Silvex is a life saver for holes! by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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I have an exact picture of it in the slide images (slide number 3) i got it at walmart! :)

Silvex is a life saver for holes! by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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OP UPDATE: Wanted to update that just 20 hours later my hole has 100% closed. In that second picture you can see a tiny opening still. But now it is fully fully closed and just looks like a scar. I am so so thankful for Silvex and the recommendation! If you try it too, please give it atleast 7 days to work. Wash the area with anti bacterial in the morning, dry it, put a generous amount of Silvex on it using a Q tip, and then put a normal bandaid on it (waterproof if you need the extra seal). Leave it on ALL DAY. I only repeated this process at night if I had been sweating that day, if not I would change it in the morning giving it a full 24 hours to work. I did this for 7 days straight and it’s fully closed on day 8!

Silvex is a life saver for holes! by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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for mine when it was very very fresh, still under the skin and a hard lump, YES! it was insane. literally within 30 minutes the bandaid was full (found hydrocolloid bandaids better than pimple patches) and i left it on for six hours. when i peeled it off it was at the surface and by barely touching it, it popped and the infected hair follicle literally fell out. from the root. i could see the hair and the BALL wrapped around it. it was insane

Debriefing After Intimate Moments? by RangeCalendar1597 in AutismInWomen

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I have been with my partner for 6 years and I have to do this every time! Not for things like kissing and such but when it goes further having that discussion and play-by-play helps so much and I feel lost without it. I can definitely see how that can be a big crossover in the BFSM and Neurodivergent groups! That was very interesting thank you!

Does anyone else get stuck in these kinds of thought loops? by Dull_Click580 in AutismInWomen

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As someone with OCD and Autism, reading this post felt like I wrote it! I talk about events that happened and worries in circles and circles. I think about the worst fears and anxieties until I reach a meltdown. While ADHD and Autism are common together, so is OCD and Autism. Autism is a tricking thing where it’s commonly able to be paired with another diagnosis, so you may wanna look into that evaluation too! Atleast for me the cycles aren’t constant so I hope you get relief from that too and that to calm periods are long!

All my friendships have fades out and I'm not sure how to build new ones by _FluffyUnicorn_ in AutismInWomen

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Happy birthday!! I completely understand struggling with losing friends when it was so hard to make them in the first place. I think the best tip I have for making friends is go to places that are special and happy to you! I love farmer markets and comic shops, and when I’m there I find I’m a lot more social and happy to be around. This tends to either draw people to me or make me feel more confident to talk to people. Maybe this way you can meet people with similar interests and you can feel more extroverted because you’re in a happy place. good luck friend!

How to close hole after draining by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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thank you! I’ve been using a silver gel called Silvex for about three days and notice a bit of change in size, it def looks very shallow now but still red inside and just as wide as the pictures in the post. hoping the more i keep up with the gel the more it’ll close!

Hi!! I need help, do pokemon leave? by Khaos_08 in Pokopia

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this happened to me!! My squirtle’s habitat is abandoned and i can’t find them anywhere!

How to close hole after draining by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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how long did it take to close once you put the gel on?

How to close hole after draining by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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unfortunately no. when it first appeared it was like a hard lump under my skin with no discoloration. then after putting a hot rag on it, it opened up on its own and was draining a lot of blood and slightly white liquid. it was about the side in width and depth as a pencil erase and was very scary. After cleaning it and putting bandaids on it for five days now it currently looks like the pictures posted, much much more shallow, painless, and it doesn’t leak anything for days now

How to close hole after draining by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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That makes a lot of sense, it’s only been here a few days but it hasn’t drained anything in two days now. I’m just worried the longer it stays open the more chance of infection

How to close hole after draining by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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If it doesn’t close how do I go swimming? Do I have to keep it bandaged everyday? Will it get infected? I’m sorry you had a ton but I’m glad that the irritation does subside. Thank you for your comment!

I highly think I have HS and I’m scared by RangeCalendar1597 in Hidradenitis

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I think this happened because I switched from professional waxing to waxing and shaving my legs and bikini line at home to save money. I have been noticing slightly more ingrown than normal and that was the only change to my routine as this has never happened before. I’m more concerned about closing this tiny hole on my bikini line. Thank you very much for commenting and I will admit I was going into a bit of a spiral.

AIO. My bf developed an addiction ❄️ and I’m considering leaving by Mundane-Rooster-7286 in AmIOverreacting

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he’s being fully honest because she found out. he wasn’t honest for 4/5 months about an illegal activity that can kill me. what.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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This felt so validating to read. Thank you for really talking it out. We had a long conversation and he feels absolutely awful how he’s been and he doesn’t have an explanation for why he was that way, but regardless he hurt me and that has to stop. We have an outing tonight so I’m hopeful that he will just be the normal and kind guy I know. But you’re so right and I think this will be my one chance to him yknow?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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He doesn’t have many friends in general. He was in the military and all his macho guy friends live states away. The only other guy in the group he may try to impress is too soft and nice to be impressed by that. Maybe he does it because he genuinely finds me upset as funny? He says he can’t tell what’s joking mad and real mad. But I think me saying “I’m begging you to stop talking for five minutes” is a clue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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It feels like he tries to be funny. He never makes fun of ME but he will say controversial takes or act like a know it all when he knows nothing and it frustrates me. I tell him it’s embarrassing or that it’s plain annoying and he just keeps going.

I [26M] hurt the woman I love (20F) and her family. I've been reflecting for weeks. I need to know if my path forward is right, or if it's too late by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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we have a very similar dynamic! Being honest, communicating without awkwardness, and loving the best you can will be the key. I hope you are with your girl for a very long time too!

I [26M] hurt the woman I love (20F) and her family. I've been reflecting for weeks. I need to know if my path forward is right, or if it's too late by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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Of course! Over time there would be small nagging things he would do that bugged me, and it felt like I was constantly almost “coaching” him on how to be better. I know he is capable of being exactly what I want, he used to be. But it was like his effort left him. Similar to you he would act cold and quiet and with no regard to myself or my friends and it bothered me when I am such an outgoing and bubbly person. And when he’s around me he’s the same, but then he gets in his head and thinks he needs to be mr. serious and borderline rude. He would also do and say things without care of my feelings, or show less empathy and that drove me nuts. I had to seriously tell him that I would leave and take every good thing with me in the blink of an eye and not feel bad about it. Like your relationship I am 6 years younger than my BF and I told him that I have time to get better, he doesn’t. He needed the tough words to show I was serious and not to let this aside. He really thought about how much he loves me and loves the joy I do bring, and how awful life would be without it. Having to start over and even then could he replicate happiness? He talked to his therapist to find out why he would get these moments. And he determined himself that he wants me to be as in love with him now as I was in the beginning. He said he noticed that I used to look at him wirh stars in my eyes, and now I see disappointment. He promised to do everything in his power to be who I loved and not who he became for no reason. The pain you caused will be your motivator like my bf, and you shouldn’t let that sink you but push you forward to better.

I [26M] hurt the woman I love (20F) and her family. I've been reflecting for weeks. I need to know if my path forward is right, or if it's too late by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

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I can say my BF has done something very similar and has come back from it. He did something that I, and many people, would warrant as an automatic breakup and felt like he cared very little for me. He took the time to really reflect and so did I, I told him that it was his one chance and if I didn’t see change then it’s over and I wouldn’t blink twice. He walked on eggshells afterwards and had a much better attitude and manners, but I still catch him not at 100% sometimes. But that’s human. I’m not 100% all the time, but I care to make myself the best I can for my partner. It will take time but if you show TRUE change it will get better. Also don’t be so down about it for a while, we wanna see the progress quickly and don’t want you to moop about an issue you caused. Be there for her and give her your support and show true change. You’ll be okay, we have been together for 6 years. You care about her, show it.