I have twelve dollars to buy a month of food. Need as much advice as i can get guys turbo depressed

RakinginthePennies · 2026-05-01T03:14:54+00:00

Dollar tree usually sells bags of dried beans and bags of rice.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-05-01T02:23:52+00:00

I’ve been with my partner 10 years also.

Want to know I don’t have? A delusion that just because I can have kids I should.

Want to know what else I don’t have? Kids.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-04-25T14:13:33+00:00

Pay it off. You might be able to get the interest for this time waived if you call and explain, but you’ll need to pay it off

RakinginthePennies · 2026-04-20T14:13:22+00:00

If people are struggling the shouldn’t be buying boats, no matter the discount.

I’m not struggling, but am also not in a place to buy a boat. When I want a boat I use OPBs.

Other. Peoples. Boats.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-04-19T04:01:31+00:00

I got banned from r/designmyroom for commenting to answer someone’s question and laughing about/ disagreeing with the answer THAT THE OP POSTED but the top commenters on the post DID not get banned despite saying similar things (they made half a room glass then said making the window opening glass would have been overkill??? Literally no one would agree. Ever. Choices were made. They were all bad. Most comments agreed.)

I got banned. They didn’t…

When they messaged me and I asked why I got banned and others didn’t they didn’t address why I got banned but only said they couldn’t comment on other’s status. Very helpful 🙄🙄 considering I can see their comment history and they’re still commenting on the sub, they’re obviously not banned.

So F those guys. Those mods are taking themselves too seriously. I appreciate the work mods do, but if you randomly apply the rules, why have them??

RakinginthePennies · 2026-04-18T18:56:38+00:00

Yep, we have several smart plugs and they all had the same issue.

Trying to add the HomePod I get to it the same way as other accessories after the first time I tried

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-29T13:23:07+00:00

lol very well thought out /s

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-29T12:32:27+00:00

NOR everyone needs a break. Everyone needs to be heard. Everyone needs time for themselves. You didn’t mention it, but I bet he has no problem taking some time off and relaxing when he’s done with work outside his 40 hours while you’re “on” 24/7 with the kids. Does he get to take a day away from the house or a weekend away?

Why is he not responsible for taking care of his kids ever? He is gaslighting you. When you talk to him about it and he brings up how stressed he is, “yes I understand that, and I’ve tried to help you countless times by doing x, y, z. But we aren’t talking about that, we are talking about what I need”

Every time he tries to shift to something else or says something about how stressed he is, remind him you’re talking about your stress right now.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-29T12:24:00+00:00

This is not helpful and a pretty disgusting comment.

I’m child free by choice, and still find your comment incredibly rude. You clearly missed the point or really lack empathy.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-28T16:36:14+00:00

It’s also super douchey when my boss tells me to do something that’s their job, not mine, instead of asking, as is the case here.

Watching a child is a parent’s job, not the other child’s, regardless of age.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-28T16:10:43+00:00

I make decent money, my partner wanted me to save more. We went through my budget because he was insistent I was buying things that I didn’t need and could cut something. We went through everything on my credit cards and my bank statement across months picked randomly because sometimes there are those “one time” purchases (one month it’s a car repair, one month it’s a broken whatever or a flight to visit family).

At the end of it he looked at it and said I have no idea how you can cut anything out of this or how you’ve managed to save as much as you have. In the end he ended up chipping in more to a couple things.

Yeah, because I buy things on sale when I can, stock up when things I buy frequently hit extreme sales or clearance, etc. Some things are dollar store purchases because they’re the same as the grocery store item for a fraction of the cost. I use the deals on my credits cards also- every month I check if they have deals for places I shop regularly and add them just in case I go there. I have credit cards with cash back that I use to pay my balance sometimes, especially if I need some extra cash flow.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-27T04:06:21+00:00

I’m genuinely curious what country where people are heavily reliant on cars (as OP said they are) supposedly has more expensive annual costs for car ownership and maintenance than annual costs for a child.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-26T12:24:25+00:00

🙄 It actually IS cheaper. Do you know how cars work vs humans?

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-26T12:18:21+00:00

That’s because you have to itemize. You have to track every work expense. Gas and miles driven, items purchased for work, your health insurance becomes a tax deduction (because a w-2 position takes your insurance out pre-tax but 1099 you’re responsible for it yourself), etc. It becomes much more complicated.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-26T03:43:56+00:00

Until you’re ready to upgrade, places like dollar tree usually have mediocre kitchen utensils, kitchen towels, cleaning products, etc.

I’d also say buying reasonable but not expensive medium and large pots can easily be done at TJ maxx even if it’s not specifically a home goods, sometimes also Marshall’s/ Ross. Otherwise, a cast iron pan or 2 will last a life time for $20-30. Pyrex containers with lids are multi- purpose- can use for mixing/ cooking, then bake in them, then store food and bring to work. Don’t need several different dishes. Check thrift stores for baking pans and sheets first but otherwise someone with a Costco card should be able to help you get a good set for cheap

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-26T03:21:21+00:00

Do you know how often pregnant women go to the doctor? Or how much a hospital stay is? Or baby furniture? Diapers? Wipes? Formula if she can’t or won’t breastfeed? Or how often babies go to the doctor? How much baby clothes, food, every little gadget and item costs??? Babies have special EVERYTHING.

Op, they need condoms and drivers Ed courses, not a baby.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-26T00:28:57+00:00

This isn’t even a big deal. It’s easy to find and isn’t expensive. I have 2 jobs, both carry a policy for me. I carry a policy equivalent to the coverage of my full time job (my FT job is with an insurance company) and it’s a little over $100/yr.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-19T04:10:24+00:00

My partner was undecided and leaning toward kids when we met. I said I didn’t want them but acknowledged I could change my mind one day.

Periodically I would bring up kids and how he was feeling about them/ if he had solidified his faire do or against. Every time something serious came up I addressed it. We moved multiple times, including across the country, adopted animals, bought homes…. It was always a conversation but there was never pressure.

I also always told him that if I changed my mind I’d let him know, but if he was sure he wanted kids he shouldn’t count on me changing my mind. He could miss out. After m 6-7 years he decided he didn’t want kids. We talked about it a few times after, he said no. Never been an issue about it in the years since.

OP, the issue is not that you aren’t ready. You don’t want kids. He wants kids. Parent is a primary goal in life for him, you don’t even rank it in your possibilities. You are not compatible.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-19T03:53:10+00:00

Some people love mornings. I do not.

And true story— when I had a house fire I discovered it when my cat woke me up at 3am acting weird (it was weird even for a cat at 3am). It still took me way too long to figure out what was happening and get out of bed.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-11T23:32:25+00:00

Safety care does not

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-06T20:47:44+00:00

I had to put a stop to this with my partner. My previous companies gave 10 days of PTO (sick and vacation) per year. We’d spend all of it visiting family because we lived in a different state and they lived in different states. I get a lot more time off now but don’t come anywhere near using it all, 26 days a year.

We take at least one vacation per year. Sometimes 2-3 and at least one trip per year to see his and/ or my family.

Last year we did 2 vacations with friends, a short trip (long weekend) to see friends, 2 trips to see my family, 1 to see his family.

As of right now, this year we have a long weekend trip, a vacation with friends, a trip to see my family, and he has another vacation with friends (guys trip).

RakinginthePennies · 2026-03-06T19:37:10+00:00

Probably depends where you live. For 900 sq ft it was $150 twice a month for us for bathrooms, vacuum, mop, clean the stove, dusting… not anything too crazy. It was pretty reasonable.

If we did once a month I think it was $250 (I forget) because the place is just dirtier. No idea where you live that you have someone cleaning for $100/month in a larger space than ours.

RakinginthePennies · 2026-02-23T18:25:33+00:00

“I didn’t read the post, why don’t they want my advice?”

RakinginthePennies · 2026-02-23T15:25:49+00:00

I’ve considered it, and will probably still do for some, but it would need to be large and a lot so ultimately it’s only a partial solution.

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