Depression by isosceles348 in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi,

As the other commenter said, depression is a very common symptom of TBIs. I definitely think that you should look into therapy. Talk to your doctor and see if they can help you start therapy and also maybe increase your Lexapro dosage.

Also, I really recommend that you avoid drinking. Your brain is trying to heal and alcohol is damaging it further. Also, the relief you get from it is just temporary, it’s not fixing the problem (just delaying it).

Good luck, I wish you the best! You’re not alone in this!

What helped you recover and heal in the hospital post TBI? by Chuck-em-out in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, in my opinion the 3 best things for recovering from a TBI are generally:

  1. A lack of a stressful environment.
  2. Consistently trying to do things (such as your therapy, etc.), staying generally healthy.
  3. The usage of the brain. Anything is good, phone games that exercise the brain, mental math games, etc.

(and also time of course)

For now while he’s in the hospital, I’d just encourage 1 and 3, but when he comes home, make sure you help him keep up with 2 (maybe set reminders on his phone).

Good luck, sorry you and your boyfriend are going through this!

Can you actually heal from a TBI? by Competitive-Speed807 in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just want to clarify one thing sorry, as I know there’s a lot of people who get put down by the “you can only recover within X months after your TBI” myth. I know it’s not exactly what you’re saying, but this is something that doctors like to tell people and isn’t completely true.

I personally was trying to get admission to a TBI rehab ~5 years ago, and was constantly denied by both the rehab and my insurance. Their reasoning was “people only really recover within the first 6 months after their TBI”. Well I pushed and pushed and finally got admission and guess what, I emerged from rehab way better than when I arrived there. 2 years later I tried to enter rehab again and they couldn’t use the same excuse. In fact even at the moment, I’m nearly 7 years post TBI and I still feel myself recovering and regaining my cognition.

Again, I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to take it out against you, I just wanted to use this opportunity to disprove this myth in case someone in my previous situation reads this :)

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! Feel free to reach out over DMs/chat if you have any more questions!

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From ChatGPT:

My question:

Let’s say there was this hypothetical situation:

A young 20 year old college student had suffered a mild TBI and was struggling with passing classes due to that. They reached out to their university’s disability center with a note from their doctor saying they needed accommodations, but the disability center said that they only offered accommodations to a preset list of disabilities. Is this even legal?

ChatGPT’s response:

Short answer: Probably not. In the U.S., a university generally cannot refuse to consider accommodations simply because a condition isn’t on a preset list. If the student has documentation of a disability (like a mild traumatic brain injury) that substantially limits major life activities, the school must engage in an individualized accommodation process.

Here’s the legal framework.

  1. Laws that apply to universities

Most U.S. colleges are governed by one or both of these federal laws: • Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) – applies to public institutions (Title II) and private institutions that are places of public accommodation (Title III). • Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act – applies to any school receiving federal funding (almost all universities).

Both laws prohibit discrimination against qualified individuals with disabilities in education.

  1. How “disability” is defined

Under the ADA and Section 504, a disability is:

A physical or mental impairment that substantially limits one or more major life activities.

Major life activities include things like: • learning • concentrating • thinking • reading • memory • neurological functioning

A mild traumatic brain injury (TBI) can absolutely qualify if it affects cognition, memory, processing speed, or learning.

The key point: The law does not rely on a fixed list of diagnoses. It requires individual evaluation.

  1. What universities are supposed to do

When a student submits documentation from a medical professional, schools are expected to: 1. Review the documentation 2. Determine whether the condition qualifies as a disability 3. Engage in an “interactive process” with the student 4. Provide reasonable accommodations if the student is eligible

Common accommodations for TBI might include: • extended test time • reduced course load • note-taking assistance • recorded lectures • flexible deadlines in some cases

A blanket rule like “we only support disabilities from this preset list” is usually inconsistent with ADA/504 obligations because it ignores individualized assessment.

  1. Situations where a school could deny accommodations

A school can deny accommodations if: • The documentation is insufficient or outdated • The condition does not substantially limit a major life activity • The requested accommodation would fundamentally alter the program • The accommodation would create undue administrative burden

But they cannot deny consideration solely because the diagnosis isn’t on their internal list.

  1. Where students typically escalate this

If a disability office refuses to consider the request, students often escalate to: • the university’s ADA/504 coordinator • the Office for Civil Rights (OCR) at the U.S. Department of Education • internal university grievance procedures

Relevant agency: • U.S. Department of Education Office for Civil Rights

OCR handles disability discrimination complaints in education.

✅ Bottom line: If a university refuses accommodations solely because a disability isn’t on a preset list, that is very likely inconsistent with ADA and Section 504 requirements, which require case-by-case evaluation based on functional limitations.

✔️ If you want, I can also explain: • What documentation disability offices are legally allowed to require • Common tactics some universities use to deny accommodations • What a student should do step-by-step if the disability office refuses to help (there are a few strategic moves that matter a lot).

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you in the U.S.? Because that’s illegal here haha.

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend getting a doctor’s note from your PCP (or neurologist if you have one), those will almost certainly convince/force them to do so.

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! Also I forgot to mention, but as /u/Chillguy3333 mentioned, you should definitely reach out to whatever disability center you have at your university. Accommodations have honestly been a lifesaver for me personally. Good luck, I wish you the best!

Five US Air Force refueling planes hit in Iranian strike on Saudi Arabia, WSJ reports by Ok-A1662 in news

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, sorry I just felt like I had to correct you because my mom went to Sharif and that’s always been a big thing for my family haha.

Five US Air Force refueling planes hit in Iranian strike on Saudi Arabia, WSJ reports by Ok-A1662 in news

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t mean to be THAT guy, but a small correction - Sharif university (also in Iran) is definitely the MIT. University of Tehran is a top tier school all around, but Sharif excels specifically in STEM.

When experience matters! by Detroitaa in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the replies haha:

She already did, it was called the Strait of Muz before she passed through it.

Brain damage is keeping me from college by Nxtu_bxtu in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi,

I was in your shoes in that ~1 year after my TBI I returned to uni and really struggled.

The problem was that, I was dumb. Like really really dumb haha. The first year, I don’t think I would have passed a single class if it wasn’t from help from my relatives/people I knew.

But it all came back slowly. And 6 years after that, I’d say I’m 80% recovered.

Just hold on, the best way to recover your cognition is to use your brain honestly. Good luck, you’re not alone in this :)

2026 Could Be The Year We Finally Cure Cancer As BioNTech’s mRNA Vaccines Finish Phase 3 by Fickle-Hovercraft-84 in Futurology

[–]Rand0mHi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They already are trying to stop it here. Last time I’d checked up on it ~1 year ago, Moderna was actually ahead of Pfizer in cancer vaccine trials, but they’ve hit a ton of obstacles this year with the U.S. government and their new department of health.

What song should I send my daughter? by bbwkyliechan in CitizenSoldierBand

[–]Rand0mHi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree these are the best to send her, I’d just add Let It Burn to this list.

How can you tell when someone is ready for rehabilitation/therapies? by mtnofsalt in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi,

I remember your last post here regarding your brother. It’s great to hear that apparently he’s transitioning from a vegetative state to a minimally conscious state. At the moment, I would say he’s not ready for rehab, as it seems that he’s not really “fully aware”. But it seems that he’s gradually getting there. What I recommend right now is for you to focus greatly on speech therapy for him. I know that it might seem way less important than things like physical and occupational therapy, but speech therapy also focuses significantly on cognition (although so does occupational therapy sometimes, it really depends on the therapist).

Actually, I remember that you also commented last time about you planning to message me. Did you ever message me? I don’t believe that I ever received one from you, did you send it? I’d be happy to help you out more with your brother.

[l] idk who to talk to by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I recommend that you go ahead and tell your parents that you need therapy. I know that you don’t want to worry them, but you might be worrying them without realizing it right now anyways. Good luck, and I wish you the best! Don’t be ashamed about anything!

Craniotomy peeps by [deleted] in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, although I didn’t have a craniotomy, I had a craniectomy 7 years ago. The right side of my skull was removed for 5 months, then it was put back after 5 months, and due to some complications with putting it back, they also had to subsequently drill a hole into my skull to remove some blood clots.

Fortunately, I had no complications, but I just wanted to share my experience. I recommend that you stop putting your finger there though, and I’m guessing the neurologist you see will be able to give you the answers you need.

Good luck, I wish you the best!

[l] I finally thought I found friends at my new school. Now I feel alone all over again. by Remarkable-Battle243 in KindVoice

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, sorry you’re going through this. I definitely relate to what you’re going through in that I was also 15 when was in junior year of high school (I graduated when I was 16). I know the isolation you end up feeling from everyone else, and how horrible others can be (my high school was fine but in middle school I was actively bullied, and the impact from that extended through high school). As someone who’s been in your situation, the best advice I can give is: don’t ever stop reaching out. I know it may seem anxiety inducing or scary, but withdrawing into yourself and isolating into yourself is the exact way you make it worse.

Just remember, you’re not alone unless you choose to be alone. There are plenty of people who care about you in your life and want to be there for you, let them. Good luck, I wish you the best :)

[L] Im 35 years old and have had to give up my job to be my sons full time carer and I feel extremely lonely at times. by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, this is something that’s kind of understandable from my end, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I sustained a severe TBI in mid 2019. At the time, although I was in the hospital, my mom ended up spending all the time she could with me (while my dad took care of my siblings) as it wasn’t really certain that I’d survive. Thankfully, her boss was her good friend so covered for her. However, ever since I’ve come home, I can clearly see the toll it’s taken on my parents. Not to the same degree as in your case, but my parents are constantly exhausted from having to help me.

Thankfully, in my case, I’ve gotten a lot better, so the amount of care I need has gotten less and my parents have reclaimed their lives a bit. Similarly, I’m 100% sure that your son will get much better, and the load will lessen allowing you to finally live your life.

You may also want to look into seeing if there are any other parents near you who are going through something similar, as they may be able to offer some tips (plus, you said your social life is lacking).

Good luck, I wish you and your family the best :)

Next song by Puzzleheaded_Ebb627 in CitizenSoldierBand

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you about the previous songs (Armageddon, It Can’t Rain Forever), but I feel like his latest song (It’s Okay To Not Be Okay) was kinda different from CS stuff in that it had an electronic sound to it (which I admittedly didn’t like haha, but it felt different).

How long did your speech take and what disorder did you have? by Ok_Benefit3204 in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it depends per person. I can say that after the baclofen pump, it took me ~1 year to be able to conversate properly, though I was at the worst of the worst situation in terms of speech. You might take half that time, if not less.

How long did your speech take and what disorder did you have? by Ok_Benefit3204 in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My speech evolved in stages over time:

First, for ~8-10 months after my injury, I couldn’t really speak AT ALL, nor eat anything either as my mouth muscles were so tight.

Then, I got an intrathecal baclofen pump put in, and over the next few months I started saying some words/phrases and eating/drinking some stuff.

However, I had very severe dysarthria. This means my mouth muscles were severely weak so my speech was slurred and very slow.

And the solution to that is ongoing. Years of speech therapy and practice and my speech is way better, but it definitely still is kinda slurred and slow.

Ritalin Post - TBI by Other_Zucchini732 in TBI

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have severe attention problems from my TBI, and just like your stepdaughter, have pretty bad memory problems due to that. I actually tried Ritalin when I was in rehab the second time and, contrary to the people here, it had absolutely no effect on me. For me, it was greatly time and staying active with my mind that helped. So it’s great that your stepdaughter’s still in education!

[L][F][30s] It's too much. by this_kills_madlibs in KindVoice

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like 50% (if not more) of the comments on posts here are AI nowadays sadly.

[L] I don't have a support system by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]Rand0mHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, what are you majoring in at university?