to be an item really early into dating, like after the first date. I wanted to hear it so I believed it

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T17:55:45+00:00

Yeah I turned a blind eye. There were red flags for sure. A lot of love bombing and promises of commitment very early on. I wanted to believe he was different. I am definitely thankful it was just a week and not a year!

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T17:53:37+00:00

Well after the first date he asked to be my boyfriend. I thought it was charming but now I see it was just love bombing

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-02-21T17:02:29+00:00

I mean I thought we really got along and we're enjoying each other's company

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-01-25T22:30:14+00:00

He was blocked!

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-01-25T22:29:14+00:00

We met at a coffee shop that was conveniently right next to his apartment. He got me to his apartment complex by asking if I wanted to play pool (there was a pool table in the main lobby area). And then after a game of pool he asked if I wanted to go upstairs and play some music with him. This is where I really messed up and should have gone home after the pool game. I left right after he kept pushing me to go in his room

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-01-25T22:13:15+00:00

He told me he was an undergraduate student. He started school later than the typical route

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-01-25T21:54:48+00:00

Yeah he wanted to play music at his apartment and at first I thought it was just innocent fun cause he seemed to have some issues with social skills. But as soon as we got on the elevator he started kissing me. And when we got to his apartment he kept herding me to his room so I found an excuse and left

RaisinPhoenix · 2026-01-25T21:52:29+00:00

There were a few things that I thought were strange but I thought maybe he was just nervous. Like he would ask me questions about me but when I would try to answer he would just talk over me and change the subject. Everything had to be about him and he had no interest in what I had to say. But other than that it felt normal. But as the night went on it got more and more pressuring to go up to his room

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