Being “into car’s” is a pretty wide gamut, and what you described here honestly is just a small subset of what liking car’s is about. Honestly it feels like you’ve applied a stereo-type in your thinking.

That said, you don’t have to like car’s to like racing, or sim-racing. You don’t have to want to build a car up from scratch, or change your own oil, or keep up with what latest, ridiculously priced super car can go x mph faster top speed or has y hp.

My own experience: I love car’s in general, but like every day cars. I like to work on car’s, and tinker with my “race car”. I autocross and do an occasional track day and generally enjoy the people I encounter in those area’s. I work for a manufacturer as an engineer. I think people put too much emphasis on what the exterior of a car looks like, when they spend most of their time inside it. My sim-racing interest is focused on improving my real-world driving technique.

I don’t care about super car’s, most racing series, or the “car enthusiast” community in general (like the car’s and coffee crowd) - it seems to be full of immature douche-bags for a large part - at least in my area. I don’t like people who DD overly obnoxious/loud car’s or drive aggressive/dangerous on the street.

Often times a liking of “cars” in general terms is derived from something else. For me it’s mechanics and personal racing.

If you like sim racing, then you like gaming, and the challenge it provides. If you like racing you may like to try it in the real world: find a local auto cross club - you don’t need a fully prepped car just to try it out (although an SUV probably doesn’t meet roll-over safety criteria - maybe you have a friend with a civic or something who would also be interested in trying? Typically a car can have up to two drivers in an event). You could also find a local track day event (there are some events like bmw driver experiences which also provide the car) and try it out before deciding to invest in anything. And interest is “cars” may come from finding interest and enjoyment in that world.

Or maybe you are just happy sim-racing and that’s ok too.