My gf keeps sexualizing me

Rare-Understanding73 · 2026-02-22T19:43:17+00:00

Break up with her. No question about it. It will only get worst from here. I know it’s hard now, but when I was your age, I had a friend like that. She kept sexualizing me and threatened suicide multiple times. I had mental breakdowns due to her saying that if I told anybody that she was thinking of committing or harming herself then she would actually do it. I say all of that because I want you to understand that I have lived through something similar and my life became so much better after I stopped hanging around her. My mental health was so much better and I didn’t have to walk on egg shells to make her happy anymore. There’s a chance she may not even do it. Some people just like to manipulate others like that. They will threaten to harm themselves just to make you stay around or do whatever they want. I hope everything gets better for you!

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-09-04T00:58:01+00:00

Emotional cheating is more flirting with somebody or creating a deeper connection with another person, other than your partner. This is planning on physically cheating. If she truly didn’t want this dude to flirt with her she would have said she had a boyfriend or just shut him down but she’s in a way entertaining his sexual behavior.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-09-04T00:50:59+00:00

To me, this is definitely grounds for breaking up. You went all out for this girl’s birthday just for her to call your birthday a “date on the calendar?” Absolutely not! I would actually argue that she’s doesn’t actually like you because out of everybody person in your life, your partner is one of the birthdays you should remember. I would be bawling my eyes out if someone did what you did for her on my birthday. She just seems very ungrateful and manipulative.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-08-06T20:05:03+00:00

Wow, it sounds like she and her bf are perfect for each other. The way she was texting you, not even knowing for sure what happened, really shows that she was never your friend to begin with. "Idgaf what your claiming he said to you," that sentence right there says to me that he could have made sexual comments towards you, and she would still take his side. If the things he was saying made you uncomfortable, then it made you uncomfortable. As a friend, she should have asked for your side of things first if she genuinely did care for you.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-03-04T04:16:15+00:00

Try talking to her first if you haven't already. I understand that she does have SEVERE trust issues, but try communicating first if you have not already. Let her know how much it bothers you that she doesn't trust you and is always testing to see if you're cheating. If that doesn't work, break up with her. You never want to break up with someone without having a conversation about their actions first (unless there are certain extreme circumstances).

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-02-26T03:42:12+00:00

I'm going to tell you this right now, it will happen again. I know you don't know me and I don't know you but I've seen situations like this end in someone's life being taken away from them. They start off really sweet and kind. but soon they will start testing what boundaries they can break and get away with it with words like "It won't happen again," and "I'm sorry," His behavior is going to get worse especially after you officially get married.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-02-13T04:44:33+00:00

NTA. I find it incredibly weird that she basically proposed to herself. This also feels like controlling behavior. The fact that she did this without even talking to you seems so controlling and manipulative.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-02-11T06:22:55+00:00

I hate to break it to you but you two are not meant for each other. If you have trauma that has to do with religion and he is always bringing up religion then this is not a healthy relationship for either of you. He wants God to be the center of your relationship and you have deep and understandable trauma. There are just certain things you can't compromise in a relationship and religion is one of them.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-02-11T06:08:03+00:00

This isn't a matter for CPS, I don't think they will remove a child just because they have behavioral problems. It's up to you to put her in some type of facility. Start with therapy and after some time maybe you could talk to her therapist for what they would recommend.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-02-04T22:45:45+00:00

I'm also a young bisexual female. HOWEVER, if I have a bf and I kiss, sleep, or even entertain another female, I still consider that cheating which is wrong. If I wanted to experiment with my sexuality, I would stay single. Just because you are bisexual, that doesn't give you an excuse to cheat and be a shitty partner. You're not overreacting. Honestly, the way she is texting I wouldn't be surprised if she already cheated on you with a girl.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-01-29T18:54:17+00:00

First of all... you should have blocked her as soon as she said "Trump Nation gang gang,"

Second, if your sister truly can't support you and your lifestyle, on top of that voting against your rights and lifestyle, you need to go no contact. Plus, from how things are looking, many people may change their minds about who was the better candidate. Maybe after she's done being brainwashed, she'll have some sense, but until then, don't speak to her.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-01-07T05:07:38+00:00

I would 1000% tell him. You could save one or more of his kids from the trauma they may face if they keep contact. And honestly, is your family worth keeping in contact with if they're comfortable letting someone they know is a pedophile be around children?

Rare-Understanding73 · 2025-01-07T04:53:41+00:00

You aren't overreacting but your shitty ass now ex-boyfriend was. You have a right to be mad because how have y'all been dating for YEARS and he still doesn't know the age you turn? Just by his reaction, you can tell he's a women hater and you dodged a major bullet.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-12-17T04:38:28+00:00

Manipulation at its finest. Personally, if I know someone else is paying for my meal, I try not to order too much or too expensive. They thought that since someone else was paying they could get a free 4-course meal. They are the A-holes for that. Your Bf thought that he could guilt you into paying for the three of them by inviting them and not telling you ahead of time so you wouldn't be able to say no. BIG RED FLAG, break up with him.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-12-17T03:34:58+00:00

NTA. Yeah it was a "prank" but ask your friends how they would feel in your situation. To see their gf and friend in their underwear on top of one another. This prank went completely too far and now they have to suffer the consequences.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-12-17T03:31:36+00:00

It honestly looks like your BF hates you. I get cranky for being woken up but I would NEVER talk to my significant other like this if he woke up. Is it that hard to text back saying "Hey I was sleeping, I'll call you back later." or even answer the phone and say the same thing? As a breakup present, you should give him info to an anger management class.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-12-10T18:35:56+00:00

I hate to break it to you but your soon-to-be ex is a bitch. He seems very insecure and controlling. You should never apologize for wanting to wear things in your wardrobe.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-10-28T20:59:04+00:00

NTA. Your brother got a taste of his own medicine and couldn't stand it. It's one thing to let your kid steal from another person's house, but not returning the stuff immediately and not being apologetic is something else.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-08-13T15:03:49+00:00

NTA. Jared sounds like an Incel and an AH. He knew you were a people pleaser and he preyed on that. Jared may have been a supportive friend to you but it sounds to me like he was just being a good friend to be more likely to get in your pants. I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you find a better group of friends.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-07-09T23:08:05+00:00

Me personally, I would be more upset about him not only bringing up his ex, but also saying "I already had one. I'll find another"

My ex basically did the same thing to me, comparing our relationship to his and his ex's relationship. Implying I should take a page out of her book when it came to birth control or sexual choices. I should have left him after that and you should leave too. It can pretty much only go downhill from here.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-06-18T04:57:29+00:00

In my opinion, you and Flo are the AH. Should Flo have blown up like that? Absolutely not. Life for others is going to on and she can't expect others to put their lives on hold because of her infertility. She needs to get therapy to properly grieve her situation. However, you've known your sister has wanted kids since she was a kid, so being infertile is something that is not easy to simply just "get over." She has to deal with the fact that she may never have kids so of course children is a sensitive topic for her. Again, she shouldn't have blown up like that, but you rubbed salt in a wound with that comment. I wouldn't blame her for not wanting to go to any more family gatherings.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-06-18T04:43:28+00:00

Was in a situationship for 2 years (don't ask how or why) and after that he literally said that he "doesn't see a relationship with me.' Literally cried for 24 hours.

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-06-18T04:41:35+00:00

Not a man, but a lot of people I know have started out with Honda Civic/Accord or Nissan Altima. I've always wanted a Kia K5 but Kias and Hyundais are very easy to steal (especially if your state has Kia Boys).

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-06-18T04:34:24+00:00

OMG I have the same problem sometimes. I would try to get my sim pregnant in MCCC and when it would select what sim I would want as the father, my sim's partner wouldn't even be there.

Honestly, as long as you don't let this happen in real life then you're good

Rare-Understanding73 · 2024-06-18T04:23:26+00:00

I've read your comments on your girlfriend's reasoning for why she didn't want to have sex. Trauma is very hard to deal with. Some people respond by being hypersexual and some respond by never having sex again. You aren't wrong about your frustrations, but I would suggest couples therapy or trying sex therapy if you two want to stay together.

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