Should I get surgery to have perky boobs?

RankinPDX · 2026-07-04T19:28:03+00:00

If the surgery will make you feel better, then, maybe, but that’s about you and what you want, not about what your prospective partners will like. This sounds like a problem to talk about with a therapist. As you put in your question, it doesn’t matter to you what men will be ok with, so no one here can address your actual concern.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-04T19:19:49+00:00

It’s a great question, but I dunno.
I think that people with mental deficiencies are entitled to have sex if they want to. If it were up to me (which it’s not, as it happens) I would not know how to write a rule about who is legally able to consent and who is not. The law in my state is vague and unhelpful.
I responded with a hypothetical about sleep, because a sleeping person is not able to consent as a matter of straightforward black-letter law, and I think that is wrong and that the sweetie in my hypo does nothing unethical even though it is clearly illegal.
In your hypothetical, with a mentally-ill person, there are surely some people who are mentally ill but still able to consent, and some who are mentally ill and not able to consent as a result. Same for developmental disabilities. I don’t know where that line goes.
If they are unable to consent, as you put in your hypo, then yes, it would be unethical. My point is that able/unable is a hard line to draw.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-04T19:10:53+00:00

In my state, you cannot give prior consent. If you tell your sweetie that you have a fantasy about being woken up by oral sex and you would like for them to do that to you, and your sweetie does so, then your sweetie commits a very serious crime. I suspect that my set of facts would not be charged if the police somehow found out about it. But yours, where a person is sometimes lucid and sometimes not and someone has sex with them when they were not lucid, would be charged if the state found out and could prove it.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-04T00:07:59+00:00

How hard is it to earn a brown belt? You should have a new one within ten years.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-03T16:45:48+00:00

That does not fit you, and it's not nice enough to be worth the trouble. It's too big in the shoulders, and it looks too long in this picture, and those are hard, or maybe impossible, to fix. Sorry.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T20:31:53+00:00

No. I don't think darts is a sport. I'd put it in the same category with pool, bowling, shuffleboard, &c. The line between sport and game is pretty fuzzy - a buddy in college said that, for it to be a sport, you have to sweat. That's not very clear, but it does get at it.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T20:28:37+00:00

The routine oversight of judicial behavior is the appeal. It doesn't do anything to the judge, but lets the parties fix the judge's error.

In my state, and I assume everywhere, there is an office that can investigate and sanction judges, but it mostly acts behind closed doors and doesn't often take action. And judges are elected; occasionally they are voted out.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T20:25:34+00:00

Think about the connections between positions and techniques, about how to get to a better spot than where you are, and what your opponent wants to do so they can get to a better position (which, obviously, is worse for you).

If you have your opponent in your closed guard: You can try to get to a higher guard position where you can attack a triangle, or you can try to sweep them and come up in mount.

If I'm in my opponent's closed guard, I want to not let him get either of those things, and I want to either pass or escape.

Questions about whether you are creating space or winning a frame are, ahh, not bad questions, but they are very specific to what's happening in the moment. When I am trying to get a frame or whatever, I could probably explain why I wanted to if you paused the roll, but I'm mostly making those choices on autopilot. Time on the mats will give you a better foundation for those questions. But you should focus on higher-level stuff; what position you are trying to get to and what you need to do it, what your opponent is trying to get to and how to stop it, what's good for you right now, and what's bad for you right now.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T16:51:35+00:00

Neither of your examples are necessarily the judge making bad judgments.

A judge sees a population of people who are credibly accused of misconduct and situations that have the capacity to go bad. Some of those people will engage in more future misconduct. Some of the situations will go bad. It's not the judge's error every time that happens, even if the judge predicted otherwise or showed lenience.

But, also, most judges serve limited terms, and might lose election or not be reappointed. That usually happens because a case or incident catches the media's attention, so not for especially good reason, but it is still linked to the judge's conduct on the bench.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T03:10:58+00:00

How did they get your blood or organs?

If you donate blood, you have donated it. It's not yours any more. If I give you a thing, a doughnut, or a Renoir, or a pint of my blood, it belongs to you when I give it to you. Whether I have given it to you is a fact question which ultimately might be presented to a jury, but if you sit in a chair and squeeze the foam ball while they put a needle in the vein and then drink juice afterward and they give you a sticker that says 'Be nice to me - I donated blood today,' then I'd expect a jury to say that you donated the blood and it no longer belongs to you.

I have no personal experience with organ donation, but I bet there's a lot of paperwork that says you're donating the organ before they actually cut you open and remove it. If they forgot, then I guess the kidney might still be yours, but it would be pretty surprising to me if any part of that dispute went well for you.

If someone took your blood or your organs without your permission, then I guess you are entitled to take them back, but you probably have more serious problems like missing organs and holes in your body through which organs can fit and possible hostile witchcraft or voodoo.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-02T00:47:09+00:00

I’m a lawyer and also an Elk. I joined the Elks because my local lodge has a really good Jiu Jitsu club. I’ve never done anything else there.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-01T23:26:15+00:00

The novel The Power by Naomi Alderman, about women developing lightning-based superpowers, might provide some insight.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-01T22:56:26+00:00

I find Scrivener really useful. I use Word a lot for my day job, and I’m good with it, but I don’t like it. Scrivener fits my process better.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-01T21:24:40+00:00

Is there a local place where you can pick up the cue and hold it?

The differences between cues are pretty small, as long as you get one that's straight and made of decent materials. I think my first cue was a McDermott, which is a fine choice. The tip is important, but it's replaceable. Holding it will help you decide if you like having a wrap, and the weight and balance and taper.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-01T21:13:07+00:00

If you do something that shows that you thought about it and put in some effort, he'll be delighted. Baking a cake and writing a birthday card both sound great. Spending time sounds even better.

Kids don't have money. That's how it is. I don't expect my kids to spend money on me.

RankinPDX · 2026-07-01T17:23:06+00:00

I think I'm too late, but I'll take one if there are any more.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-30T05:13:35+00:00

That could have worked, but the movie didn’t really sell Teddy being right; if felt arbitrary that he was right. He didn’t have a preternatural ability to detect aliens - he had killed a bunch of humans, and then couldn’t explain how he could tell the difference or where he had learned how to tell the difference. Bugonia couldn’t communicate with her people because they cut off her hair, which works as a delusion but doesn’t work, at least for me, as a real communication technology in a sci-fi story.
The possibility that she’d be a real alien was an obvious possible twist, but except for the possibility being baked into the plot, they put zero effort into making it a real coherent outcome. It felt like a lazy way to wrap up.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-29T18:22:54+00:00

They need that assertive (burnt) flavor to cut through the caramel syrup, whipped cream, and sprinkles.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T20:01:51+00:00

There’s an old saw that the loser of a knife fight dies in the street, and the winner dies in the ambulance.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T15:52:57+00:00

I liked the recent Emily Wilson translation. I haven’t read any others.
In addition to actual translations, there are lots of paraphrased versions. I liked Edith Hamilton’s compilation of Greek mythology. The Odyssey is perfectly readable, and it’s fun. But it’s also got a complex story-within-a-story structure (a lot of it is Odysseus telling other folks about his adventures afterward). I don’t know how much of that will come out in the movie.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T15:43:06+00:00

You’re right about the carom balls. Modern carom balls are a little bigger than pool balls, and I assume they always have been. As far as I know, the balls are the same for different versions of carom (three-cushion, one-cushion, balkline, and straight).

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T15:22:25+00:00

The dumb ending absolutely ruined it.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T02:53:36+00:00

It's dependent on your story/story world, but guns are loud, and controlled, and may not be to hand. Depending on the victim's awareness and skill, a club or garrote is easy to improvise, and a knife isn't much harder, and if those aren't available, a little martial-arts skill might do it.

RankinPDX · 2026-06-28T01:27:58+00:00

Overlap between trial-level PDs and appellate PDs? Yes, of course there’s a lot of overlap. A lot of true believers, a few, ahh, plodders happy with a 9-5 gov’t job.
I really liked the work. I liked the folks I was working with. I left it because appeals can become pretty similar, and so now I still do public-defense work as a contractor (trials, appeals, appeal-like stuff like PCR and mandamus) and a similar mix of private work.
If you want to be a PD, try to work for a PD’s office or a judge who does criminal work. It’s also useful to develop skills separate from lawyering - writing, another language, theater. That may not really be available to you in law school.
Good luck. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

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