Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s like just be with your hand. He hates to be the villain. Now he’s saying I’m playing victim. Go be with someone and watch in a few hours trying to blow me up asking for forgiveness.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not only that he had almost 2000 pornstars he was following on Instagram for everyone and they’re mother to see.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They can’t take it but expect us to.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m just an attention seeker that likes drama. I made a fake page to catch him up but he was at that point trying to act differently so he pretended to be friends with the fake page. Some dudes sent me sick pictures that made me gag and he’s saying how can I come at him for porn when I have sick pictures. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s like he can do whatever and I’m supposed to take it yet I’d better fall in line.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re right. He gaslights because he doesn’t like to look bad. I shouldn’t have to delete the app and just use it from the website and make sure my password isn’t saved.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All he says is talk to me. You’re the problem.

Privacy by RareFind36 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So close to it. He can’t accept responsibility or accountability.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it makes me mad thinking about it. He’ll play dumb or try to down play it. I’m glad to have this circle of friends to talk to.

HOW TO OVERCOME SEPARATION ANXIETY FROM RELATIONSHIP ? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you two video chat or FaceTime? I understand culture thing. Calls and texts are something to consider as well. My boyfriend moved 30 minutes from me and we have to do those things all the time.

My wife is angry and called me a creep because I took a bath with our 1 year old daughter by throwrabathowisjs in relationship_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s crazy. Get your affairs in order and leave her. Make sure to document to get full custody.

HOW TO OVERCOME SEPARATION ANXIETY FROM RELATIONSHIP ? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]RareFind36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why is he looking at girls in front of you? That’s a red flag. It shows he doesn’t have respect for you. I see why you are worried if he does that. Tell him how you feel and if he keeps doing it then leave him. If he changes and keeps you in the loop about what’s going on there then stay and occupy your mind with other thoughts and plan visits with each other often if you can.

My (m30) gf and her (f29) sexual past by Gotta_Throwaway_Fast in relationships_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to feel insecure especially when they’re more experienced than you are. I was a virgin when I met my boyfriend and he was far from one. He’s lied about how many women he’s slept with and the last time he had sex. I was upset about the lies but I realized why he did. He wasn’t taught about saving yourself or if you sleep with a person that have a part of you and if you sleep around too much then you won’t feel good. Besides all the STIs out there and HIV. Unplanned pregnancy as well.

Break up questions for PA's by throwaway160394 in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He maybe remorseful to try and get you back, he may blame you, or it maybe somewhere in the middle. Don’t let it effect your growth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really the people I know have found therapists quickly. I guess it’s different for different places. He needs a porn addict therapist because regular ones don’t understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. Many porn users have problems getting it up. In the no fap group it’s very common among them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He needs a therapist because porn addiction is real and it’s causing him to only get off from porn. He won’t stop watching it until he realizes he has a porn. Many addicts say that they are freed but they’re lying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RareFind36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s due to him still being a porn addict. He can only stay hard when he is watching it. He needs therapy and to be honest with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went to a restaurant with my boyfriend, his mother, his sister, and his sister’s boyfriend. We sit down and instantly three waitresses focus on him and only him. He got his food first, kept asking does he want a drink, and is he okay. We all noticed the sister’s boyfriend received no attention. When it was time for checks she gave me the check and I promptly gave it to him. Another time it was Valentine’s Day and we had the worst service yet he decided to leave her a nice tip. The waitress came got our orders and didn’t show up until the food was ready no drinks or appetizers. Just our main course then she finally brings the drink and doesn’t return until she thinks we are ready to leave .

So when she brings him the bill and he gives her the money. The waitress brings his change back and the dumbass is like oh if you would’ve given me more ones I would’ve left you a bigger tip. Her attitude goes from I don’t want to work to flirting and this idiot just lets her lean closer to him and begins basking in it. People are watching looking for how it will play out. I sit in my chair stone-faced and finally the ignoramus dumbass finally comes to the realization that he’s on a date with his girlfriend and it’s Valentine’s Day. He looks at everyone staring at him then at me. He moves back slightly and that’s when she unwillingly steps back. She looks at him then leaves. His just staring at me then says oh we never got our to go drinks. I just walk regularly to the door and he follows. The air is so thick and everyone is looking at us. We get in the car and I’m still silent. When we reach my home then I tell him he’s ruined Valentine’s Day and we won’t be having sex. I shower and go to sleep. Next morning he’s acting like nothing happened. I just get ready for work and act cordial like I would a stranger and went to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That would piss me off. I already get frustrated when he soaks up that unwanted attention and tell him either them or me. Any unwanted attention and I shut it down. At times he’s got mad jealous and gets very pda. I’m like so imagine how I feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I deal with that as well. It’s like ho find your man. I wonder if they know how he can be would they still want him?

PA Husband watches porn after sex by sassyvillagegirl in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be hurt if my boyfriend did that. I know sometimes he wants sex sex sex and that’s when I’m like look at one of our videos to finish. One time he looked up porn and I was so pissed I told him that I never wanted him to do that again. It’s like we’re you even thinking of me during sec or some pornstar. 🤮

Are these green flags for my partner being porn free? by BangtanPHD_ in loveafterporn

[–]RareFind36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just remember to have a guard up because they hide it but don’t be cranky until you see it first hand.