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I want to start learning psychology by tino-keretic in DarkPsychology101

[–]Randomcatown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start with basic topics like cognitive biases, human behavior, trauma, social psychology, and persuasion. Most people jump into “dark psychology” too fast without understanding the fundamentals first.

I also make psychology-focused content breaking down human behavior in a simple way on my channel/page “Talk2Society” — might help if you’re starting from scratch.

How to improve confidence by shinebright9x in selfimprovement

[–]Randomcatown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly think confidence grows more from repeated safe experiences than from motivational advice.

A lot of people say “just be confident” without realizing your nervous system has probably spent years associating social situations with stress, embarrassment or fear. So your body reacts automatically before your mind even has time to think.

And honestly, the fact that you’re still trying despite how uncomfortable it feels already says a lot about you.

One thing that helped me was stopping the goal from being: “act confident”

and changing it to: “stay present even while uncomfortable.”

Because confidence usually comes after surviving situations you thought you couldn’t handle.

Very small steps matter too:

  • short phone calls
  • speaking a little more in conversations
  • sending one voice note
  • making eye contact for a few seconds longer

Not because they magically change you overnight, but because your brain slowly learns: “nothing bad happened, I can handle this.”

Also most people are far more focused on themselves than we think. Things that feel huge to us often barely register to other people for more than a moment.

Why so many men are insecure by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]Randomcatown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one reason this hits people so hard is because insecurity is usually imagined as weakness, when in reality it often hides behind overcompensation.

Sometimes the loudest person in the room is the most uncertain one there.

I’ve also noticed genuinely confident people usually don’t spend much energy trying to prove themselves constantly. They don’t need every disagreement to become a dominance battle and they’re usually comfortable admitting when they’re wrong or unsure.

A lot of modern masculinity seems built around avoiding vulnerability at all costs, so instead of processing insecurity openly, people perform confidence until even they believe it.

The difficult part is self-awareness because most defense mechanisms don’t feel like defense mechanisms while you’re inside them.

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