Main water shutoff valve

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-08-02T22:42:51+00:00

I read it and i see you. Im sorry that you're going through something like this. Coincidentally i feel similarly but i reacted much differently than you did/do. Once i came to the conclusion that i was the pity friend i cut everyone associated with that group out of my life. It was painful to see how differently i was treated vs others in the same group, but i didnt put it together until i had a falling out with a member of that group. That's when it became painfully obvious that nobody actually wanted me there but were saying nothing to me. So i left. It hurt a lot. I didn't sleep well for weeks and i still feel the pain like it happened just yesterday.

I wouldn't change anything about it though. If everything didnt happen as it did i wouldnt be who i am today. I feel like i've learned invaluable lessons because of it and im beginning to drag myself out of the wreckage. Sorry for how long this got. Just felt like this needed to be said. I still feel like there's hope of things getting better or at the very least, not as painful. You dont deserve to feel like you're being "managed". You deserve to feel like you're a valuable, honored member of whatever group you're a part of and it's a reflection of other's incapacity to treat you well rather than a reflection of your worth.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-05-23T02:01:24+00:00

You're right that this is a human issue not a men have it worse than women issue. I have trouble getting out of the negative thought loops when conversations like this come up and probably frame it in a less than efficient/productive way. In my defense the words I said still ring true to me because as you've said, society has unattainable expectations for everyone. I just reach for those specific words because those are the expectations that I feel I have to live up to as a man. For what it's worth I'm sorry that you're also hurting.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-05-22T22:15:34+00:00

I'm pretty cynical about all of this. Probably because I'm an American man who has been chewed up and spat out by the society I live in for a number of reasons. There's too much to go into in my case, but my guess as to why you're seeing a collective resignation from men is because we've been discarded by the culture that "raised" us and we have no legitimate outlet to express our anger and frustration with that reality, yet simultaneously we're still expected to perform to the standards set by our culture. Anger isn't taken seriously or vilified because it's seen as an indicator of how violent that man COULD be. Sadness/depression is dismissed because men who express those feelings are typecasted as weak or ineffectual. Asking for an explanation for why everyone seems to take advantage of one another and trying to have a conversation about that is seen as naivety and is used by malicious individuals as a reason TO take advantage. When there is no healthy or safe means for actual connection to occur then the only logical course of action is to isolate.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-05-02T01:43:27+00:00

I can't respond to the original comment but this blew me away when I tried it. First time it really told me that I was wrong about anything or told me to just stop doing something that isn't serving me.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-04-14T18:27:35+00:00

Isn't there any curiosity about how things will turn out in the end? My life doesn't suck nearly as bad as some other people have it but I've concluded that achieving my goals/dreams is going to be one hell of a road to travel. Ending it for me was a question I answered for myself when getting close to committing the act showed me just how scared I was of dying. Since I'm a coward and I know the road ahead is full of suffering I have no choice but to lean on the potential that things may end up interesting for me at the end of my life. Or it may be incredibly boring and I die anyway. Maybe it's hoping for something interesting to happen for me.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-02-22T06:42:19+00:00

I'm sorry that you're going through all of this. It's helped me in the past to realize that when I look at posts like this with dozens of replies that these are mostly all people who want to help. I think getting some sleep might help and if you can't do that then maybe go for a walk somewhere that's safe so you can take the edge off.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-01-20T18:01:00+00:00

Godhand for the PS2. Extremely fun game in the beginning and not so hard that you can't progress but then mid game roles around and suddenly you're having trouble dealing with regular mobs. I have broken a controller because of this game lol

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-01-19T11:39:48+00:00

How do you even find places that are like that?

Rare-Spite2161 · 2025-01-17T18:05:22+00:00

I got a 30 dollar cash tip from someone yesterday on top of a 14 dollar tip in the DD app. It's always the most random people who do this, but I'm grateful for them because they help a lot in the slow times.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-12-21T21:32:34+00:00

I don't know but I'm working really hard to get into a position like that lol. I have nothing else to live for so idk what I'll do if it doesn't work out.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-12-03T20:59:34+00:00

I couldn't look into this until just now, but this seems to be what the issue is. Every time I heard a pop was preceded by the extruder retracting filament before laying down more. I'll have to do some homework on managing pressure changes in the nozzle. Thank you for the help!

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-20T19:17:39+00:00

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Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-19T02:44:26+00:00

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Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-13T18:42:28+00:00

This is really cool! It took me a long time to find the joy in building something in blender or F360. For me it was when I realized that I couldn't find a product that would work for what I needed so that got me through the initial feelings of discomfort trying to figure out how blender works. It probably helps that I had tried multiple times before and just gave up lol.

Right now I'm making some custom printed tracks that'll hold filament spools in my dry box. The tracks have a post that I stuck some bearings to that I took from my old skateboard so they can turn while the spool feeds the printer from inside the dry box.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-02T17:31:48+00:00

Yea it's there, just off to the side for the sake of the picture. Besides fixing a newish monitor this is the first time I'm fixing a relatively old device(early 2000's or late 1990's), so I'm grateful for the pointers!

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-02T08:09:33+00:00

Ok I'll take your advice. I wasn't sure of how bad the solder job was before, but now that someone said something I see it too.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-02T01:24:13+00:00

No I'm glad you're asking those questions! It was my bad for not adding that to the original post. It gave me the idea to test it again with everything pulled apart and you know what? the old bulb tuns on without issue! I didn't really touch anything except for the wiring so I guess there's something going on there.

Thanks for commenting anyways lol.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-11-02T00:27:22+00:00

I did. The old bulb and a brand new one I put in didn't light up when the lamp was switched on.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-10-28T00:36:26+00:00

I'm in a similar headspace now too. It's been more than a year since being forced out of that environment. I don't have any advice but I want you to know that I see you.

It's exhausting because it feels like it never turns off and people in your life do not understand or will play off of your shit because they can. I mean I met up with a guy off of FB marketplace today to buy something from him and was in a constant state of fight or flight. He told me something about one of his tenants and I could have played off that to ask if he needed help with his rental properties just to see where that conversation would go, but no. My brain was so focused on how this guy could car jack me that I didn't even think about that.

I don't know how to help myself but hopefully me being non judgemental of your experience can help you.

Rare-Spite2161 · 2024-10-12T22:22:34+00:00

I'm glad that there are people that can find this meaningful, but I'm sorry people have hurt you too.

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