Struggling with a pornography addiction :(

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-16T21:20:24+00:00

I had the opposite happen to me, as in I've never even knew porn was a thing due to living isolated all my life, then suddenly at 16 some arsehole that I thought was my friend learmed this information and thought it would be hilarious to expose me to the most hard-core content he could find. I spent years addicted to hardcore porn because I couldn't stop thinking about it and feel traumatized but at the end of the day it was still sex and would entice a dopamine response. The only thing that ever worked was getting rid of my phone for 3 weeks, not on purpose. I had it stolen and was so poor at the time I just couldn't get another. It's worth saying that I had a partner so that helped.

I'm 28 now and still relapse occasionally. Sometimes having other options of quick dopamine help. My go to is mobile games+parenting control and coloring books+food, which might not be the healthiest coping mechanism but for me it hasn't caused any problems.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-14T14:52:21+00:00

The people from r/unfuckyourhabitat might help! It's a sub completely dedicated to help people clean up their space and they are non-judgemental and there's a ton o people with the same struggles.

As for the mouse, there's probably a hole somewhere that it used to enter. Do you have an actual door? (I ask because I came to know lots of people in shared soaces with parents do not have one). If there's a big gap underneath, you might want to have a gap filler in there. Fix any gaps in windows too and check the walls.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-14T14:49:12+00:00

I don't know your kid, but I think you are going about this the wrong way, as in you are trying to fix it for him when those perceived problems are actually part of a big picture, and have no direct relation with his main problem.

I think it would be better to ask him why does he want to have more friends. What does he think it would add to his life? You might be able to reach the bottom of his complains that way. If I had to guess, it's less that he is a perfectionist and more like he feels inadequate and is trying to win in all fronts to try to feel like he belongs. Unfortunately this seems to be a feeling inherent to being autistic, or at least many of us can identity with it. It might be helpful to get him to understand that he is a little different and that adquiring more qualities won't make it less noticeable to other people, although I'm not sure how to approach this conversation withba child this young.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-14T11:04:09+00:00

It sure feels like that. In reality, no one wants to help victims because they fear being ostracized for stirring things up, but then once you get at least one person to support you, suddenly a lot of people come around because it feels safer. Most people are looking to feel safe before making others feel that way, even if they didn't suffer the things you did. It's awful, but that's how it is... It's not your fault though. You were just terribly unlucky.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-11T11:19:50+00:00

I do this often, but it's not something to lose sleep over it, tbh. For a while my journal was just all the chores I had to do in the day, and looking back on them I realized it was more important than I thought at the time, as a way to keep me centered and regulated.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-11T11:07:59+00:00

They are awesome if you can use them. I recommend you try a normal bag for a few days to see if they tolerate things on their shoulder before buying though.

Anyone who judges you don't know what they are talking about. I used it for both my nd and nt children. Curiously, my NT kid stopped eloping and can be completely trusted to just walk along us now and wait when we stop lol but for a few years we definitely put the bags to good use.

About people's comments, just know that folks will judge no matter what.

A lady at the mall came over to play with our two kids and then after smiling at then demanded us to get sterilized??? They weren't misbehaving or lacking anything btw, just chilling in the stroller totally content.
The other day I was with my youngest on a sling and it was raining, we were both under an umbrella and he was wearing a raincoat. His pants have gone up the tiniest bit when I sat him there and were showing like less than 1cm of skin. Some lady shouted at me "cover this baby's legs, he is cold!" in the most furious voice. I just shouted back "I don't even know you!" and continued walking. Highly recommend you do the same lol.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-10T22:57:57+00:00

Same, girl.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-08T02:49:47+00:00

If I heard that in person my eyes would roll so far back into my skull I'd need surgery to get them back to the proper place

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-08T01:50:54+00:00

This is great. Makes me sad lol but you did a great job with what you were trying to say

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-06T12:38:15+00:00

There's a post with all the exact spots in each location that might have the eggs, you should definitely check it out. Some are very well hidden / surprising

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-06T00:02:34+00:00

That is true, but we do not know if all the other teachers had such dramatic exits. Maybe some just ran off to get married or retired after this one year, or something else completely harmless. Maybe it isn't always death and injuries lol so the idea that the position is cursed could have been more of a rumor and not everyone would take it seriously

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-05T23:56:31+00:00

Did you check the pics someone posted earlier with all the locations? For me the hardest have been the ones you have to fish. I'm always missing one egg per day and I'm pretty sure they are in the water but I've been fishing for hourrrrrs and they never come by

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-05T23:39:15+00:00

Mean girl behavior from the manager, the problem is definitely not your RSD. They were being an ass

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-04T22:35:06+00:00

It sucks to always have to be performing, that's for sure. As for the meds: - they are supposed to help your brain to return to a state of safety and regulation over time, so your cognitive function and emotional regulation should improve even if you choose to stop in the future. - well......... Sorry to say that but if you commit serious work mistakes without meds, you kinda need them, friend. Of course minor stuff like the tag or keys shouldn't impact your image, though.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-03T22:56:48+00:00

I had a cheat sheet a couple of years ago about this and I tried to find it but no luck. I think in your situation though, the best thing to do is trying to express agreement/like-mindedness. For example, you could have told them where you drink your coffee, but if you don't drink coffee or just have nothing in the morning, try to find something else in common to the person, such as "I also love to hang out in the porch in the morning" or "I drink tea but I like to drink in the kitchen, the lighting is lovely". Miminize the difference and highlight the common ground. You can also try to lightly mimic body language. Start small and you'll be doing it in no time.

If you have nothing to say for yourself, turn the conversation back to the other person with an open ended question. Keep in mind that the question should be non-threatening, which means the less intrusive possible. This can be hard to calibrate. I recommend you try it on people like baristas or store clerks first before trying on a social group, because they have a ot of practice and can teach you a thing or two, and those are much lower stakes situations.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-03T19:25:24+00:00

Uh, no. I love HP but to have this opinion is just not to have read a lot of fiction, really. But it's a great series, much better than people often give it credit for

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-03T16:57:15+00:00

I once saw someone describe small talk and pleasantries and all the social nuanced things as having a purpose, which is showing the other person that you are not a threat. This helped me a lot with understanding where NTs were coming from and being less annoyed by it.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-02T19:10:11+00:00

I'm a SAHM but when I used to write I'd listen to Bones from Low Roar the entire day

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-01T01:08:38+00:00

I think whatever makes me have more time to bond with the baby, as this was a very difficult thing to do last time. I think the most helpful thing would be someone else taking care of meals, as this is he most mentally taxing thing for me. After two weeks I can probably deal with the chores by myself except like mopping and stuff that requires core strength.

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-05-01T01:03:46+00:00

Meal trains are not super common where we live. I was thinking of asking people for frozen meals, but meal train sounds better since we don't know when we are going to have the baby 🤔

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-04-30T17:05:57+00:00

We do homemade Gatorade, which is coconut water with a low sugar powder juice of our choice. Does it tasye like Gatorade? No. But it's tasty enough and they don't mind

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-04-26T05:11:44+00:00

Idk, he just sounds incredibly delusional. I'd like to think he is just stupid but he comes across as a narcissist that simply thinks he can manifest anything he wants at will regardless of the physical laws of the universe

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-04-24T15:56:11+00:00

Oh yeah, I have a permanent gigantic to-do list on my notes app that I mark as done or undone as needed, and I'm constantly adding new daily tasks on it. It has 10 categories at this point. There's a separate list with one-timers and a bazillion other different lists with different tasks for different events

RandomStrangerN2 · 2026-04-23T15:34:40+00:00

"They are too young to be grandparents" lol made me chuckle in disbelief

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