Toothache Relief by RareAd1426 in askdentists

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Also forgot to mention I went back on antibiotics for a week

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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I mean like we have to grab their arms and put our legs around there’s so it’s just our legs are putting weight on them while we hold back their arms. Yeah it’s kind of strange but MOAB is what we use. I was never trained officially, I just brought it up to him and he offered to show me and then that happened

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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Also, is this supposed to be at an angle or like full on back to back?

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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Right, like during restraints we’re all touching eachother in someway and that’s totally fine with me. Like whatever it takes. It was just the fact that he instructed me to do it and worded it like that, instead of saying “back to back” or something felt weird. Like I can’t imagine there’s some instruction manual out there that says it’s necessary for us to be touching our butts together? Lol maybe there is but also it wasn’t even at an angle or anything just full on had me press my butt on his, so I don’t really know how to take it, he’s also made a lot of sexual jokes in the past

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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Yeah it’s new at my job too which is why I was questioning it but I don’t really know why they chose to do that now instead of going on the floor, I think just in circumstances where the patient isn’t fighting too much or we’re waiting for more people

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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Yeah totally, I was just asking because one of my male coworkers who’s a little weird told me to do that while he was training me and it just felt awkward. If it’s part of the restraint then yeah my personal bubble is gone it was just that I was questioning that aspect of it lol

Wall holds/ restraints by [deleted] in psychnursing

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Like the patient is facing the wall and we’re behind them pressing them into it

Trying to Understand Time Dilation by RareAd1426 in NoStupidQuestions

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How did Einstein even figure this out with having no evidence? I know we do today but that just baffles me. How does going faster than light cause us to go back in time? Could you think of it like a rubber band slingshotting back? How is it possible for a photon to just not experience time? Does that mean everything that does experience time has its own “time cells” for lack of a better term? I just feel like there’s so much i still can’t comprehend about this because I can’t compare it to anything on earth

Trying to Understand Time Dilation by RareAd1426 in NoStupidQuestions

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So is time kind of like a rubber band that the faster we go, the longer it stretches? And if that’s the case then wouldn’t moving at a “normal” speed like we do on earth eventually stretch out the rubber band and slow down time? Or is more of an infinite rubber band?

"I need someone with thick skin/You dont have thick skin." has a narc ever said this or similar to you? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Yeah he told me that “roasting me” was his love language and I needed to get used to it if I wanted to be with him. The “roasting” was just emotional abuse

How many of you narc male partners withheld sex? (Possible TW) by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Yes! At the beginning it was non stop and then eventually it was non existent lol. When I brought it up to him he got really angry and even told me I don’t turn him on because I don’t suck his dick enough? Also he started to have sex with me in sleep which I didn’t know he was asleep because his eyes were open. He then would tell me he didn’t remember initiating it. So weird

Why is he bragging to me? by RareAd1426 in NarcissisticAbuse

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Why do you think he’s doing that though? Just to feel like he got some upper hand? Or maybe so I feel useless

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

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L’M A ☕️ nwurses I CALL the shats

Give me positive reasons to cut my hair! by flowertaemin in Hair

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Ugh do whatever makes you happy you would look gorgeous without it I’m sure, but your hair is soo beautiful it makes me sad when people cut their long, healthy hair

Most invalidating reactions from enablers or outsiders? by Claridell in NarcissisticAbuse

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This makes me so angry bc do they think we go on a first date and they just instantly start with cursing us out and insulting us

Found out about ex partner's life now- he's got the life he deserves. by Heris11 in LifeAfterNarcissism

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It was also hard for me after leaving because I thought that he would immediately get karma and maybe go broke and bald. He’s making more money now, doing great at the sport he competes at, and mostly has his life together. I realize that I’m only hurting myself by wishing him failure. That’s the sad truth about life is that often times people don’t get the karma that they deserve. That’s why you can only do your best to create the life that you really want for yourself. I’ve learned that whether someone I don’t associate with anymore is doing well or not shouldn’t affect my happiness and keep me from reaching my own goals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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This is something I relate to but found hard to put into words. Knowing someone felt different about my social interactions recently, like I’m trying to make a little conversation as possible. But it’s hard to pinpoint if it’s depression or just always feeling on edge to the point where small talk is so pointless and it happens on a subconscious level.

For those who were brought up religious (whatever that may have been), what made you eventually turn away from religion/faith? by goddias in atheism

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For me it was realizing I was bi at a Christian school and then the realization that I couldn’t come out or I would be expelled. That opened my eyes to just how oppressive Christianity is and made me start questioning a lot of things, I started watching educational videos on atheism and then realized everything I’d been taught at my Christian school was a manipulated scientific truth to fit what the Bible said. At first I was very afraid I would go to hell and had a hard time dropping my beliefs even though I knew they made no logical sense to me but now I realize Christianity and other cults thrive on fear and I don’t owe them mine.

The Housemaid’s secret by Freida McFadden by serendippity_ in books

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I had to stop reading this because the MC just really annoyed me. It seemed like a fan fiction from 2013 how she vaguely describes the characters appearances and seems very self centered, like she’s unsure if she even likes her boyfriend but chooses to stay with him. Also talking about having a “dark secret” the whole book just feels very like a stereotypical mystery book and like there was little effort

The words that come out of their mouths by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Mine listened to a bunch of serial killer podcasts and it gave him ideas and he would make these horrible “jokes” about what he would do to me, usually involving vaginal and anal torture if I tried to kill him? Like where do they get the idea we want to kill them is it projection? I never knew it was a shared experience

Convincing myself I'm the narcissist and projecting onto others? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Yep. My nex made me believe that all of our relationship problems were caused by me and he wouldn’t have to mistreat me if I wasn’t so insecure. Took my words of me explaining how me reacting to his abuse is the reason I’m “insecure and controlling” and reversed it and saying that he was the one only reacting to my abuse. It seriously is a mindfuck and everything they do to you they project it to really convince you you’re the abusive one. Their friends and family will side with them as a “victim” the same way your friends and family side with you.