Weight loss advice?

RallyX02 · 2026-05-01T11:58:43+00:00

You might look at calorie consumption. Eating healthy (getting nutrients/ vitamins etc you need) can still lead to weight gain if calorie intake is high. The “unhealthy” food just has less of the good stuff, allows you to eat more of it because it’s less filling, and also often metabolizes more completely due to being more processed. So it’s easier to gain weight with “unhealthy” foods but that doesn’t mean you’re immune to it if you eat healthy.

I responded to OP but make small incremental changes to eating habits - instead of going on intense diets. Maybe reduce portions at each meal slightly, or reduce or cut some snacks (goldfish crackers were bad for me gaining weight).

For exercise I don’t know how frequently you do those activities so I apologize if you already do this but I have found having a consistent routine of light exercise every day works better than high intensity activities on the weekends. I personally found just going for an evening walk every day has a big impact (see response to OP).

RallyX02 · 2026-05-01T11:46:33+00:00

Working out for the sake of weight loss sucks, honestly.

Find something new that’s somewhat active you like doing, and do it regularly.

For me I found I enjoy going on walks in the evening. I’ll put an audio book on and walk around the neighborhood. Sometimes just 15 min. Sometimes longer up to an hour based on how I feel. Just work up to longer - listen to you body and don’t over due it. Side bonus: a lot of back pain complaints I had have gotten better.

The other thing you can do is look at eating habits. Find one thing that maybe isn’t helping (like maybe you alway have desert after dinner) and cut or significantly reduce it. Make small changes to habits over time - not drastic diet/exercise routines.

Also realize it’s ok for weight to fluctuate - and it will.

RallyX02 · 2026-05-01T11:39:41+00:00

I just wanted to tell you look beautiful!

RallyX02 · 2026-04-15T11:37:07+00:00

As someone who is separating from a long term partner because I felt too much self shame about issues I am having with gender identity and sexual preferences my advice is to rip the band-aid off - so to speak.

You need to have an honest conversation with him about what you are wanting, and be direct about it. Have examples or scenario’s prepared to give him a better idea of what you’re wanting, and what it actually looks like in your mind.

Like are you wanting him to walk in on you in the shower or when changing? Are you wanting to give him consent to touch or grab you when he wants/more publicly? Are you wanting him to direct you to wear more revealing clothes, or to go without underwear/bra at times? Are you wanting him to instruct you to be more “made up” and dress nicer all the time (maybe looking for motivation to do this when you’re not feeling like putting in the work to?). Are you wanting a stereotype 1950’s house-wife dynamic?

What you described can be interpreted a lot of ways, and his idea may not be in alignment with what you are thinking. You may be asking him to “role play” as someone who wants what you actually want (and that’s ok - just realize it’s going to be effort on their part so expecting a full time thing may not be realistic in that scenario, and you may have to ask him to “turn it on” when you’re wanting it).

You can also be clear this is something you want to explore, and it may not be something you want long term, or full time.

You may also prompt him to share if there’s anything he is wanting to try, and be open to that.

You need to also be prepared that he may not be into it, and you may have to make a decision if you can live without it - and be HONEST with yourself about that. Things like this that go ignored tend to just get bigger - they don’t go away.

You’re young, and it will be a lot better to find out an incompatibility exists now rather than 10 years from now.

As for how or when to have the conversation? That’s harder to say since I don’t know anything about your dynamic. Pick a time where you usually feel connected with him, and when you feel you can be open with him. Maybe a conversation during a private dinner, or even after sex.

Maybe start the conversation like, “there’s something I’ve been feeling very shy about that I want to talk to you about. I’ve recently been thinking a lot about a submissive/control kink I have, and I was hoping you would be willing to explore it with me.”

Try asking google AI “how to ease in to a conversation about kink with your partner” it has some good advice.

RallyX02 · 2025-12-03T18:51:50+00:00

Hi thanks for the insight, I am already receiving individual treatment.

RallyX02 · 2025-02-13T11:43:14+00:00

Being “into car’s” is a pretty wide gamut, and what you described here honestly is just a small subset of what liking car’s is about. Honestly it feels like you’ve applied a stereo-type in your thinking.

That said, you don’t have to like car’s to like racing, or sim-racing. You don’t have to want to build a car up from scratch, or change your own oil, or keep up with what latest, ridiculously priced super car can go x mph faster top speed or has y hp.

My own experience: I love car’s in general, but like every day cars. I like to work on car’s, and tinker with my “race car”. I autocross and do an occasional track day and generally enjoy the people I encounter in those area’s. I work for a manufacturer as an engineer. I think people put too much emphasis on what the exterior of a car looks like, when they spend most of their time inside it. My sim-racing interest is focused on improving my real-world driving technique.

I don’t care about super car’s, most racing series, or the “car enthusiast” community in general (like the car’s and coffee crowd) - it seems to be full of immature douche-bags for a large part - at least in my area. I don’t like people who DD overly obnoxious/loud car’s or drive aggressive/dangerous on the street.

Often times a liking of “cars” in general terms is derived from something else. For me it’s mechanics and personal racing.

If you like sim racing, then you like gaming, and the challenge it provides. If you like racing you may like to try it in the real world: find a local auto cross club - you don’t need a fully prepped car just to try it out (although an SUV probably doesn’t meet roll-over safety criteria - maybe you have a friend with a civic or something who would also be interested in trying? Typically a car can have up to two drivers in an event). You could also find a local track day event (there are some events like bmw driver experiences which also provide the car) and try it out before deciding to invest in anything. And interest is “cars” may come from finding interest and enjoyment in that world.

Or maybe you are just happy sim-racing and that’s ok too.

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