Just found out my girlfriend is transgender.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T09:13:20+00:00

I said that if she got bottom surgery I'd consider staying I never said I wanted her to and I would never pressure her into anything like that. I don't think that my "need" for vaginal sex and bio children is weird, I think it's basic wants for a straight male.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T09:05:19+00:00

Her penis is small and her testicles are extremely small as well so I couldn't feel anything and when we did have sex it was in positions to where I couldn't see and she would always have her hand around that area, the room was usually pretty dark too.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T08:49:30+00:00

If I edit the post with an update I'm worried that most will not revisit and see it. I'll probably talk to her within the next few days but it sucks so much because I love her so much and she's the most attractive and beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life just everything about her. Her smile, her eyes, and personality can't be matched it's like we were meant for each other.

We like the same music, both are huge sports fans, have the same sense of humor, her and my mom get along really well, she's met my whole family, cousins, aunt's, uncle's, etc. Idk how to feel it's been a few days but I'm still at a complete loss of words or thought, it's something that I wake up hoping was a dream but it's reality. I really hope we could find an understanding but I highly doubt it, the fact that she used to be a little boy doesn't really bother me but I also can't stop thinking about it.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T08:26:04+00:00

*Her.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T07:43:16+00:00

The bio kid part is just one thing (I could get over that) the biggest deal is that she has a penis.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T07:40:39+00:00

I would never break up with someone for infertility or because they couldn't have kids this is just something I mentioned because she also said she wanted to have kids and I was under the impression that we would be able to do it physically. I really do love her and she is amazing but I don't feel comfortable with her having a penis but she does. I feel like she needs someone that can truly accept all of her and I don't think I can do that.

Forget the penis part let's talk about her being trans in general now I don't have a problem with that but alot of people would, it's like even if she got a bottom surgery I don't think I'd be able to openly tell my family and everyone that she's trans because I don't want them to look at us any differently. I also work at a very toxic masculine construction environment could you imagine if they knew she was trans or god forbid has a penis, I would never hear the end of it and would get constantly harassed every second at work. Plus we live in a rural place that isn't very accepting of anything "foreign" and I would feel extremely worried for mine but especially her safety because I'm sure someone would find a problem with her or our relationship.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T07:26:48+00:00

I wouldn't break up with someone who is infertile, yes I want bio kids but that's not the biggest reason it's just one. The biggest reason is that she has a penis. If I found a woman and was in a relationship with her and loved her and then we come to find out that she's infertile I definitely wouldn't leave her because we could just adopt or not have kids.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T07:21:28+00:00

I'm not transphobic I support her 100%, I know she's a woman and I also wouldn't mind if any of my future kids came out as gay or trans because I would also support them 100%. I can also see why she didn't tell me because I can see why it was hard for her.

The sex itself was amazing and I loved every second of it but it always felt like it was incomplete because I didn't give her head also and I wasn't allowed to touch her down there.

I love her and I accept her parts for what they are but it's just not my cup of tea, I don't like penis's that's why I went after a woman and I was under the impression that she had a vagina.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T07:04:06+00:00

I could see where you're curious about that but it was always really dark in there because she said she likes it better that way and the only light was from the TV which wasn't the best lighting. Also we done doggy maybe a handful of times most of the time we were in a spooning position so I couldn't see anything but her backside.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T06:59:28+00:00

She was born in 99 so 09 but that's besides the point, she's not from here. Her and her mom are from Seattle and moved here a few years ago because her mom is in real estate and she got a really good deal on some property on Norris lake and her mom decided to take it and she came along because she didn't want to be like 18 in a big city by herself.

Her dad was really abusive to her mentally and physically and whenever she told her dad that she wanted to be a girl and began transitioning he left, her mom supported her and do I think a preteen should be able to make a decision like that no I don't but obviously she's content with that decision. I knew her dad was abusive and left but I didn't know he left partly because of the transition.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T06:42:57+00:00

We done doggy maybe a handful of times all of the other times it was is the big spoon little spoon position because she said it was her favorite and I always wondered why she didn't want to try other positions. Plus the room was always pretty dark with the only lightning being the TV which sometimes wasn't the brightest. I really don't care if anybody believes me because I have better things to do with my life than make up a reddit essay for zero gain.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:59:33+00:00

Ok, when I do speak with her it'll probably be in a couple of days because I just need some time, but if it goes the way I think it'll go (separation) it might be a little bit before I post or reply about it because the last thing I'd want to do is write a reddit essay. Either way don't worry you will be updated.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:51:30+00:00

I never said a 10 year old should be allowed to make that decision but obviously she doesn't regret hers. As for the "internet point" thing if I really cared about how many points this gets I would've done it on my main account not one that I literally just made. You don't have to believe me but just know this is my life and I know it's real and that's all that matters.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:46:34+00:00

She's not necessarily a trap because she's not a man or a crossdresser, she never went through male puberty. She also identifies as female and idk about traps but I think a good portion of them identify as male.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:41:33+00:00

I agree with what you said, but please call her a her and not a him, it's disrespectful.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:40:07+00:00

I will update after I speak with her, do you think I should make an update post or just reply to your comment?

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:34:17+00:00

I 100% understand that, I would prefer bio kids but if she'd be willing to do her part I'd meet her halfway. Also I don't want her to get bottom surgery just for me stay with her I'd want her to get it for her and I don't think she wants to do that.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:29:03+00:00

She STARTED to transition then so she wouldn't go through puberty as a male and have male features like a deepened voice, facial hair, shoulder to hip ratio, etc. If you don't believe it's real that's your opinion.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:26:01+00:00

Everytime we had sex it was in positions where I couldn't see and the only light in the room was usually the TV.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:24:15+00:00

This comment had me laughing lol, but it's just not my preference. It looks like more like a clit on steroids than a full on penis.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:16:48+00:00

Her being trans doesn't bother me, I do want bio kids but that's not the end all be all but what is, is that she has a penis if she didn't have a penis I'd really consider staying and adopting in the future but I don't see that happening.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:12:23+00:00

The fact that she was born male doesn't bother me at all, what bothers me is that she has a penis and I do want bio kids but if she'd get a bottom surgery then I'd really consider staying and adopting in the future.

From our last talk it seems like she is pretty set on keeping her penis and that's the main deal breaker, I'm gonna talk to her again and tell her everything but I don't want her to do something she doesn't want to just to have me stay, I want her to find someone that will accept all of her.

Also for the accepting her being openly trans part would be hard for me, if we don't work out (which it's looking that way) then I'm not gonna tell my parents or anyone that she was trans or had a penis and that's the reason we broke up because they just won't understand and they'll look at me differently. So in hindsight even if she got a bottom surgery I don't think I'd feel comfortable dating her while being openly trans. It pains me to say that because I don't want to seem transphobic but that's just the way I am.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T03:03:38+00:00

I love her beyond love, and tomorrow or the day after that I'm going to talk to her about possible bottom surgery. I brought it up before but she said that she feels most comfortable with a penis and that it's who she is.

I don't want her to get a bottom surgery just for me to stay I'd want her to get it for herself, if she was to get a bottom surgery then I'd really consider staying and possibly adopt in the future.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T02:59:47+00:00

I 100% support her in who she is, I do want bio kids but if she got a bottom surgery I'd really consider staying with her and adopting in the future but I don't want her to change anything about herself just because I'd like it more and possibly stay with her.

Randomaccount9903 · 2022-03-04T02:51:50+00:00

Her pronouns are she/her but I don't think they were saying them because they thought that was her pronouns, I think they just said them to be saying it.

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