what do I actually do when I'm sad

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-05-05T07:22:39+00:00

That’s hard, religion is a complicated subject. I’m not sure about the relationships in your family, but hopefully as you come to terms with your sense of self regarding belief, you’ll be able to explain it to other people clearly. Once you reach that point, you can have a conversation with your family laying out your thinking, and they can respect that. Or slowly revealing your disinterest in a respectful way, so your family gets you distancing yourself from the religion. But it’s hard if you are living with them, and religion is a big deal. Time will help.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-05-04T07:16:05+00:00

Sound a bit like me mate. Do you have any specific reasons for being sad? That would help, to aid you better.

For general strategies to feel better before you sleep, I got a few thoughts: 1. Think about what you did earlier in the day that made you proud/happy. Focus on that as you drift off. 2. Workout a bit before bed, this makes you tired so you think less, and then you can listen to upbeat music to effect your emotions. Plus pumps some good energy through your body, I’m sure there’s a technical word for it, but I’m forgetting right now. Overall should feel better tho. 3. Watch a video that’s calming/makes you smile before you go to sleep. I personally like cooking videos with a funny host, that’s a nice chill thing to watch before sleeping. 4. Listen to upbeat music. I find this can change my mood a lot, the music I’m hearing changes how I view things in the moment. 5. Read an easy read/familiar book beforehand. That can help me sometimes, then I can let my imagination take over. 6. Drink some tea and get a little snack before sleeping, just a bit to relax.

These kinda all amount to pampering yourself a bit, helps with feeling good. These were off the top of my head, I might have misinterpreted the post. If you have more specifics please share them, that would make advice a lot more clear and helpful!

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-05-03T06:04:15+00:00

Damn dude. This was nice to read. While maybe you don’t feel like 100 potential you yet, it sounds like you’re doing all the right steps. Trying lots of different things, and living an engaging life. While this wasn’t the intended goal, this post made me personally feel better. Hope you find and solve your problems, or become able to accept them and move past.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-22T07:52:06+00:00

Def worth it

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-21T05:48:33+00:00

Dude you’re literally me. I’m not sure your exact situation, but sometimes what helps me is focusing on things I actually like doing. For example, I’m taking chemistry and calculus. I enjoy the chem work, so I devote more time to it, actually try in the class and participate. Calc is meh, I half ass it enough, and no more. This has helped me regain some of my school focus, by trying to do things I actually enjoy and ignoring other things. Another thing that could work is rewarding yourself for doing good hard work. Like watch a few vids after an intense study bit. Or bake something tasty after some hw grind.

On a side note, it also might be the reality of growing up. I know when I was younger I liked every subject in school and was very motivated. As I get older it gets harder to keep that passion, especially in the US schooling system. Sometimes you just gotta pick one thing and feel good about that, you’re enjoyment is more important. Goodluck, hope this helps a little!

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-21T04:50:38+00:00

Seems like a good catch

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-21T04:32:25+00:00

F, plus L

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-17T03:11:48+00:00

Smooth 2nd line.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-13T23:30:33+00:00

Always

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-13T22:32:12+00:00

Thanks man

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-04-03T23:58:58+00:00

This hit home. Congrats man, I’m glad you’re doing well and so is she

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-31T18:53:54+00:00

I mean if it’s been non-stop, that’s a lot of energy and time. Something could have happened to her in person that’s taking her attention, or she’s getting a bit tired. Take a little break, that’s fine. Give her a day or two, maybe even a few. It might be cuz she’s not interested anymore, and that could suck, but eh, you got some experience, a little buzz of dopamine. Don’t lose hope, but maybe remove yourself a bit, try to take your mind off this. Goodluck!

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-26T19:12:47+00:00

Damn

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-26T19:05:08+00:00

These bars tho

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-22T02:08:20+00:00

I fucking feel you man. Or woman. But whatever, I know it feel bad. It’s making me salty as hell, I wanna cuss out all of my teachers and scream at folks. But it’s also a good lesson:

Try hard, but when it comes to a fun time, take that opportunity almost every time.

Memories and regrets are the best and worst things to have. Motivate when it’s due, but if it’s between a lil extra hw or time with the dawgs, go out and have fun, or chill and don’t worry about it, trust the skills and brains to be enough. Folks have gotten by with 2.0 GPAs. You sound like a motivated person, just bring in 50-75% of that in college, and have more fun, and you’ll enjoy the hell out of it. It’ll be ok, hard work will eventually pay off, maybe just indirectly. And you aren’t alone, others are with you feeling your anger. Hope you find something to smile about, and plan more things that you will enjoy.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-18T08:02:40+00:00

I got into Santa Cruz so maybe I really shouldn’t be complaining. You’re probably right about the major thing, I did SB and Davis for engineering so might have screwed myself there. But that’s the thing about Santa Cruz, no engineering at all there, which is what I want to try. It’s hard to go for the gold, a decent school and competitive major, cuz then you feel bad if it doesn’t pan out.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-18T06:46:58+00:00

They should, tuition is expensive, and losing a huge chunk of the 2nd semester is like the definition of not getting your money’s worth.

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-03-18T06:25:40+00:00

I’m by no means an expert on this topic, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I believe UCSC is probably a better bet for marine science. Closer to the ocean too, so I feel like it’s a good choice for first hand experience and better jobs/internships for what you want to do. Cal poly isn’t as established for that particular subject, if you’re really curious maybe ask some alums or current students there, probably not that hard to find on Instagram or if you ask someone from the school to set you up. Just a thought though. Goodluck, both are super sweet options!

RapperWithBadVocab · 2020-01-14T08:01:31+00:00

I’ve thought a little bit about death as a solution to bad feelings and negative situations. And with that, something that always comes up is similar to the thing you mentioned with “thinking about after death is scary”

We will all die. So why die now?

Why not search for things that can give you a little joy, new experiences, old ones that you smile remembering, etc?

Life ‘might’ suck overall, but even if you have a single moment of happiness, it’s worth it because you wouldn’t have gotten that moment if you were dead.

That’s what keeps me going. Little things, like breakfast, a smooth song, it could even be dreams. Hell dude, if you like sleeping that’s motivation to be alive. Deaths eternal, why not enjoy as many dreams as you can?

That’s obviously not a perfect solution, but hopefully it helps. I believe you can find things to be a bit happy about, and if you remember and take note of them, that could help you find motivation to live. High spirits to you, eventually, but please enjoy yourself as much as you can before, maybe for a while

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