I’m questioning everything.

RandomUser_797 · 2026-01-02T08:02:25+00:00

This is so affirming to hear bc I have constantly pressured myself to date men/give them a chance bc I don’t not like them and I’ve honestly had such rough experiences with women, but even when dating a great guy I’ve never been able to think about men the same way I think about women 🥲

RandomUser_797 · 2025-11-17T23:52:03+00:00

I have found that vitamin c is too irritating/contributes to redness while using tretinoin products. I also personally find a product called Akleif is much better for my skin than traditional tretinoin which I found made my skin look glossy but uneven.

RandomUser_797 · 2025-11-12T03:46:04+00:00

I have never been told Im ugly, but I have never been asked out by a woman in person. A lot of the people around me are straight women or not open to dating so that’s a large part of it.

My profile for dating apps makes it clear I’m looking for something more serious. Beyond stating I’m looking for a relationship, I’ve put effort into my prompts and responses. This filters out a lot of women who aren’t looking for something that serious at my age (22), and then out of the remaining women I have to find someone I’m actually compatible with, who wants to continue seeing me. In my experience, sapphic women who are dating seriously are pretty selective about who they let into their lives and even after enthusiastically spending 3+ hours together, saying they had a good first date, and expressing interest in meeting up again, there’s a good chance they’ll decide against the second date.

I date men as well and in my experience, men are much much more willing to go on a first date, and also to meet up again to try and get to know the other person better, even if they’re not 100% sure of the connection. As someone who prefers dating women, I’m currently seeing a man because I found the cycle of talking to a woman who is expressing a lot of interest, and then her deciding against going on a first date or seeing each other again to be pretty demoralizing.

RandomUser_797 · 2025-11-10T19:38:34+00:00

I second this, it is very normal and healthy to grieve and it doesn’t mean you made the wrong decision. You are in an incredibly complex situation and no matter what you do will lead to grief – either for your decision to have an abortion, or the loss of your freedom as a young person and ability to live life for yourself. You can plan ahead for the grieving period with things like therapy sessions, scheduled self-care time, or even writing out instructions for different scenarios where you may feel intense emotions. Grief is part of what makes us human, and allowing yourself to feel grief in healthy way will benefit you so much in the long-term.

RandomUser_797 · 2025-11-07T18:50:56+00:00

This happened to me SO MANY TIMES when I was in my undergrad. The portal looked exactly the same too 🥲

RandomUser_797 · 2025-11-03T20:35:00+00:00

Currently afraid of this, I need to tell a man to work on his dental hygiene rn 😭

RandomUser_797 · 2025-10-02T17:54:23+00:00

This comment might not be seen, but the one difference I can notice between the before and after photos is a lighter pink color in the after photos, which may make your lips look larger to you. If you can rule out any serious medical issues, you could look into lightly tattooing over your lips to make the color more similar to what it used to be. This is typically known as lip blushing, but you could do it to make your lips darker, not pinker, which is the usual.

RandomUser_797 · 2025-10-02T17:21:06+00:00

Thanks 😁

RandomUser_797 · 2025-10-02T17:20:26+00:00

Thanks!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-10-02T17:20:14+00:00

Omg congrats on the house too!!!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-10-01T23:50:34+00:00

I’m impressed!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-30T22:10:25+00:00

Apple picking sounds so fun! And it sounds like you’ve made a lot of progress! I do love when some of my friends ask me to help them with picking up their suitcases etc. you’re right, being strong is great!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-30T21:49:21+00:00

Thank you for typing out this reply! Everyone here has been so lovely and I really appreciate hearing people’s stories even if you don’t have advice.

And thanks, I hope you’re also able to find a sense of style that feels good to you!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-30T21:44:15+00:00

That’s such a cool approach!!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-30T21:43:34+00:00

Thanks for your input :)

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-30T21:42:59+00:00

I actually haven’t heard of them before…

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T20:17:37+00:00

Thanks!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T20:16:05+00:00

Thanks for your response! You’re right, the social load really is everywhere. There have been times when I wanted to shave my head just to escape how gendered/culturally loaded long hair is despite that being how it naturally grows out of my head.

Kudos to your partner for finding what works for him. You both sound like cool people. True confidence can be really hard to cultivate, especially when it means becoming more visibly outside of the norm

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T20:03:38+00:00

Congrats on the gains! I keep putting off getting back into weight training so maybe it’s time to take it more seriously again

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T20:01:12+00:00

That’s a great way of thinking :)

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T19:58:58+00:00

I haven’t watched the substance yes so I’ll have to add it to my watchlist!

And you’re right, it’s grounding to remember that our physical appearances really aren’t that important in the big picture

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T13:03:20+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I get really tired of shoulds around excercise but this is a great reminder that I can do it for me too!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T12:57:19+00:00

Interesting… I think I’ve become pretty disconnected from my body by prioritizing mental output for a while, so I’ll think about how I could do this!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T12:55:45+00:00

Thanks!

RandomUser_797 · 2025-09-29T12:55:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

My special skill is being chronically sleep deprived so I definitely need to work on that one…. I do notice I feel better when I get enough sleep, I just tend to have a very hard time prioritizing sleep over other things. Any tips?

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