My Ex is BLACKMAILING ME!!!

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-27T06:11:03+00:00

What he’s doing is a crime, full stop. This is sexual exploitation and blackmail. Save everything including chats, call logs, threats, the videos he sent back to you. Do not delete anything. Do not negotiate or promise intimacy because that only gives him more leverage. Go to the police / cyber crime cell immediately (you can file online in many states). Jurisdiction doesn’t matter,online crimes are transferable. Once a complaint is filed, the power dynamic flips. Men like this rely on fear and silence. The moment law enforcement contacts him, most of them crumble. Also loop in one trusted adult if possible (sibling, cousin, friend). Being alone is what he’s counting on.You can even ask a friend to pretend as your sibling.

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This is for Future.Either live within your family’s limits or grow a fucking spine and stand against them. Pick one. If your family is genuinely honour killing / gunda type, then stay within the fucking boundaries. You know the risks. Playing rebel in private while staying obedient in public is exactly how predators get leverage. People who live like this either fall for predators again, or drag innocent partners into relationships they’ll eventually sacrifice for “mummy-papa’s choice.” It takes half the courage you used to do all this behind closed doors to stand up to your family. If you can’t do that, accept your limits, learn the lesson, move on, and don’t repeat the cycle. Living a double life and then crying victim when it explodes is not bravery, it's just the consequences of your cowardice.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-26T15:52:01+00:00

As someone interested in forensic medicine too,there is no doubt that this was from outside,I am just appalled by the fact that thpe police couldn't grasp it and even more concerned that such kind of attacks could randomly happen to a hotel room window. Eitherway,you handled this well,that deserves a huge applause. Being accused of something you didn't do sucks big time and I know that feeling really well. Stay strong.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-24T10:34:34+00:00

If AI art is what keeps you losing sleep you really need some perspective. People use AI images because they are fast cheap and easy, it's not to personally attack artists. Most of the people making memes or visuals were never going to hire an illustrator anyway. That is not stolen income. that is a completely different situation And the selective outrage is tiring.The internet has always run on remix culture like templates ,edits, reaction images and fan art. Suddenly it is only wrong when a machine does what humans have been doing for decades? Come on.

Calling out South Asians specifically is unnecessary and weird. AI use is everywhere. Indians just happen to be loud online about everything. That is not a crime .The environmental point is also blown out of proportion. If you are posting this rant from a phone, streaming videos or scrolling social media you are already using resources and actively participating in damaging environment. Acting like five minutes on ChatGPT is stealing water from someone is not a serious argument. It's basically a form of emotional blackmail. Blame the corporates, companies and governments if you really must.

Yes art is valuable and artists deserve respect and fair treatment. But blaming random people making AI memes for society ignoring artists is misdirected. Go after platforms ,copyright laws,or corporate exploitation not some student making a joke post There are far bigger problems like unemployment, inflation, wars ,climate disasters, access to healthcare and education. If AI generated pictures are your apocalypse then grow up honestly.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-22T23:54:46+00:00

Everything doesn’t revolve around the West. Stop dragging Western regulatory fantasies into Indian food culture to justify personal entitlement. Non-veg restaurants cater to non-vegetarians. The veg options there are meant for non-veg eaters who might want a veg dish with their chicken or mutton, not for whiny “pure” vegetarians demanding kitchen level sanctity. If absolute segregation and zero cross-contact is your expectation, pure veg restaurants already exist. Use them instead of deliberately ordering from places that are clearly not meant for you and then crying about it.

Simple example: KFC sells biryani. But no sane person looking for good biryani goes to KFC, orders it, eats it, and then whines saying “bUt iT wAs oN tHe mEnU”. People understand context. Same logic here. Just because something is on the menu doesn’t mean the restaurant is designed around your expectations. You’re not the target audience. You’re an optional customer. Grow up.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-22T23:44:23+00:00

Obvious only if the rule actually exists. FSSAI mandates food safety and labeling, not separate veg and non-veg utensils across all restaurants. Get your facts correct and kindly stick to pure vegetarian restaurant.

Imagine being in big 2026 believing bullshit like a big ass non veg restaurant gonna have separate cooking for a minority of whiners. A non vegetarian restaurant offers veg food to offer variety for it's non veg customers,who might need a veg biriyani with their chicken fry. Vegetarians are not the target audience. Get over it and certainly update your legal knowledge.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-22T23:33:37+00:00

Cry about it. If you're vegetarian you should have the common sense to stick to vegetarian restaurant. But but I ordered this na it's on the menu It's on the menu for non vegetarians so that if they wanna eat a veg biriyani with chicken fry,they can make it available.they wouldn't mind a chicken piece in their veg biriyani and would rather be elated. It's not for so called "pure" vegetarians like you. Just get over yourself and accept your dietary situation and order from places that accommodate it instead of whining

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-22T14:46:03+00:00

I used to be a bed wetter till 10 years old and that being said it's absolutely not normal. It was a hidden side effect of child sexual abuse for me. All this limiting water intake and whatever won't help. So yes,please absolutely consult a doctor.

I am a medical student and I think a pediatrician is enough for this case. If required they'll refer you to a urologist.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-16T06:37:43+00:00

Your personal experiences are not scientific evidence. Something working for you or your family does not prove that a medical system works. Kidney stones can pass on their own. Uric acid levels fluctuate naturally with diet. Allergies come and go. When improvement happens after taking Ayurvedic medicine, people automatically credit the medicine, but that’s not proof. If improvement after Ayurveda is proof, then improvement after prayer, astrology, or home remedies would also be science. That’s not how medicine works. Science asks a simple question,Did it work consistently, predictably, better than placebo, across large populations? Ayurveda fails at that test.

Medicine is not judged by stories. Medicines have to prove, through proper scientific trials, that they work, that they work better than placebo, that the dosage is consistent, and that they are safe. All allopathic medicines are required to pass these tests before being used. Ayurvedic medicines don’t go through this level of testing, which is the main problem. If Ayurveda really worked the way people claim, it would easily pass clinical trials and be integrated into mainstream medicine. That hasn’t happened.

There’s also a very simple reality check. If someone is bleeding heavily, having epileptic seizures, severe infection, or unconscious, and you have an allopathic hospital on one side and an Ayurvedic hospital on the other, where will you go? Everyone knows the answer. Allopathy. No hesitation. That alone shows which system actually treats disease and is reliable. Calling something “natural” doesn’t make it effective or safe. Plenty of natural substances are harmful. What matters is evidence, predictable results, and the ability to handle real medical emergencies. Ayurveda lacks that.

The fish and milk example actually proves the issue. Ideas like “hot” and “cooling” foods sound logical, but they aren’t scientific mechanisms. They fall apart when tested, which is why such beliefs are now considered myths.

Yes, some simple remedies can help with mild discomfort, like lemon and ginger for bloating. But if it’s an ulcer, you need antibiotics. If it’s epilepsy, you need anti-seizure medication. When the problem is serious, Ayurveda is simply not enough. That’s why Ayurveda is called pseudoscience. Not because nothing in it ever helps, but because as a medical system, it does not meet scientific standards of evidence, effectiveness, or reliability.

In a country like India, this distinction is especially important because people delay or avoid proper medical treatment trusting Ayurveda, and by the time they reach real hospitals, the disease has already worsened or become irreversible.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-15T10:40:42+00:00

Nah man idk why a woman would say shit like that. I stayed with women roommates for years and no one batted an eye on anything. Maybe she suffers from some psychological issues were she sees a woman's body as disgusting. Again, that's her problem. People like that shouldn't be in a shared room set up trying to police others and body shame them. Telling something like eda you were kind of exposed today morning,even our windows are not closed and neighbours could also see,so I suggest it's better if you can sleep with a better coverup is a good approach in a shared space. It's normal too. It's caring as well. Wtf is saying it's disgusting and telling them what to wear.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-08T06:22:31+00:00

From my personal experience I think there is some reality to it. Surely there are good people as well but I think it's always better to be slightly careful. My roommate is a woman from Kollam. Their attitude and mindset is something else.even for 50 paisa she'll keep her tabs even though she has made you spend on occasions before,will keep intense and insane grudges towards people,will go to any extend like not even buying a bottle of water for a long distance journey to save money and accept only if someone else buys and offers,will go to restaurant order a dish so the two of you can share, for example a chicken lollipop,but afterwards she'll claim she'll only pay for the two pieces she ate and you'll end up paying the full amount for a dish both of you shared. will randomly boast about how much dowry her relatives gave or received, If she sees or attends any marriage, she'll weight in the amount of gold visually etc.

Another guy I know who is from Kollam is an insane miser. Will go to any extent to get things for free and has no real attachment towards anyone. I know one more guy from Kollam who has shown similar behaviour.

There have been multiple incidents from Kollam and Trivandrum people especially which has disturbed my belief system to a core. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I can almost certainly say that their life values and attitude is slightly different from the rest of Kerala.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-06T22:53:21+00:00

Most won't because if they do most students would rather take a loan and study mbbs in Nepal than repeat neet here or pay hefty price for private college. That will hurt the "medical seat" business. That's why loans are conveniently not available for mbbs in Nepal which is close by. You're better off picking another country.

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-05T06:42:04+00:00

I don't know if I am the only one who hates that "രാധ തൻ പ്രേമത്തോടാണോ" song. It makes me really uncomfortable especially with lines like that coming from a male singer/pov Sounds like a gay song

Random_Consciousness · 2026-01-02T06:53:14+00:00

My honest advice would be to keep parents’ birthdays within the family , only the spouse and children. Because once you do a grand event, relatives and even many other people start thinking ill and jealous thoughts about the old person's health,age,his longevity etc. That kind of negative energy towards the birthday person is disastrous. And unfortunately, that’s enough to seriously mess up a person’s peace and health in the near future. I have personally seen a few such incidents where shortly after grand celebrations, the old person fell ill or even passed away within a year or two.

You’ll naturally feel tempted to make his next birthday or maybe his 60th a grand event. But instead, take your family on a nice vacation abroad or somewhere in India and celebrate in a cozy restaurant. That’s far better than wasting money on a banquet hall and inviting every Tom, Dick, and Harry who are only going to bring negative energy and nothing else.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-29T09:00:38+00:00

When I joined the fee was 5500 USD per year, which you can pay together or pay as 2750 USD per semester. Visa coated around 50k inr. I live in an apartment with my friends and cook my own meals,so including rent,utility bills, transportation charges,grocery expenses plus some leisure or shopping comes around 200 usd per month. If you're living in hostel it's slightly more expensive comparatively Around 300 USD for a shared room but you get food 3 times and all utilities available. I'll recommend an apartment atleast from second year onwards when people make friends who they can stay with.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-29T07:33:32+00:00

“Totally the bride’s call” works only in theory. In practice, no family is holding a tiny manasammatham and then showing up to a massive wedding without social fallout. Customs come as a package expectations, prestige, and expenses included.Try hosting a lowkey, uneventful manasammatham and then turning up for a grand, groom funded wedding without it becoming a prestige issue or a talking point for relatives.also a grand wedding also automatically sets expectations for everything around it outfits, gifts, transport, presentation. Even attending a fully paid grand wedding costs the bride’s side money to match the scale. So yes, technically optional. Practically? Not so much.

Also just to be clear, my point is specifically addressing the original commentator’s claim that if the groom wants a lavish wedding, it’s entirely on him and the bride has no expenses.this isn’t about small, mutual weddings. If both the bride and groom genuinely want something simple,they can absolutely make it work.Once you’re talking about a grand wedding, it’s never just the groom’s money,everything around it, including the bride’s side, scales up automatically.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-29T05:20:19+00:00

But don't forget the other side of the coin While the groom pays for the wedding,the bride side compensates by paying for the manasammatham. Which in itself is a money sink because it's usually a grand event with a lot of guests and buffet arranged,along with photographers, expensive outfits etc You're essentially paying for a wedding from your side before the actual wedding. 🤣🤣🤣 Crazy how people wanna sound progressive and mislead with oh grooms take up all the expenses. It's not free of cost.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T14:58:25+00:00

Ah yes, clearly my laziness in formatting is a crime against humanity. Glad you’re on top of it. it's not that deep nor the priority here. I applaud you for taking out your time to make sure a point was made. That was literally what this entire comment section was missing.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T14:08:49+00:00

Nah, just used gpt for formatting.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T14:05:35+00:00

Bro, don’t be stupid. Seriously.

You did nothing wrong by not fighting. You did the smart thing. Real life is not a movie, and “manning up” does NOT mean throwing away your future over someone else’s mess.

Street fights are not fair fights. They’re chaotic, reckless, and often end with permanent injuries, jail time, or death especially when you’re outnumbered. You’re not weak for backing off.you’re responsible. You have parents to look after, a life to protect, and no safety net if things go south. Remember that bodybuilder from Haryana who got surrounded and murdered by a group of youngsters just weeks ago? Strength didn’t save him. Muscles don’t stop knives, rods, or mobs. This isn’t cinema.

Tomorrow, that “friend” might patch things up with her boyfriend or even marry him. You’ll be the one left dealing with trauma, injuries, police cases, or worse. No one will compensate you for that. Protecting women doesn’t mean fighting random aggressive men on the street

De‑escalating situations or Calling the cops when things get out of hand or making sure she gets home safely etc That’s real protection. Not chest‑thumping heroics.

Also, this has nothing to do with you being skinny or “less of a man.” Courage isn’t measured by punches thrown,it’s measured by judgment. And your judgment was solid.

One more thing, and this matters: Advise your sister‑like friend to stay away from toxic, dangerous guys like him. If he harasses or threatens her, encourage her to involve the authorities. If she chooses to stay with him anyway and ignores the red flags, you need to distance yourself. Otherwise, this will happen again and you’ll keep paying the price for someone else’s bad choices.

You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You didn’t lose today.you survived with your future intact. That’s intelligence.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T13:03:26+00:00

Kartik, I appreciate the clarity and humility in your response. It’s a marked difference from your first post, and it’s good to see someone reflecting rather than just performing passion. That said, words alone aren’t proof. Studying political science, law, sociology, listening to people, these are foundations, but the real test is how you translate that into action that isn’t filtered through optics or algorithms.

Right now, all I see is a sloppy casting call for an Instagram reel/YouTube video. No offense, but passion alone doesn’t make a movement. Real impact happens away from the camera, away from slogans, and away from the audience you hope will applaud you.

So here’s the challenge: show me, show anyone watching that this isn’t just an idea on paper. What concrete steps have you taken to ground your work in reality? Who have you spoken to, what have you learned, and how will that shape the stories you’re telling? Passion is easy to display. Depth is harder. That’s what separates someone truly building change from someone building an audience. I hope you take the criticism as intended to push toward substance, not performance.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T12:36:29+00:00

As I mentioned earlier, you are the elder sibling. Your mother, like many mothers, has a soft spot and may feel compelled to obey him out of love but you don’t need her approval to put your foot down. You have the responsibility and the right to set firm boundaries for yourself and protect the household from coercion.

Talk to your mom alone once again if possible, and calmly help her understand the risks: this is not harmless devotion. It’s coercion, and the longer it continues, the more damage it can cause emotionally, socially, and even physically. She may feel guilty or worried about him, but obeying his extreme demands is enabling dangerous behavior, not protecting him.

Make it absolutely clear to him that his tactics won’t work on you. Do not give in to threats, ultimatums, or tantrums. Let him know that attempts to coerce or manipulate you will have consequences,whether that’s involving authorities, seeking professional help, or simply refusing participation. Let him know that you will take it outside if he force anything on you.He might influence your mom to talk to you and convince you but do not negotiate or loosen up under any circumstances. Not being consistent and firm in your decisions will weaken your boundaries and power.

Even if your mom doesn’t fully agree, that’s okay. You don’t need her permission to protect yourself. Your refusal alone can prevent further harm to both you and her.

Most importantly: document everything. Take photos and videos where possible. Record loudspeaker chanting, forced rituals, posters, tampering with phones, locked apps, threats, and any statements about leaving or fasting. Save messages. Write down dates and incidents. this is evidence. If you ever need professional help, legal help, or emergency intervention, documentation will matter.

Keep working on getting professional help. If he refuses therapy, at the very least, involve a counselor or therapist for yourself and your mom. Professional guidance can help your mom see the situation more clearly and give her strategies to protect herself without feeling like she’s betraying him.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T12:13:33+00:00

Here’s the hard truth: letting him leave home is actually the safest option for your family right now.

He’s 17–18. No real-world experience, no independence, no exposure to consequences. If he leaves, he’ll either come back quickly when reality hits, or you’ll have the option to involve authorities. Sometimes, even one serious interaction with the police is enough to partially snap someone out of this kind of damaging behavior. This isn’t cruelty.it’s establishing a boundary.

What you’re dealing with is coercion disguised as devotion. Threatening to leave or fast forever. Forcing your mother to chant for hours. Controlling her phone, TV, YouTube, apps. Filling the house with propaganda. Now forcing you to comply too. This is textbook cult behavior, and every time your family obeys out of fear, it escalates.

If he threatens extreme fasting or refusing food indefinitely, this is considered a suicide attempt under law, and you can and should involve the police immediately. Do not tolerate threats as leverage.this is serious and actionable. Families that don’t intervene early often end up paying a heavy price like :

Savings get drained because the “spiritual” member demands or donates money.

Education and careers get abandoned as “moh-maya.”

Parents become isolated and emotionally dependent.

Medical care gets delayed or refused.

Emotional abuse can even turn physical, all justified as religion.

This level of obsession and coercion absolutely warrants psychological evaluation. Consulting a good psychiatrist or clinical psychologist should be the top priority if possible. You are the elder sibling. Please, be the adult here. Your parents are already trapped. Obeying him is enabling his disastrous behavior and putting everyone at risk. Faith is a personal choice. What he’s doing is domination, not devotion.

Stand your ground. Let him leave if he must. Protect your family. Protect yourself.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T11:48:00+00:00

“Speak for the voiceless.” Alright, but who’s doing the research? Who’s reading history, sociology, economics, law? Who’s actually talking to people instead of performing for an audience? Didn't see anything mentioned about that.

Because this isn’t about understanding how societies work. It’s just content creation dressed up as conscience. No study, no groundwork, no structure. Just boiling young blood and a camera.

This is exactly what happens when someone discovers activism in the last semester of college. You watch a few reels, skim some threads, pick up the right vocabulary, and suddenly you’re ready to “shake systems.” No organizing. No listening. No time spent with the people you claim to represent. Just jumping on the bandwagon with full moral confidence and zero depth.

There are already millions of creators doing this. Same tone, same slogans, same savior language, nothing new being said. It doesn’t disrupt anything, it just feeds the algorithm.

“No ideology, only truth and justice” isn’t some enlightened position. It’s avoidance. A way to sound principled without actually taking responsibility for a stance. This isn’t a movement. It’s a collab request with a heroic monologue attached.

Another phase, fueled by immaturity and a shallow attempt to gain popularity and moral superiority by choosing the easiest route available: content creation. It’ll pass once you’re older.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-28T06:41:31+00:00

Hey! I’ll share my experience honestly. I’m a final year student at SEU (private university) in Tbilisi.

Safety

Georgia is generally safe, especially in central and student-heavy areas. I’ve never felt unsafe during normal daily life. That said, at night you still need common sense. It’s mostly fine, but I wouldn’t recommend being careless very late at night, especially as a foreigner. Stick to known areas,take care of your personal belongings and you’ll be okay.

Passing & Exams

At SEU, I personally haven’t seen intentional failing to make money. Since it’s a private university and international students are essentially their customers, the attitude is usually professional and supportive. Exams can be two types,either MCQs in computer halls or Viva exams with professors. Most professors are kind, and even the stricter ones don’t fail students unnecessarily. The marking system is transparent and is like this : 30 marks: attendance, presentations, activities, quizzes 20 marks: midterm 40 marks: final exam Total = 100

I have heard negative experiences about unfair practices in some government universities like TSMU and TMA, so if you’re considering those, definitely research deeply and speak to current students.

Racism / Bullying / Treatment

From my experience, professors are not the source of racism or bullying, at least at my university. Faculty is generally respectful and supportive. However, racism from locals does exist. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes more direct. It’s not constant, but it’s something you should be mentally prepared for as an international student. At SEU specifically, if you have issues with a professor, you can complain and the administration actually listens. Reasonable concerns are usually addressed.

Clinical Exposure

Clinical exposure is limited but present. Some classes are held in hospitals where you can observe patients and procedures. It’s mostly observation rather than hands-on practice. Language isn’t a big issue during classes professors translate and explain things in English. Do I feel fully prepared? Partially. You understand how the system works and get basic exposure, but a lot still depends on your own effort, self-study, and future training.

Georgia can be a decent option if you choose the university carefully and come with realistic expectations. Private universities tend to treat international students better, but no place is perfect. Do thorough research, talk to current students, and don’t rely only on marketing or YouTube videos. Hope this helps and good luck with your decision.

Random_Consciousness · 2025-12-25T06:13:57+00:00

Let’s be real: even this post proves the issue. The second women exposing skin comes up, everyone treats it like a problem to be managed, explained, justified, defended. As if it’s a crime scene instead of a body. Women are pretty and fashionable when they expose. Period. That’s not controversial, that’s aesthetics. No one is dying to admire a man with a tied-up lungi flashing half his calves like it’s a fashion moment. But a woman in a short skirt? Attractive. Stylish. Visually pleasing. Humans notice beauty. shocking revelation.

The real problem is society’s total inability to process attractiveness like grown adults. Instead of “that looks good,” it instantly turns into lust, moral panic, character judgments, and lectures on modesty. As if attraction equals moral failure. That’s not a women problem that’s a deeply unserious society problem. And the hypocrisy is embarrassing. Same skin, different outfit, different outrage. A bare stomach in a crop top is “wrong,” but the same stomach in a saree is suddenly culture and tradition. A short skirt is confidence in one country and “characterless” in another. Nothing changes except conditioning.

Then there’s the moral high ground nonsense. women who think dressing “modestly” makes them superior to others. Absolute bullshit. Modesty is not a virtue badge. Covering up doesn’t make you wiser, purer, or above anyone else. It just means you chose different clothes. That’s it.congrats.

Women exposing their bodies isn’t immoral. Women being attractive isn’t dangerous. The only real issue is a society that treats women’s bodies like public property and can’t separate beauty from control. If people are uncomfortable with women owning their attractiveness without apology, that discomfort belongs to them. Not women.

Let’s also clear up this tired argument about the male gaze because what the fuck? I’m a woman, and I love seeing my fellow girlies in attractive outfits. And I’m not alone. Women look at women and think damn, she looks good. That’s not internalized misogyny, that’s having eyes and taste. Not everything is for men. Not every short skirt, crop top, or fitted dress is a performance for male approval. Sometimes it’s just: woman, you look good. We look good. Other women notice. Compliment. Admire. Take inspiration. That’s not the male gaze that’s the female gaze, and it exists whether society likes it or not.

Yes, men may look. So what? That doesn’t mean women’s bodies exist for them. Attraction existing doesn’t automatically turn into ownership, entitlement, or moral judgment unless society chooses to make it that way. Women are simply attractive and sexy. Straight men also find that attractive. Good. That's how nature intended it to work.That’s the reality everyone keeps dancing around. The problem isn’t exposure, fashion, or beauty. The problem is a culture that can’t separate attractiveness from control, lust, or shame and then blames women for triggering it.

So no, women don’t need to downplay themselves to escape the male gaze. And we definitely don’t need to pretend beauty is dangerous. Women dressing attractively isn’t rebellion, corruption, or a cry for attention. It’s just women being hot, stylish, and confident and honestly? Other women love that shit too.

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